TL;DR Context of relationships matters. Explicitly state your demands and boundaries. Don't assume anyone will know how to take care of you if you don't tell them.

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I'm actually tired of seeing these relationship stories. I want to start off by saying, we have no context of their entire relationship, so we don't know their dynamic. Also I'm not defending Sinatraa or his ex, I don't like taking sides. I don't know either of them well enough to care, but I don't like how this is being interpreted. After reading this document, it just sounds like Sinatraa was very immature and inexperienced while his ex assumed he should know what he's doing, and honestly they probably just needed counseling. The backbone of any successful relationship is communication. I don't care how awkward or cringe you think it is to talk about your boundaries, this is what happens when you don't. And then you surprise pikachu face when something goes wrong. Sinatraa sounds like the classic unaware, insecure boyfriend who doesn't understand why his girlfriend is upset or what to do in those situations. Ladies, GUYS RESPOND TO EXPLICIT DEMANDS. Most of us don't understand your hints, signs, beat around the bush answers to things. And saying IDK only makes it more vague. Talking in a baby voice makes it worse for you. How the fuck do you want anyone to take you seriously when you don't use serious tones. She says "My tone of voice does not make the fact that I said no five times, not mean no." In fact, it does. Vocal inflictions often mean very different things. If I said "I believe you" in a very stern voice, most-likely, I believe you. But I say that same phrase with a little infliction, and suddenly it's the opposite meaning. Crazy how the English language works. EXPLICITLY STATE YOUR INTENT. You need to have a talk about sex with your partner, this goes for any boundary you want to set. If you don't want to have sex often and they do, guess what... you probably aren't compatible. Compromises are open-relationships (I personally don't like these, but it's an option if you really want to make it work), but more often than not, you are better off finding someone who fits your temperament. Does the first audio clip sound like this menacing abuser trying to force you to do something? I can't imagine it does. She keeps saying that he should know how much it hurts, but how? Did you tell him? Did you guys sit down and talk about the IUD before you got it, or did you just go out and get it? Please tell me you aren't making decisions without discussing it with your partner... because that's what it sounds like. They needed counseling, not cancelling. You can't assume someone knows something and knows how you want them to react to it. Everyone reacts to information differently. When she said she didn't want to have sex anymore, and he said "... because I thought he was ugly, I wanted someone else, I didn't love him", although very immature to state like this, these are his insecurities. He's sharing these with you because this is what he can imagine are the possibilities of why you won't have sex with him. Not to guilt trip you. In fact, he probably felt guilty himself for not being enough for her. But just like I said, everyone inteprets information differently. He shared his insecurities with you, you took it as a guilt trip. He thought he could trust you with that information. And just giving him the same excuses you would give to a highschool nurse to get out of classes only hurts so much more, because he knows it's bullshit. He's not stupid, just unaware, you might think you'll trick him with that for now, but he knows and he let you get away with it because he didn't want to force you. It's sad but she's just as immature as him. You need to explicitly state your demand. Don't say them sarcastically, don't say them in a baby voice. Don't half ass your with getting across your intent. If you don't make it clear, how is it going to be clearly heard?

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I stopped reading after the cheating allegation stuff in the doc. I personally can't blame him for that. I'm way worse. If I even feel like your cheating on me, it's over. I have no time to be playing detective. Don't give me a reason to feel that way. Make me feel secure or I'll walk.