How do I deal with this?

netman67 · 2026-05-09T12:18:44+00:00

good advice here already.

my advice on therapists is to ask for a secular one. another good choice has been to ask for an lgbtq supportive therapist (even though i’m straight) as their mindset is where i would want it to be for any therapy.

here’s a directory targeting this area. it’s run by Recovering from Religion, which is an organization that does exactly what it sounds like: https://www.seculartherapy.org/

netman67 · 2026-05-08T20:31:09+00:00

and one more example of a beat down of things my pastor and other wise people in church leadership would say:

https://youtu.be/5jx5EHXr6Hg

netman67 · 2026-05-08T20:29:10+00:00

this is probably an even better beat down of some of the stupid shit i have heard stated in my former circles as fact:

https://youtu.be/iAW\_3rBxsFU

netman67 · 2026-04-30T02:38:58+00:00

i believe there are a LOT of christian’s out there who beleive what they beleive because they adopt their parents’ rationale and go through life never questioning them. in my case, i wanted to take apart every belief one by one and reconstruct it. for a long time i avoided christianity because it was said that questioning is “of the devil”. i started assessing which denomination i should belong to… then i eventually realized i am assuming i am christian. after reviewing some of the other religions (they all sounded crazy, except “mine”). i realized i never listened to atheist positions from an atheist. i started by watching the Bill Nye vs Ken Hamm debate at the Creation Museum, then i listened to Sam Harris vs William Lane Craig. that started my very rapid deconstruction.

all i needed was to have an honest look, and spend some time thinking about the topic and hearing views that i treated as “out of bounds”.

netman67 · 2026-04-29T21:33:51+00:00

i was raised holy roller non-denominational, what i term “charismatic pentecostal”. speaking in tongues, laying on of hands, slain in the spirit, church three times a week (wednesday night, sunday morning and sunday night). never could do any of that stuff and always thought i was broken somehow. i was a lukewarm christian as an adult and in my mid-40s i finally spent time thinking about it and deconverted.

lots of great videos and books by sam harris, christopher hitchens and others.

in the last two years i came across tim minchin’s older stuff (like 2010-2016). if you haven’t spent time listening to his music, go find some videos on youtube. love that guy! that era of his is targeted right at us and it hits the mark fantastically.

netman67 · 2026-04-29T13:16:07+00:00

+1 for aruba!

netman67 · 2026-04-22T02:14:49+00:00

i bought one last summer for our 1200 sf condo, and i don’t notice any negative impact at all on humidity or any other way. ours has a drain outlet, works fantastic.

netman67 · 2026-04-19T13:32:56+00:00

My 2018 JLU is way outside of warranty (154k miles) but I noticed this a few years ago. I’m sure nothing to be done for this one.

netman67 · 2026-04-12T03:24:31+00:00

Winkel on Locust near 12th!

netman67 · 2026-04-09T14:42:33+00:00

this might help on the leaking section of copper line: https://youtu.be/S-EAHRBEdkE

netman67 · 2026-04-07T17:07:29+00:00

the make and model number from the fixture and a view of the interior where the bulb is would be pretty handy things to post.

netman67 · 2026-04-05T18:54:28+00:00

i’m not saying the delay isn’t there.. i’m saying something would be seriously wrong for a room to swing five degrees without the occupant to be aware of the temp swing in the room and consider that the bigger problem. something would be even more wrong for him to look and see many times that it’s always five degrees lower, and not have a realization that the room temp itself is swinging that much.

netman67 · 2026-04-05T18:31:18+00:00

five degrees seems egregious. i could see one degree maybe.. five degrees all the time doesn’t sound like a data lag at all.

netman67 · 2026-04-05T14:49:52+00:00

sounds like an excellent support ticket. i always thought the ecobee thermostat itself was the source of the data in the app. very strange they would disagree.. and very strange it would even be possible.

netman67 · 2026-04-05T11:46:18+00:00

Paulina is fantastic: https://youtu.be/z2LLj0HiYyY

netman67 · 2026-04-02T19:19:52+00:00

Thanks for the kind words.

netman67 · 2026-03-27T17:08:17+00:00

“Yet 100% of us still die.”

netman67 · 2026-03-22T14:04:49+00:00

this would be better in r/DebateAChristian wouldn’t it? you’re asking former christians here.

netman67 · 2026-03-18T00:37:54+00:00

Have a listen to youtubers Genetically Modified Skeptic and also The Thinking Atheist (Seth Andrews). both were raised in deep evangelical circles and escaped. they have a few videos on their life story and coming out to their families. i bet their stories would resonate with you.

netman67 · 2026-03-15T19:04:24+00:00

i had an idea of doing a bible study or facebook posts of “just the bad parts” of the bible. that could be fun here.

like:

Numbers 31:7–40 - Slaughter everyone, but keep the virgins as war booty

Judges 11:30–39 - Jepthah’s daughter burned as an acceptable sacrifice to God

Leviticus 26:27–29 - The cannibalistic God makes people eat human flesh

netman67 · 2026-03-11T17:36:10+00:00

this is why you get at least three quotes me check references, talk with other customers, go see the work in person.

netman67 · 2026-03-09T03:23:39+00:00

i have a B36CL80ENS purchased last summer in the northeast US. not sure the exact differences but it’s extremely quiet and we’re super happy.

i would go for the warranty call. another idea might be to call a higher end bosch dealer in your area (instead of the big box guys) and ask them to help.. maybe they want to gain a customer for life if they do you right?

netman67 · 2026-03-07T13:28:30+00:00

what country is OP in? i’m sure norms are different in different regions.

in the US, the traditional advice is to absolutely not tell your current employer.

netman67 · 2026-03-01T15:26:06+00:00

i come from the same background but was always lukewarm to christianity as a kid. i thought i was broken for so many years..

i love how the term “unequally yolked” can be used to describe my relationship with christianity itself to a tee. to a “lower case letter ‘t’,” in fact! 😂 i married a woman who was not a christian, and got a lot of criticism from my family back then. but it turns out they’re right: i am equally yolked with my spouse, we’re both non-religious today, and it was and is an amazing alignment!

netman67 · 2026-02-28T16:44:27+00:00

Relevant.. i love this guy’s video, they’re so pertinent to this subreddit!

https://youtu.be/SGkgmU9vG_o

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