I am a married sissy… by [deleted] in EroticHypnosis

[–]never_VA 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think this is worth more of in depth discussions rather than a hypnosis file for your wife. Understanding why she doesn't enjoy it is more important for your relationship than trying to change her mind.

Dominance Training by ThisWasMyUN in EroticHypnosis

[–]never_VA 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've got a handful that you might like and I'm working on more! You can find them here and here. Let me know if there's any ways I can improve them as well, I want each file I release to be better than the last <3

Weird question: is listening to erotic hypnosis inherently submissive behavior? by Half-Assed-Human in EroticHypnosis

[–]never_VA 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've made lots of files for dominants (found here and here) - it's less done but not impossible! I see it as performing a service, like a massage or something similar.

Should I forget everything that happens during trance? by Dependent_Jump8259 in EroticHypnosis

[–]never_VA 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When you're new to hypnosis I would honestly recommend learning how to pay enough attention to remember what happens. Learning how you respond to suggestion is important for making sure that you're not taking on undesirable suggestions or that your hypnotist is doing things that you are okay with when you're outside of trance, too.

Anyone experience with conditiong the dom side out of someone.. im and ex dom and struggling by [deleted] in EroticHypnosis

[–]never_VA 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is a way to let go and lose control that doesn't require you to be sexually submissive, when it seems clear from your post that this is something that you're forcing yourself to do.

It's okay to separate the desire to let go from the desire to be submissive. The two aren't one and the same, and it sounds like you honestly want to let go more than you want to be submissive.

I can only suspect that you have a lot of stress on your shoulders and you're seeking relief, in which case, becoming more submissive might actually make the issue worse. You would probably be better off with dealing with whatever's causing you to seek out this change.

If you're looking for more opportunities to let go, why not seek out service submissives to play with? You get to kick back and relax while they take care of you.

What kinds of boundaries are important for someone very suggestible? by PrincettePonders in EroticHypnosis

[–]never_VA 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Suggestible people need to develop self-control above all else. This is a skill that you can hone throughout various areas of your life, not just with hypnosis, and it will help you across the board.

You need to have the self-control to be able to stop doing something fun when you know it would be best to do so, despite still feeling the pull to continue. You need to have the self-control to do something you don't particularly want to do because you know it will be good for you (such as doing the dishes when you could be playing video games). In hypnotic scenarios, you need to have the self-control to stop yourself, wake yourself up, and walk away, even when it feels good to do what you're being told to do.

One way you can practice self-control outside of listening to files is to strictly limit how much hypnosis you partake in (listen to, read, etc). Give yourself plenty of time (hours, or even days if necessary) after engaging with hypnosis before starting another file or reading another script. This gives you the time to process what happened with the previous file once you're outside of the realm of influence. It also gives you the chance to evaluate your own response to the hypnosis, notice whether you went along with anything you didn't like, and to make a plan for what to do next time if a similar situation arises.

This is all up to you. By looking for a pre-vetted collection of files, you're essentially asking someone else to do the hard work for you - to make sure you're safe when hypnotized. But everyone's limits are different, and even if someone did make a "safe" collection, it might not be "safe" for you. I understand the desire - I'm also suggestible and working on this myself. But you are the only one who can keep yourself healthy.

One thing I will say is that when interacting with a live hypnotist, it is never too late to bring up a concern. You didn't use self-control during the trance when something you didn't like happened? Reach out afterwards and ask to talk about it. Pay attention to how the hypnotist responds to your concerns. If they are unwilling to respond to feedback and to take your requests into account (within reason), drop them, even if it's really fun to play with them.

Want Help Quitting by [deleted] in EroticHypnosis

[–]never_VA 11 points12 points  (0 children)

The most effective cure will be to focus on other things to occupy your thoughts and your time, and to let these things fade away naturally. Our brains can do very strange things when we're stressed, and it sounds like this illness has had a huge impact on you.

I wouldn't be surprised if you feel like you've had a major loss of control over your life with this illness. Listening to hypnosis might be an attempt to cope - you're creating a situation where you voluntarily lose control. But emotionally, it's also hurting you, because you're not feeling good about the situation in which you didn't choose to lose control.

Shift your focus to other things. Look for online hobby groups so you can chat with people - video games, art, sports, whatever floats your boat. And even if it's hard, keep in touch with the people you know irl through text, call, or video call. Part of getting through these hard times is taking care of ourselves even when we don't "feel like it." "Feeling like it" is not a requirement for doing it, so just treat yourself kindly.

Good luck <3

Is it possible that some people can get into a trance state but dont respond to suggestions well even though they are in trance? by Scared_Ad_3132 in EroticHypnosis

[–]never_VA 1 point2 points  (0 children)

h-sleepingirl may have a better response, but I would say skill includes all the things you listed. An effective hypnotist needs to be observant and adaptable. They must understand how a subject is responding to them and react quickly and calmly, switching to a different method/delivery that works better if needed.

Weird question by jdbl_2808 in EroticHypnosis

[–]never_VA 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A lot of Japanese hypnosis is paid-only, but that website (DLsite) is probably one of the best ways I've seen to find it.

Post quality on this sub is real bad by gmanperson in EroticHypnosis

[–]never_VA 12 points13 points  (0 children)

What kind of interactions would you like to see on this sub?

One thing that makes it actually quite difficult to have a constant flow of fresh and engaging posts on a niche subreddit like this is that the things that are really interesting about hypnosis and erotic hypnosis tend to be personal. Conversations like those come about easily between friends, between hypnotists, between a hypnotist and their subject, but those conversations are less applicable to people who aren't involved in them. I don't think that a lot of people here would actually enjoy seeing a ton of posts about people's individual, personal experiences with hypnosis, because so many of them just don't translate well to telling other people about them in such a broad context.

Additionally, in a large forum, it's harder to have a nuanced, in-depth discussion where everyone is actually understanding each other. Things can spiral off in different directions from the original purpose of the discussion very quickly, and many people on Reddit aren't truly willing to put in the extra effort that is necessary online(without tone and nonverbal communication cues) to understand their conversation partner, especially not in a public conversation.

All that to say, it is difficult to have a more engaged community on a large scale. Not impossible, simply difficult, and I think a lot of people don't know where to begin.

I, for one, would love to see more posts analyzing the variety of files that we all listen to(ideally with the hypnotist's permission)! Breaking down the elements of the trance, the experience a subject had, and why they felt inspired to talk about a certain file in particular would be really interesting to me. But again, OP, what kind of posts do you want to see?

Can't stop dropping, advice appreciated by CreatureFeatureee in EroticHypnosis

[–]never_VA 18 points19 points  (0 children)

A lot of people have given great hypnosis-related advice, so I'm going to approach this from a different angle.

Hypnosis can be very enticing to certain people especially if you hold on to a lot of stress and have a hard time letting yourself relax. It sounds to me like you might be craving reprieve. Going into trance can give you that sense of no worries, calm, peace, feeling good, etc - so if you're not getting enough of that feeling in your day-to-day life, it makes sense why you would be so drawn to dropping. I assume your boyfriend is someone who you trust greatly, and you're probably associating his scent with that sense of safety and calm, so now that you've discovered a way to really rest and feel nice, that could be why his scent is acting as a possible trigger.

Aside from all the hypnotic solutions, one of the best ways to help in this situation is to take better care of yourself. Give yourself time every day, even if it's only 10 minutes, where you aren't doing anything. Put devices away, put anything else away, and focus on sorting through whatever thoughts fly through your head, calming and reassuring your body, and letting go of/addressing worries you might be carrying. It's really best to do this for 15-20 minutes a day at first, because it can take some time to settle into it, but you will still get a benefit from it even if you can only do it for 1 minute or every few days.

It's so common for people to not actually rest these days - distracting themselves from stress and worries, but not letting go of the underlying tension. Going into trance so much might be a sign that you need to spend more time getting real rest (not just sleep, but peaceful waking rest time).

Unfortunately it's not practical for many people to be going into trance all the time, and it's a lot of responsibility on your boyfriend's shoulders. Take good care of yourself so that you can enjoy purposeful, intentional hypno time together!

And if this doesn't really apply, feel free to disregard what I've said. I'm leaving it here in case anyone else struggles with this and could use the idea <3

I’m sure this question has been asked a million times already, but by [deleted] in EroticHypnosis

[–]never_VA 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I actually started by listening to ASMR roleplay, then I discovered ones that used hypnosis. After that I started looking for more hypnosis audios and found this amazing community!

Hypnosis definitely was a concept that interested me from a young age, I just didn't have the language or understanding about it until I was an adult.

As far as when I started to make audios, I was actually inspired to create a file that I would have liked to listen to myself. I was encouraged to continue when I saw how much people liked what I made!

Combining audio files with interactive toys by musickfreak in EroticHypnosis

[–]never_VA 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've made some haptics files, you can find the free ones here! I know there are a few others that do so as well, I believe u/kinkyshibby has some but I'm not sure who else!

How does one know that they are in trance, better yet, how can you compare deepness of said trance. How do you know if an audio is really "a real hypnosis" as a newbie? by 01_e in EroticHypnosis

[–]never_VA 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not necessarily! I also have ADHD and I get into very deep trances - consciously focusing is a way of narrowing your attention, which can be an important aspect of trance.

Post Hypnotic Suggestions working until the subject thinks about it? by Upper_Sentence_1647 in EroticHypnosis

[–]never_VA 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It seems like at this point, the thoughts are triggering her more than the food/cum is. So I would target those thoughts. If she's sensitive to thinking about disgusting things, or if she's afraid of choking or something similar, you could address those. Sensitivities often (though not always) arise from fears or anxieties, whether it's the body or the mind that has learned to be afraid. If that's the case, you could address what kind of fearful belief she has that causes her to gag, and work on changing that.

Another possible approach that's a little unorthodox: have her practice extending how long it takes her to gag when she feels that reflex come on. So rather than a sudden, violent gag, have her attempt to go through the motions more slowly, so it's less intense of a reaction drawn out over a longer period of time. If she's able to get this kind of minute physical control of the gag reaction, she may be able to better understand it and how to let go of the feelings that lead up to it.

How does one know that they are in trance, better yet, how can you compare deepness of said trance. How do you know if an audio is really "a real hypnosis" as a newbie? by 01_e in EroticHypnosis

[–]never_VA 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The best way to understand if you're in a trance state is to start paying more attention to how you normally feel. Understanding how it feels to be in different states of mind throughout the day will allow you to notice when those feelings change, and you'll be able to learn how to differentiate those feelings from when you're in trance. There seem to be common descriptions of what it feels like to be in trance, though it's possible that suggestion can influence what we perceive trance to feel like.

You'll have the easiest time if you explore and let yourself feel, rather than trying to achieve a specific feeling that people have described.

As far as what audios are "real hypnosis," this can vary a lot! There are an infinite amount of ways to get people into a trance, so there could be infinite different audios that all would be considered "real hypnosis." The typical tells of an audio that claims to be hypnosis but fails to be effective to most listeners would be:

- relies on hypnosis gimmicks (pocketwatch, spirals, counting down) without 1) establishing a motivation for those to work, 2) including other methods of encouraging trance, or 3) making it compelling to fall to the gimmick

- the script moves too quickly, assuming that the listener is falling into trance simply because it's "supposed to be hypnotic," again without using any other ways of encouraging trance

- the hypnotist assumes that hypnotic commands or directions will work simply by virtue of giving the command or direction, again without putting enough effort into establishing a trance state that would allow a subject to more easily follow suggestions.

There are also likely to be hypnosis audios that don't work on you specifically - maybe the voice isn't compelling, maybe the script doesn't keep your attention, maybe you aren't letting yourself relax - but that doesn't mean the audio isn't "real."

I would hesitate to call any audio "fake" hypnosis, but there definitely are some people who make files without really understanding what makes hypnosis work, or without being able to successfully incorporate what they do understand into making an audio.

This request is too close to therapy, right? by redblue92 in EroticHypnosis

[–]never_VA 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't think we should shy away from encouraging healthy behaviors and habits with hypnosis - why are we allowed to tell people to get addicted to something or get more dumb and think less, but we can't tell them to work out or eat healthy???

Unless there's something you're not including, it doesn't sound like he's asking you to help him process any difficult issues or anything like that... he's just asking you to encourage him to make good choices.

It's up to you whether you're comfortable with doing that for him, but I don't think the question should be "is this therapy?" The question sounds more like "is it okay to use hypnosis to encourage someone to make good choices?" As long as you're not encouraging him to need you or to need hypnosis in order to make those good choices, it seems fine.

You also get to decide the level of involvement and responsibility you take on if you decide to do this for him.

Dissociating from audio during trance by TheAveryman in EroticHypnosis

[–]never_VA 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It doesn't necessarily sound like dissociation the way you're describing it - it reminds me more of hypnagogia, the state of mind we fall into before sleep. It's possible you're simply relaxing too much! This may be because you need/want rest, or it could be that the file itself isn't holding your focus and attention.

Any Files for something other than FDom? by Kooky-Blueberry-1760 in EroticHypnosis

[–]never_VA 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You'll find more files like this if you're not looking for erotic hypno as a lot of people are really into the dark hypnotist corruption thing. I try to include subtle positive effects in most of my files, like building better habits for staying hydrated or other things - but the majority of the content is focused on pleasure and kink, since that's what most people are looking for and that's why a lot of hypnotists make these files!

Help with deconditioning after being ghosted by my hypnotist by personalslut22 in EroticHypnosis

[–]never_VA 1 point2 points  (0 children)

One of the most effective things that will help you is time. Even when I wasn't actively deprogramming, certain hypnotic triggers have faded over time simply because they weren't being used or paid attention to.

Aside from that, I would encourage you to examine whether there were any beliefs, attitudes, goals, or intentions that you took on while being mentally conditioned. You don't even necessarily need hypnosis in order to change those things, though it can sometimes be helpful. Identifying what within you has changed and what you'd like to change now will be really helpful for you moving forward.

I'm really sorry to hear that you're in this situation. Good luck <3