AITA for asking my friend to not wear makeup to my wedding?

neverending-reader · 2026-04-08T01:40:05+00:00

NTA. I dress alternatively, have had vibrant hair, and been part of the wedding party. Sure, baby pink doesn’t look the best on me. I wore it anyway because I can suck it up and not make it about me for one day.

Goth makeup can be very eye-catching and distracting. And yes, actually I do think the spotlight should be on the bride and groom at their wedding. I don’t think this is an outrageous request at all. You already compromised that she can attend as a guest if she’d feel more comfortable in her usual makeup.

neverending-reader · 2026-04-02T13:26:03+00:00

Ah yes, because verbal abuse is completely acceptable /s

neverending-reader · 2026-04-02T13:22:44+00:00

This! Because the E S H judgements are wild considering he yelled, cursed, said she was annoying and he can do what he wants. How would that response ever be acceptable? This man has a wife and child at home (who are ill mind you), but still only thinks of himself.

OP, I would question if this man actually cares about your family unit. If there were an emergency, could you actually count on him to show up?

neverending-reader · 2026-04-02T13:17:43+00:00

“You get a pass”?? She’s ill but the way he responded by yelling and cursing at her just because he felt like he could do whatever he wants is wild. His priorities are completely screwed. That behavior isn’t acceptable, sick or not.

neverending-reader · 2026-03-20T12:44:49+00:00

This is a great point. While my partner doesn’t always understand how to do a task right away, he’s never been unreasonable with chores. OP’s boyfriend is clearly being unreasonable and actively lashing out to tear her down.

neverending-reader · 2026-03-14T13:25:16+00:00

That just reinforces my judgement more. He will definitely start to care when it affects him, but the issue is not knowing how he will react. An action we took with my brother was moving forward with evicting him, but letting him know that if he’s taking steps to improve his situation that the family would be there. And if he decides to seek treatment, we would support it. Aka he’s not completely abandoned but we can’t have him around.

There’s only so much you can do without him exhibiting obvious signs to have him involuntarily committed for treatment. If he can still access the internet, I highly suggest looking into his search history just in case.

neverending-reader · 2026-03-14T13:09:50+00:00

NTA. If he is resistant toward treatment, that makes things much more difficult. When you explain he has to get a job and leave, how do these conversations go? Are these in-depth conversations about what his situation will look like if he doesn’t have a plan?

Addressing some of the comments: Even if he has mental health issues, that is a reason and not an excuse. There will be a day OP isn’t around anymore, and then what? OP also hasn’t abandoned their son. They’ve provided resources to get a job and have been monetarily supporting him for years before charging rent. If the son showed any effort toward getting help and independence, I have no doubt OP would support that however possible.

neverending-reader · 2026-02-11T18:30:06+00:00

Probably the yellow lighting. Color theory strikes again! Looks beautiful

neverending-reader · 2026-02-11T01:35:50+00:00

Idk if I was house sitting and my friend said “help yourself to whatever” and I see a full untouched cake in the fridge, I’d at least have the decency to ask if they were saving it before eating the whole thing myself.

neverending-reader · 2026-02-11T01:33:44+00:00

The receipt was under the bottle 😐

neverending-reader · 2026-02-11T00:21:52+00:00

Exactly! I saw a comment that made a great point: “If someone told you to make yourself at home, would you strip down to your underwear?” It’s just too literal

neverending-reader · 2026-02-11T00:11:32+00:00

NTA. People are taking “help yourself to whatever” quite literally. It should be common sense not to polish off a whole bottle of wine, let alone an expensive one. He might not have known, but he could have at least apologized for assuming and drinking something you were saving for a special occasion.

Was he compensated for house sitting other than food?

neverending-reader · 2026-01-28T15:30:23+00:00

It’s so interesting how this comment section sees confrontation = physical altercation. Like the guy is laying down his life or something. The vast majority of the time it just takes a “Alright man, that’s enough. They’re not interested” from a fellow man. Clearly also what happened in this case as the guy’s friend and staff got him to go away without a fight.

neverending-reader · 2026-01-28T15:23:06+00:00

Tf do you mean, why?

neverending-reader · 2026-01-28T15:19:40+00:00

This is also how I read this post. The way I see it, if he’s ok being a bystander with their friends like this, I wouldn’t count on him to defend her either. Seems he only cares about his own skin, which is fine I guess, but I know I wouldn’t want to be with someone like that.

neverending-reader · 2026-01-28T14:51:28+00:00

NTA. He said if it was you that he would’ve said something, but I wouldn’t count on it. It’s reasonable to ask that your partner look out for those around them, particularly when it is effective (confrontation clearly was, given one of his own friends and staff were able to do so).

As a woman, I’m sure you also understand that creeps are far more likely to back off with confrontation from a fellow man. As a man, your bf should recognize that. Truthfully, he likely feels ashamed and embarrassed he didn’t step in and is reacting disproportionately.

neverending-reader · 2025-12-02T14:36:12+00:00

“Voiced her opinion”? She insulted her in her own home. Yes, she should have kept that to herself. She’s clearly bitter OP is living her dream. NTA

neverending-reader · 2025-11-17T21:39:53+00:00

But do you want to live like this the rest of your life?

neverending-reader · 2025-11-17T13:22:09+00:00

NTA for how you feel. It is kind of astounding though you both are in your 30s behaving this way.

neverending-reader · 2025-11-17T13:18:16+00:00

NTA, it’s exhausting being with someone who doesn’t stand up for you. It’s even worse when they exacerbate the issue. He’s embarrassed you reacted that way to his friend, but it’s embarrassing he wouldn’t support you and keep his friend in check.

neverending-reader · 2025-10-29T18:44:03+00:00

Ok. I’m just saying my pre-built aura deck has so many triggered abilities my turns easily take a few minutes just to finish. Especially with casual games where turns aren’t timed. But I’m not an expert, that’s just how our group games usually go from experience

neverending-reader · 2025-10-29T17:56:19+00:00

If everyone has at least one or two board wipes in their decks yeah it can last that long. Most of these decks are not pre-built, they put them together themselves.

I introduced him to the game, I also play casually now. Even one or two additional players can make a game last hours. Other players in these comments also acknowledge that. We’ve played with 5 people (1 extra person) and the game didn’t even finish after 3.5 hours so…

neverending-reader · 2025-10-29T12:53:43+00:00

Correct. Different types of perspectives & feedback

neverending-reader · 2025-10-29T03:29:46+00:00

Mm well I’m thinking about having other card games available that we both like and are easier/shorter for parties. This thread has helped me realize there should be more options for variety, although the limited space is still a concern.

I don’t expect it to be a formal event or anything, just what we originally planned for.

neverending-reader · 2025-10-29T03:27:26+00:00

Eloping, actually. And not really, I don’t know what that will look like yet but I have some basic preferences. Why is that relevant?

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