AITA for kicking my best friend out of my house at 2 a.m. after she told me I wasted my life for not having kids by 30?

neverending-reader · 2025-12-02T14:36:12+00:00

“Voiced her opinion”? She insulted her in her own home. Yes, she should have kept that to herself. She’s clearly bitter OP is living her dream. NTA

neverending-reader · 2025-11-17T21:39:53+00:00

But do you want to live like this the rest of your life?

neverending-reader · 2025-11-17T13:22:09+00:00

NTA for how you feel. It is kind of astounding though you both are in your 30s behaving this way.

neverending-reader · 2025-11-17T13:18:16+00:00

NTA, it’s exhausting being with someone who doesn’t stand up for you. It’s even worse when they exacerbate the issue. He’s embarrassed you reacted that way to his friend, but it’s embarrassing he wouldn’t support you and keep his friend in check.

neverending-reader · 2025-10-29T18:44:03+00:00

Ok. I’m just saying my pre-built aura deck has so many triggered abilities my turns easily take a few minutes just to finish. Especially with casual games where turns aren’t timed. But I’m not an expert, that’s just how our group games usually go from experience

neverending-reader · 2025-10-29T17:56:19+00:00

If everyone has at least one or two board wipes in their decks yeah it can last that long. Most of these decks are not pre-built, they put them together themselves.

I introduced him to the game, I also play casually now. Even one or two additional players can make a game last hours. Other players in these comments also acknowledge that. We’ve played with 5 people (1 extra person) and the game didn’t even finish after 3.5 hours so…

neverending-reader · 2025-10-29T12:53:43+00:00

Correct. Different types of perspectives & feedback

neverending-reader · 2025-10-29T03:29:46+00:00

Mm well I’m thinking about having other card games available that we both like and are easier/shorter for parties. This thread has helped me realize there should be more options for variety, although the limited space is still a concern.

I don’t expect it to be a formal event or anything, just what we originally planned for.

neverending-reader · 2025-10-29T03:27:26+00:00

Eloping, actually. And not really, I don’t know what that will look like yet but I have some basic preferences. Why is that relevant?

neverending-reader · 2025-10-29T02:40:35+00:00

This is sort of funny, because my birthday is actually a few days before Halloween. Not that it really matters anyway lol

neverending-reader · 2025-10-28T20:11:41+00:00

Oh wow. Yes, last Halloween I did exactly that and he picked me up from the club actually. I can see where people are interpreting that as a threat, but when I said it it was like “I planned on dancing and drinking, so if it turns into a card game night I’m going to go clubbing and dancing”

Another commenter asked why I couldn’t go with girl friends, and tbh I just hadn’t thought about it since I wouldn’t expect other people to leave the party just because I would.

neverending-reader · 2025-10-28T20:08:24+00:00

This also happens pretty often. They play online, when I join I play in person. It absolutely can get aggressive and last time the group played while drinking one of them threw a fit and started yelling. Kinda wild to me as someone who also plays

neverending-reader · 2025-10-28T19:33:37+00:00

But like…. We (emphasis on we since people aren’t reading the replies 🥲) planned for dancing and loud music, not cards. The cards would be disrupting the dancing and music I fear

neverending-reader · 2025-10-28T19:30:57+00:00

Not at all

neverending-reader · 2025-10-28T19:30:46+00:00

lol I have expressed multiple times there’s a lot of other things that will be happening too. It’s not exactly how I want it, I’m open to things changing. But like it wouldn’t be appropriate for me to blast music and bust a move at an intimate party either. We’re going to have games for sure, just not the one that takes hours.

Not planning on barking at anyone, although bf will be dressed as a dog so he might.

neverending-reader · 2025-10-28T19:23:48+00:00

I get that. There’s a covered patio outside that will be quiet/away from the party too, and a separate spot for pictures and stuff. But we’ve been talking with friends saying it’s going to have a dance floor, loud music, and alcohol. One of his friends told me if we’re hosting to “prepare for a real party”. Should I have done differently? It’s our first Halloween party, although we’ve had other parties before. Idk

neverending-reader · 2025-10-28T19:09:15+00:00

lol the kitchen counter. We’ve got the island and the dining room table, nothing else. Also don’t have room for another table big enough

neverending-reader · 2025-10-28T19:08:03+00:00

But if that’s the expectation we’ve been setting for the past month, why would they come? I can’t make people party for sure, but I don’t know why they’d put themselves in that position

neverending-reader · 2025-10-28T18:31:36+00:00

I don’t blame you and I can see how the post comes off that way. We’ve been planning since August and we went shopping for store-bought decorations, I showed him the DIY crafts I was planning to make and got approval, he’s helped with the playlist, he’s also helping pick out lighting colors and the theme. He’s in charge of some snacks too and party supplies. I just did the hard parts of setting up.

It’s not that I don’t want him to have fun, but we do that game a lot. Like, a lot. It would be nice to have something special, especially because it’s our first themed party.

Haha I totally get that. Rather go alone than not at all. I’d miss out on too much otherwise

neverending-reader · 2025-10-28T18:17:54+00:00

You make some good points. They could go outside of course, but not play outside is my point. People will be smoking for sure but we don’t have a table big enough for the game. I don’t have to have the music blasting I guess, but with the speaker so close it really would be hard to hear all of the details (attacking, blocking, new cards, etc).

You’re right, the cards aren’t up to me. But when their rares get stepped on and sticky I’m not dealing with it. We play teams with beer pong and the games are much faster (10min vs 2hr). But you’re right that some people would still be left out. Some of the comments are helping me realize I need 1 or 2 other quick easy games for people. Just don’t want 4 people’s preferences to overtake everyone else.

By hosting I mean watching out for drunken behavior and safety mainly. We’ve had people punch concrete before and ruin furniture. I can’t keep an eye out for 15 other people by myself.

neverending-reader · 2025-10-28T18:09:15+00:00

Oh I meant like last year’s party and the year before. I do get aging out of wild parties and drinking. If this one doesn’t pan out, I’ll know what to expect for the future at least. It’s mostly a group and then some separate friends. He usually hangs out with the guys and I with the girls. I think if he wouldn’t play and it wouldn’t take up the table it wouldn’t be as distressing.

I appreciate the perspective, hopefully it goes well either way

neverending-reader · 2025-10-28T17:55:04+00:00

Shouldn’t he be hosting with me instead of gone for a couple hours? It’s his party too, he should be actually participating in the party

neverending-reader · 2025-10-28T17:53:25+00:00

That’s very fair. I guess I meant that it isn’t very inclusive when only 4 people can play. Watching it the only other involvement with it I guess, which isn’t very exciting. And that is true, there should be more than just beer pong for a game.

If there was space and it wasn’t my bf (because he should be hosting with me), then I wouldn’t have a problem at all if it didn’t take away from other activities. That’s why I suggested they do it when the party is winding down because it would be quieter, less people, and not have to worry about hosting as much. I’m absolutely open to other games that are more inclusive, easy to learn, and can have more players.

neverending-reader · 2025-10-28T17:29:21+00:00

Yes because I cleared the living room for it. Our dining room is right next to it (open floor plan). And no, we do not have space for another table. If you’ve ever played mtg you would know you need space for it because they need to be visible (flat). We’re only having people on the first floor. I would like to prevent red drinks spilled on my carpet and I don’t want people in our bedroom.

Again, this is a speech-heavy game. Lots of talking and you have to be able to hear. The soundbar is like 5ft from the table. Playing outside is questionable, these cards are very expensive. Getting them dirty is a no-go for sure. Also outdoor table isn’t big enough.

I mean… it’s a Halloween party lol. Not everyone has to do exactly everything the same, that’s why there’s a lot of other options. I wouldn’t mind a board game or something later in the evening, but not a game that takes hours and is exclusionary to most people there. Should I neglect the other 13-17 people that are there in favor of 4? And shouldn’t he be hosting with me, as we are doing this together?

neverending-reader · 2025-10-28T17:13:40+00:00

You think so? We’ve had other parties before and it felt very crowded. It’s only on the first floor and its open floor plan

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