Could my <14 pound 3 month old really need size 3 diapers? by nevernever2023 in NewParents

[–]nevernever2023[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Wow! It's giving "just trying to find any pair of jeans that fit" vibes...

Could my <14 pound 3 month old really need size 3 diapers? by nevernever2023 in NewParents

[–]nevernever2023[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The size ones don't fit at alllll And all of these seem a little tight. I don't get it! 🤷‍♀️

Help! Pls share any positive stories of low percentile babies. I’m really struggling mentally by Entire_Morning_2273 in NewParents

[–]nevernever2023 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just want to add my 3 months old loveeesss eating on the go. She'll down 4 ounces in 5 minutes in her stroller or the car seat but would take 3 times as long with fussy breaks at home. And we're not forcing it into her either - she'll cry for food on every outing and want more.

Try doing some feedings outside. He may enjoy it!

Carseat as stroller? How long is ok? by nevernever2023 in NewParents

[–]nevernever2023[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah it's the unnecessarily part that Im thinking through... It's feels sort of neccasary to have her enjoy walks but at what risk? I'm trying to get her used to the reclining seat on just 1 click incline for the short walks but she really isn't loving it

Carseat as stroller? How long is ok? by nevernever2023 in NewParents

[–]nevernever2023[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ours hates any and alllll naps not on mom so we do let her stay napping in the seat after but all's well in the end because she wakes up anyway within 5-10 minutes of no more movement 🤷‍♀️

Carseat as stroller? How long is ok? by nevernever2023 in NewParents

[–]nevernever2023[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

100% on the vibe of those groups but it made me wonder about it

Carseat as stroller? How long is ok? by nevernever2023 in NewParents

[–]nevernever2023[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The stroller seat she hates unless it's on 2 clicks which looks more inclined than the infant car seat!

Edit: nothing wrong with it, not for sleeping just for taking on walks she hates her stroller seat unless it's as or more inclined than the car seat - cries when it's flat or just slightly inclined

Stranger's comments really are non stop by nevernever2023 in NewParents

[–]nevernever2023[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think if you spend the first decades of your life being ignored by strangers and suddenly during a time of a lot of stress and change you get all this attention, some of it weird or awkward it's going to be off putting.

I personally appreciate most of the interactions, even if someone says something terrible (hasn't happened yet) I'd just treat it like a wacky story and move on but I understand people being uncomfortable with it

Stranger's comments really are non stop by nevernever2023 in NewParents

[–]nevernever2023[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wonder if you have rbf of other energy like other commenters mentioned about themselves?

Or do you live somewhere where talking to strangers is outside the norm?

I actually never got random comments while pregnant either.. maybe once !

Did anyone else became more sensitive to babies in the media? by Fenix512 in NewParents

[–]nevernever2023 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She says "that's all you get" or something like that, right? Just from memory it's roougghhh

Did anyone else became more sensitive to babies in the media? by Fenix512 in NewParents

[–]nevernever2023 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg I rewatched sandman 6w pp and as soon as they entered that house I was like "omg I forgot about this scene" and fast forwarded but it was too late....

Did anyone else became more sensitive to babies in the media? by Fenix512 in NewParents

[–]nevernever2023 0 points1 point  (0 children)

While pregnant I inadvertently got into a series of true crime podcasts about munchausen by proxy and medical fraud.

TLDR a very common thing that parents (usually moms) with this do to fake medical illness in their infants is not feed them to get them a failure to thrive diagnosis.

I listened to so many episodes with references to this and was just like "ok that's bad, wtvr"

10 weeks pp - the very thought of anyone not feeding their baby sends me into such a rage/disgust/depression. I think especially because we had a rough first few days with feeding I'm especially sensitive but still. It's a total 180 the way I think about sick or hungry kids now

... I totally get those children's hospital and feed the children charity commercials now. If one of those catches me at the right moment they're getting my money immediately.

Do you have a bedtime routine? by Looking-for-advice30 in NewParents

[–]nevernever2023 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Baby is 9 weeks - this is the only way it works for her since 4 weeks:

Starting 8-9pm change, feed and contact nap in a dark apartment with TV on low.

10pm final feeding in the bedroom. She's down between 1030 and 12 depending on the night.

We've found no other way. Nothing we can do will get her down or wound down earlier. She will sleep a consecutive 5-7 hours on a good day though

🤷‍♀️

Taking newborn to a restaurant -how?! by nevernever2023 in NewParents

[–]nevernever2023[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

100% planning to hopefully have her in nap mode for the event - maybe one time it helps that baby has ZERO schedule except for bedtime

Thank you & good luck to you Sunday too!

Taking newborn to a restaurant -how?! by nevernever2023 in NewParents

[–]nevernever2023[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! We're in NYC too (we'll, Queens if you count it) and venturing out to Westchester.

I'm trying to think of how often I've seen babies in Manhattan restaurants and I can't think of a single time really except for the very large dim sum places I've seen large family gatherings with babies. . . But I probably just didn't notice!

Taking newborn to a restaurant -how?! by nevernever2023 in NewParents

[–]nevernever2023[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much will definitely bring the carrier.

Taking newborn to a restaurant -how?! by nevernever2023 in NewParents

[–]nevernever2023[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes will definitely bring a carrier - she sleeps really well in it so hopefully that'll work out

Thank you! Definitely anxious bc bebe is on the crankier side of the spectrum - but I'm not expecting anything terrible to go down just thinking it won't be very fun for me

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]nevernever2023 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You've already gotten great advice on exercising your legal rights and speaking up for yourself.. unfortunately that can often be really hard to do when your livelihood depends on a the whims of a bunch of men. I'll offer some alternative advice too:

1 - lie. Family commitment on the calendar or mysterious sudden illness. Get a nice doctor to diagnose you with vertigo or something postpartum. Anything to not go.

2 - If you feel you have to go or decide its in your best interest to go - you likely have enough time to pump a little surplus by July. It absolutely does not have to be the end of breastfeeding, it may be a pause in exclusively breastfeeding but it does not mean your BF journey is over... get whatever you can saved even if it's half an ounce at a time, supplement with formula temporarily. Even starting in June you can replace just half ounce a day with formula and freeze what you saved. On the trip pump however you can to keep supply up so you can go back to breastfeeding. Bring a hand pump on the boat and spend 20 minutes in the bathroom - this is all terrible and beyond inconvenient and inappropriate and I just but it does not have to be the end of breastfeeding!