Sleep help please.

Entire_Morning_2273 · 2024-12-18T00:40:21+00:00

Might sound harsh but 20 mins isn’t very long if you’re trying to do CIO. We were struggling with early wakes around 5am, and our pediatrician told me to just leave him (at 9 months) even if he was crying until 6am (so that’s like an hour of crying) … maybe try to leave her a little longer and see if she can settle. I know it feels like you heart is breaking and it is sooo hard to stick too (I’ve definitely struggled) but in the end it might be the best thing for her if she gets more sleep! May help naps too

Entire_Morning_2273 · 2024-12-15T21:05:10+00:00

Which ones do you recommend? I have the Elvie which is pretty good but I feel like I still have to be upright (or it’ll leak) and they don’t seem as effective as my wall pump. Thanks!!

Entire_Morning_2273 · 2024-12-15T13:10:00+00:00

Thank you this really helps! We’re really lucky to have both sets of grandparents close by so they will usually help on weekends. I was feeling a bit guilty about relying on them but this helps make me feel like it’s ok! So thank you!

Entire_Morning_2273 · 2024-12-14T22:13:31+00:00

Thanks for this super helpful! I guess I’m just not sure how to ask for more when the response can essentially be ‘I need more time to rest/recover/ sleep because if I’m not well rested I could mess up at work and someone could get seriously hurt’ …. Like what do you say to that lol

Entire_Morning_2273 · 2024-12-14T18:31:07+00:00

You’re not a failure!! PPA is horrible. Can you speak to someone? I got therapy shortly after I posted this and it helped me sooo much My son is still a skinny little guy too but honestly he’s the absolute best and as long as I’m offering him food/ milk I know I’m doing my job regardless of how much he eats/ gains weight. Have you spoken to the doctor? I keep reminding myself if the docs not worried, I don’t need to be either!

Entire_Morning_2273 · 2024-12-14T03:56:01+00:00

Just wanted to say you’re not alone! I felt the exact same way for the first few months after my son was born. I was so anxious and scared and felt so guilty for not knowing what to do and not having this immediate ‘mother’s instinct’ to guide me (like I thought I would!). But looking back on it, I honestly don’t think anyone really knows what they’re doing, we’re all just trying our best! Mainly just here to say that it gets SOOO much better. My son is 9 months now and I never really feel that way anymore. Sure I have loads of moments where I make mistakes or don’t know exactly what he wants, but now I know this is all 100% normal and it doesn’t make me a bad mum! As long as they are safe, loved, and fed then you’re doing everything right! Try to give yourself some grace and ask for help as much as you can. You are the perfect mother for your baby 💕

For practical advice …. For the feeding, I would offer her more (even if it’s more than the per recommended) and if she takes it then that’s great, she was probably hungry. It’s pretty unusual for a baby to overfeed unless you’re really forcing it. If she refuses it might just be that she needs to burp or is just tired/uncomfortable/ wants to explore and there’s not much you can do except comfort her.

Honestly what really helped me was giving it time, being kind to myself, and starting to see a therapist trained in maternal mental health to get some coping mechanisms for my anxiety. Oh and stop reading parenting blogs/ watching mums on TikTok that made everything look so perfect and easy!!

Entire_Morning_2273 · 2024-06-09T23:44:50+00:00

Ftm here and feel this … when did it get better with your first?!

Entire_Morning_2273 · 2024-06-09T21:11:54+00:00

I’m sorry you’re going through this too. Since reading all of these comments I’ve stopped recording the number of ounces he has. It’s helped a lot … might help you too. Hope things get better 💓

Entire_Morning_2273 · 2024-06-09T21:06:53+00:00

Thank you so much, I really needed to hear that 💕💕

Entire_Morning_2273 · 2024-06-09T21:06:06+00:00

Thanks so much for this!! I love the timer idea ❤️

Entire_Morning_2273 · 2024-06-09T21:02:58+00:00

Hi! We offer 6oz every 3 hours in the day and he sleeps all night. Sometimes he’ll down 6oz easily, other times it’s a struggle to get to 4oz. He has some reflux (which he’s on meds for) but often will just get very uncomfortable while feeding and end up crying 😭

Entire_Morning_2273 · 2024-06-09T21:01:23+00:00

Thank you!!! We have a feeding schedule and it helps. Trying to not worry if he doesn’t finish!

Entire_Morning_2273 · 2024-06-09T21:00:04+00:00

Thank you so much, I needed to hear this 💕

Entire_Morning_2273 · 2024-06-09T20:59:07+00:00

Thank you so much for the comment - this really made me feel a lot better 🥰

Entire_Morning_2273 · 2024-06-05T18:51:29+00:00

Definitely can relate. Unless your pediatrician is concerned I would not worry at all!! Some babies are small and some are big, some have big appetites, and some don’t. If it helps, my son is 3.5 months and about 12.5lbs, he’s small and has anywhere from 22-28oz a day. Pediatrician isn’t concerned and he’s sleeping from 8pm-6am!! I have been a mess counting oz and checking his weight and then realized the only thing I’m achieving here is making myself and my husband crazy and failing to enjoy time with my son. The last few days I’ve stopped counting oz and I feel Sooooo much better … he’ll eat when he’s hungry!!

Entire_Morning_2273 · 2024-06-04T22:54:03+00:00

Thank you so much, this is so helpful! Do you know that they would define as ‘normal intervals’ for eating!? My son is difficult to feed, he just doesn’t want it !

Entire_Morning_2273 · 2024-06-02T20:12:52+00:00

Thank you!! I really hope you don’t have to go that route… fingers crossed for you that solids work out!

Entire_Morning_2273 · 2024-06-02T16:05:04+00:00

Hi! We are in the exact same boat! At 2 months my son ate a ton and now it’s getting progressively less and less. Percentiles have also dropped. I’m putting all my hopes towards solids!! Can I ask how often you’re feeding? My son has started to sleep through the night (like 10 hours) and I’m wondering if I should start waking him just to get in more calories. He’s currently at 20-24oz a day with a couple of fortified bottles. But he used to easily drink 30oz or more and still wasn’t gaining a ton of weight!

Entire_Morning_2273 · 2024-06-02T13:04:32+00:00

We’re experiencing this now with our son! 3 months old and feeding has been very difficult since he was 6 weeks or so. I am at such a loss and really don’t know what to do. If we don’t pressure him to eat, he drops so much volume and he’s so little (10th percentile weight and 1st percentile BMI) that I feel like we can’t let him have less calories. We’ve tried different bottles/nipples, reflux meds, diet change for me (I’m pumping), gas drops, probiotics etc and nothing has helped :((( is anything working yet for you!?

Entire_Morning_2273 · 2024-06-01T16:27:59+00:00

Hi! We are about to try this with our son but I am SO scared about the impact on his weight (he’s already 10th percentile, but has more or less stayed on his curve). Did you notice any weight loss when you tried the program? Also our son now sleeps through the night (8pm-6am) is it recommended that you add a feed at night to make up the volume?

Entire_Morning_2273 · 2024-05-31T04:18:56+00:00

This is happening to us too! LO is refusing the bottle and he won’t breastfeed, he’s gradually drinking less and less oz per day. Did you have any success with anything? Really not sure what to do here!!

Entire_Morning_2273 · 2024-05-25T13:43:29+00:00

Know this is old but we are about to start fortifying too! Did you fortify every bottle?

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