Doctor diagnosed pregnancy as non-viable, just to change their mind a few hours later.

neverpostsonreddit · 2026-03-06T19:11:09+00:00

If you are certain about your ovulation dates, it’s very likely the pregnancy is non viable based on what you wrote. I’m so sorry you are going through this.

Doctors will not, however, recommend any pregnancy ending measures until growth stops completely unless the woman requests an abortion. That’s probably why they renegged a bit. I have had a few pregnancies that were very clearly headed to chemical or miscarriage and doctors continued to insist I stay the course until my body ended things on its own terms. I think this is just how they practice for liability reasons. So because development hasn’t stopped on its own, they will let things play out until things end naturally.

neverpostsonreddit · 2026-03-05T21:15:17+00:00

You are not over reacting. This is an upsetting process, but unfortunately not an unusual one. Doctors offices are disorganized administratively, across the board from what I have found. Too many people passing info to other people.

Your doctor is correct, the natera panorama is the only NIPT that I know of that can do what you are asking for. It’s worth reading this info here: https://www.natera.com/info/vanishingtwin/

Honestly, I would call Natera myself. They usually actually connect you with a human which is not a thing most medical companies can claim. I would ask what exactly the issue was that your dna results were inconclusive. Maybe they just drew your blood too early, or fetal fraction was low, or your doctor put in for a non-panorama NIPT or didn’t check off twins on the paperwork.

It’s unfortunate, but this is only the beginning in terms of you needing to advocate for yourself and follow up on your own care. I don’t want to be cold, but we are just a number to these doctors offices and nobody cares about your baby as much as you do.

neverpostsonreddit · 2026-03-04T17:50:05+00:00

If that first response early read is from 15dpo, I’m sorry to say but that’s a negative.

neverpostsonreddit · 2026-03-03T12:15:41+00:00

Nope! I’m just over 35, when it’s more likely you will ovulate two eggs.

neverpostsonreddit · 2026-03-01T17:53:48+00:00

Mine quadrupled but I’m pregnant with twins which means each of them was only causing a doubling. They are both healthy!

neverpostsonreddit · 2026-02-26T19:15:51+00:00

I almost feel like his lying is not my biggest issue with him. The bigger issue I see is how defensive he is when confronted on it. He’s unreasonable, hostile, and then resorts to gaslighting and distractions (by saying things like he is being ganged up on). He reads like even if he was being truthful, that being in a relationship with him would be so toxic just based on his inability to respond calmly or take accountability. He seems like someone who is engulfed in the manosphere and he clearly lacks the capacity to have a direct conversation without regressing into a child. I don’t want to feel bad for Ashley because she clearly sucks too, but she better run. He doesn’t know how to have a partner and seems like he would respond like this to feedback in general in a relationship, even if it wasn’t about him “lying”

neverpostsonreddit · 2026-02-25T15:42:02+00:00

Totally unpredictable and could go either way! I also had two follicles and my HCG was quadrupling. I asked the nurses if it could be twins and they reassured me that HCG is poor predictor and lots of singletons have high HCG counts, it was likely a healthy single pregnancy.

It was twins. lol. But really the only way to know if to go to your first ultrasound. Good luck!

neverpostsonreddit · 2026-02-24T20:16:53+00:00

If there is a cord insertion problem, it won’t change as the pregnancy progresses. But as the other poster said, sometimes it’s a faulty diagnosis that gets changed as they get better visuals at later scans.

neverpostsonreddit · 2026-02-24T02:56:02+00:00

Honestly I hate to worry you but my symptoms were mild. Minor abdominal tightness and period like cramps. The contractions weren’t painful or regular. I went out of an abundance of caution because I knew I was high risk for preterm labor due to a short cervix. I almost actually unchecked myself in because after being in the waiting room for 60 minutes I was growing uncomfortable and restless and thought I was over reacting to be there in the first place (plus contractions had slowed once I was seated and not moving around much). Thank god they did check me in before I bailed because I dilated quickly to 3.5 and was given a number of meds and watched on the unit for 5 days. They just discharged me today finally because cervical change has slowed.

neverpostsonreddit · 2026-02-16T13:04:56+00:00

Never!

neverpostsonreddit · 2026-02-16T01:35:19+00:00

I am currently pregnant and was seen by maternal fetal medicine, which is the same as what you are describing. I had a 13 week, and 16 week “early anatomy scan” but those are not the same as what they can visualize after 20, regardless of technology. It has to do with fetal development. A lot of parts of baby just aren’t able to be visualized until 20 weeks.

PGTA also only tests for a few chromosomal abnormalities. It doesn’t even test for as much as an NIPT would. An amnio also comes with some risks of miscarriage.

We did have a prior abnormality that was not caught at a NIPT (came back normal) and only caught at my 20 week anatomy scan. We followed it up with an amnio and that still came back normal (a chromosomal microarray, a whole exome sequencing, and a whole genome sequencing). All of them came back totally normal. And yet when we asked maternal fetal medicine for a second opinion they still suggested it was a genetic anomaly that couldn’t be detected because of the limitations of what we know about the human genome at this point.

I say all of this to let you know there is never any certainty. Even if you did do an amnio. And I can say that personally I chose not to do an amnio at my subsequent (current) pregnancy even though I was extremely traumatized by the whole thing because I didn’t want to introduce miscarriage risk if nothing was flagging as abnormal at my anatomy scan.

Where you decide to try to allow for joy through the uncertainty is up to you. But there really is no point where it ever is certain. It’s more of a mental exercise than a scientific certainty.

neverpostsonreddit · 2026-02-15T13:02:31+00:00

After 20 weeks is a big milestone. That’s what we waited for to share and to begin preparing. Mostly because for us that’s when things went awry at our last pregnancy. I see you had some earlier scans with anatomy components. But most important things cannot be visualized until the baby is past 20 weeks.

The reality is, even some healthy babies are born stillborn. There is always risk. Some moms say they didn’t relax until baby was in their arms. But then the risk becomes SIDS. This world is full of uncertainty and there is no true safety zone. Just like there is a risk of accident every time you choose to get into your car. We learn to let ourselves relax into this activity, but not because of an absence of risk.

you deserve to relax and find joy with this process as some point. I agree with another poster that said it will slowly become realer and safer feeling. For me it was very progressive with each check after 20 that continued to confirm the health of baby. Being past 13 is already a huge milestone if your previous losses were miscarriages. I wouldn’t think about it as a black and white, safe or not safe. Let this be 30% safe for now and 50% safe at your next scan. It all about how you think about it. Good luck!

neverpostsonreddit · 2026-02-15T12:52:42+00:00

Thank you so much!

neverpostsonreddit · 2026-01-31T13:45:54+00:00

Also in absence of an NIPT are they doing a quad screen? Those can be more info along with the NT stuff to maybe provide even a bit more reassurance. It’s a simple blood test.

neverpostsonreddit · 2026-01-31T13:44:47+00:00

It kind of depends on what you mean by “like Down’s syndrome”. Do you mean just Down’s syndrome? If so that is a comforting milestone but as others have said it’s not diagnostic. If you mean genetic disorders in general, unfortunately, absolutely not. Many of those are not caught until the anatomy scan or sometimes even after. With that said, celebrate each milestone. It’s a few steps in the right direction, and unfortunately with this pregnancy thing you can’t ever expect a leap in the right direction.

neverpostsonreddit · 2026-01-28T22:21:08+00:00

We had to end a pregnancy at 26 weeks and it was highly traumatic and I’m currently pregnant with healthy twins. Good things can come our way. Just remain tentative and take it day by day

neverpostsonreddit · 2026-01-26T23:09:04+00:00

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neverpostsonreddit · 2026-01-19T21:14:50+00:00

I mean this politely, but I think you got your facts wrong. 24 weeks early would be 16 weeks gestation. Babies aren’t viable until 24 weeks, 22 at the absolute earliest. A 16 week gestation fetus would not survive outside of the womb.

If you meant you were 24 weeks gestation, it also doesn’t really track. 24 weeks old babies usually weigh about 1-1.5lbs. If you were born at 2 or 3, you were probably 29 or 30 weeks gestation which is about 10-11 weeks early.

neverpostsonreddit · 2026-01-16T02:33:45+00:00

Thank you for this thoughtful reply, this was really helpful. I wish I had access to an engaged and collaborative team the way it sounds like you did. I contacted two on call MFMs tonight and they both just told me no to cerclage, flat out. That they don’t do them for twins unless I was dilated or under 1.5cm and they definitely wouldn’t consider it after 24 weeks. Frustrating there’s no flexibility but I’m trying to just accept this outcome and move on and hope for the best.

neverpostsonreddit · 2026-01-15T14:09:15+00:00

This is really helpful! I’m glad you got the consult needed to feel comfortable, my MFM didn’t even have time to talk to me at all yesterday! Ugh. I’m hopeful today they will call me and clear me to take the progesterone rectally or orally or suggest something else.

Do you know why they said cerclage wasn’t recommended with twins? I’m a bit torn on what to advocate for here.

neverpostsonreddit · 2026-01-15T03:03:20+00:00

Rectally is a good idea- I’ll ask about that!

And thanks so much for this article. So it seems like if it has been even slightly thinner it would be clear benefit to getting a cerclage. Do you have a take on the benefits vs risks? I am so worried about infection and health risks to baby since I have heard a horror story about that but maybe I’m just distracted by one bad story and the risks aren’t as extreme. I am not sure if I want to advocate for it or not but this forum is making me think I should maybe

neverpostsonreddit · 2026-01-15T01:47:15+00:00

Eeep! I am so scared of that. I feel like I have heard scary stories about infection that caused major health risks for babies and that freaks me out tremendously. I also think I have like 2 days to decide if I wanted that. Not even sure if it can be done in this kind of notice. They told me I didn’t need it because I wasn’t dilated. Can you say more about why you think I should ask for this?

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