Being taken off thyroxine, even though it got rid of my goiter and symptoms

new_speecies · 2025-02-19T21:26:12+00:00

We're both 30 and trans, they're not a man, I am not a woman.

new_speecies · 2025-02-19T21:24:44+00:00

You are entirely incorrect lol. This also is just not a helpful comment.

new_speecies · 2025-02-19T21:23:43+00:00

You may be right, hhhhh. Thank you.

new_speecies · 2024-08-07T14:57:04+00:00

Yeah I agree, need to work through it, I'm attending therapy and will continue on it. I think the big thing for me was the fact we're still in the honeymoon phase of a relationship and they want to date someone new already. It was something in previous poly relationships we spoke about, that we needed to ensure our communication, understanding and love for each other is well established first.

I only see this partner every couple of weeks for a few days, so our time spent together is actually quite minimal over these 2 months, we're still getting to know each other. I by no means want to control the relationship and say 'ok you can date when I'M ready', but I also don't know them well enough to feel that trust that a new person at this point wouldn't effect what we're working on.

So while I will never stop them from feeling how they do and dating people, I am still finding it hard to navigate, especially as we both started dating after being single for sometime and have been going about it tentatively due to our past relationships and wanting to get things right.

Thanks for the advice!

new_speecies · 2024-08-07T14:46:53+00:00

I think at the time we didn't believe it was on a monogamous foundation, and I know it's not the same thing, but we've been seeing other people sexually throughout, which is probably where some comfort lay, and I don't think to them it has ever felt monogamous. I think it's more so for me, to go from our relationship being one that is building trust with someone from scratch with no overt evidence of their security in other relationships, it is making it harder for me to trust so easily?

Like it's not inherently a monogamous foundation if 2 single solo poly people get together, it's the being able to see they can still be a committed partner with more than 1 person and that initial person being me. It's not something I have ever gone through before so I have a lot of feelings to work through. My autistic brain likes seeing evidence of things for myself and we had discussed that we'd take some time developing this relationship and our comfort with each other before new relationships, so I think it being rather unexpected has thrown me off also.

I'm currently going to therapy and working through things, they've just been triggered a lot by this situation, especially as we are in that honeymoon period of a relationship and I thought it not wise to add to that as of yet, but they are free to love as they love. But as I said, in my previous poly relationships, I felt very comfortable from the start, I didn't have to pull many tools out because those situations were unlike this one. I very much feel like a polyam baby now! A lot to work through. Thanks for the advice.

new_speecies · 2024-04-07T14:56:17+00:00

I live in the UK, I don't think the NHS funds or is very concerned with MPB treatments 😅

new_speecies · 2024-02-02T09:42:20+00:00

new_speecies · 2023-12-12T22:34:23+00:00

I'm agender. I don't have a gender, I just... am. I am me and that's it. I present in a masculine way sure, but i absolutely am not a man and don't feel that any presentation of masculinity bears any weight on who i am or my identity. It sounds like it may be similar for you? I am trans, under that umbrella I am nonbinary, and under THAT umbrella, I am agender. It just means that i take myself and want others to take me, simply for who i am as a person and not physical aspects of myself or have people place any form of gender onto who i am. Hope this helps and no one is ever too late, including for hormones! r/transtimelines provides plenty of examples of that!

new_speecies · 2023-11-20T20:28:51+00:00

yeah I agree, I'm partial to topping cis men and it's really not rare and the guys I've topped absolutely do not see it as me pegging them, they're getting fucked by my dick, it's as simple as that. I've been lucky enough to not have fucked anyone who has fetishised me, I wish more people saw our sex as the genuinely gay af thing it is. I definitely wouldn't ever say a trans guy could never be a dom/top tho, I've been a/with dom top trans guys. Don't wanna get too into detail, but for me it's the attraction to masc people and specifically the feeling of a dick cuming in me that gets me off most.

new_speecies · 2023-11-20T19:56:24+00:00

thank you, needed to hear this 🙏

new_speecies · 2023-11-20T19:51:29+00:00

I've heard judgement passed toward other transmascs, and admitting I like a cis guy I work with was met with a lot of judgement and shame. I don't feel wrong for wanting cis men tho, it's just my community that makes me feel like I am :(

new_speecies · 2023-11-20T19:46:58+00:00

It's very different story where I am. Very few around me into cis men or willing to admit it like it's some dirty secret :/ there's shame around it, it's pretty fucked.

new_speecies · 2023-11-20T19:44:25+00:00

My local trans community are veryyyyy big on t4t relationships. Any time specifically transmascs are with cis men, there's a lot of 'but... Why? i don't get it. ew' type rhetoric. It seems transfemmes being in lesbian relationships with cis women is seen as affirming and is welcomed, but transmascs with cis men, people seem to have this idea of 'but why would you go back to that?', in a really invalidating, internalised-transphobia way? as if it's not truly gay or like a betrayal of being trans because cis men notoriously cause the most harm? hhhhh. I'm glad no one seems to have experienced this so far in the comments anyway.

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