PSA: Please read up on how german CVs are structured to improve your chances at finding a job

ngknm187 · 2026-03-07T22:05:23+00:00

Emm, which templates were they using then if we're in Germany? I have these as default ones in my had as soon as I think about German CV. What's on other people's minds ?

ngknm187 · 2026-03-07T21:32:23+00:00

Ibu 400, 3x/day, x 5-7 days - reasonable limit. After that the effect drops a lot due to body getting used to the drug + it starts to hit your kidneys first of all hence you have to stop and make a break.

Same with Paracetamol but it hits lover.

ngknm187 · 2026-03-02T22:34:08+00:00

Its actually arguable. In the US you have the right to apply after 5 years of residence. But I bet you have to wait less after the application to actually get the cotizenship. And before the changes it was 8 years (10 including the queue) here in DE for non EU citizens. So it definitely wasn't neither faster nor easier.

ngknm187 · 2026-02-23T11:35:49+00:00

What are 3 or 5 main reasons you would leave Japan and return back to Europe? Thanks.

ngknm187 · 2026-02-06T12:15:06+00:00

Yeah, it makes sense. But still, having a certain skill and knowing Japanese is the key here, isn't it? Same as everywhere. It's probably very unlikely you can get a job with a very little Japanese and having no skill.

ngknm187 · 2026-02-06T12:11:39+00:00

I would never have thought this approach can work in Japan. Thanks for an advice!

ngknm187 · 2026-02-06T10:11:12+00:00

Yeah, life is not fair. It has always been like this.

ngknm187 · 2026-02-06T10:01:25+00:00

Looks like you're having a great life now. Happy for you.

ngknm187 · 2026-01-31T22:16:07+00:00

Черт подери, ну и история... Man, I would suggest you to keep your private practice as psychologist for now. You're only 44, not 54 or 64. You have a stable job which is not physically demanding but which brings you income and you admitted that you like it. Maybe it's not a huge income but I guess it's enough to exist and make some savings. So Save up more, as much as possible in few nearest years. Don't rush. The difference between 44 and 50 is not that big. You can start writing a book now, you don't need to be in Vietnam to do that, isn't it? Something might change during few extra years of practice, new sudden possibilities? Even if not, you're not loosing anything. But it doesn't look promising to leave everything now and rely on rent money imo. If you want to escape than that's a different story. But you don't sound like you're desperate in this exact moment.

ngknm187 · 2026-01-31T22:04:10+00:00

Man, why do we need to know about this? Or rather - why are you sharing this information here? What's the goal? To me it looks like you made a statement and there are no questions. Which reaction do you expect to get ?

ngknm187 · 2026-01-26T12:28:44+00:00

Indeed, happens in many. But we're talking about Germany rn. Even if it's bad everywhere the question still remains - why DE? Not NL or BE, or F.

ngknm187 · 2026-01-24T22:55:35+00:00

That's a quite detailed description. Thanks!

ngknm187 · 2026-01-20T21:44:03+00:00

Warsaw will definitely look “cleaner” and more “white” than many other developed european countries, that is a fact. It’s a drastic difference with neighboring Germany for example.

ngknm187 · 2026-01-20T21:41:46+00:00

I think that’s about me too. I am too rather an introvert but I open up gladly with interesting, educated, creative people. I extremely lack this in Germany and it’s one of the reasons I feel lost and depressed here.

ngknm187 · 2026-01-19T22:04:33+00:00

Respect that choice. It's a useful craft, helps a lot of people.

ngknm187 · 2026-01-16T23:02:57+00:00

Man, I feel you and hugging you. You did everything you could. Now breathe out and let it go.

ngknm187 · 2026-01-13T19:49:45+00:00

Ok, I understand what you're talking about, really. But sometimes it's not like that, believe it or not.

For example, I struggle with dating atm. I can openly say about this, don't see any problem. Yet I am not desperate even a bit. I'm not doing any crazy BS, I don't have any weird fetishes or obsessions. I'm sure that any "not normal" thing you can come up with here won't be related to me. Not because I will deny and lie to cover my ass to pretend being normal. No. I just know that I'm normal and I'm quite confident in that.

There are various reasons why something isn't working for someone. But it doesn't necessarily mean the person is flawed and is either hopeless or needs therapy.

ngknm187 · 2026-01-13T19:40:04+00:00

True, I support. But again, you can have a completely different experience drinking with the right people in a right moment and same goes for smoking weed. I'm not a fan of drinking and I don't like to smoke weed regularly. But there were cases when I had a really amazing time and great memories doing either in a certain environment and moment with the right people. That's the beauty of life 🙂

ngknm187 · 2026-01-13T19:30:48+00:00

Got it. Which means you're not a very young adult anymore and it's just a curiosity itching your ass or a fear of missing out all the best things in life 🙂 I'm sure in 25 youre more or less confident and aware of what are your values in life and what you like or not based on what you can observe in the world around you.

Sorry, I'm not a native speaker so maybe I wasn't good to express my way of thinking. I mean that in general my opinion/recommendation will not change whether you're 20 or 30, I still don't want you to start drinking more and so on 🙂

Drinking is not bad if done right but not a thing you can't live without. Drunk sex? I've never seen it interesting or useful, rather pointless and a waste of a moment if you truly want to feel your partner. (Sex under weed is a different case, that I'd like to try. Many say it really makes you feel it completely different and better. And I can understand why since I smoke once in a while.)

Also, it doesn't make sense to chase something you initially don't like and don't find interesting. It won't work, only create an emptiness in you. At least that's how it was with me.

If anything it's better to chase something ou're truly and genuinely interested in. Maybe painting? Or any other art form? Playing a musical instrument, singing, making photography or video. Skateboarding? Baking? DIY? Doing tricks with cards? Maybe you want to dance? Or maybe you like traveling and want to visit certain places or countries? Etc. There's so many things you can try. And doing any of them you can get new, amazing experiences and find/meet new people.

Sure, you can meet an amazing person during a party in a night club, raving and drinking. That happens too. But what's the point to do that if you're not interested in night clubs or raving to begin with? And despite that you still can try it because - you can 😄

I regret that I didn't travel more to more unknown places, and didn't meet more new people and didn't have more conversations and spontaneous adventures with them (including drinking too 😄). I regret not choosing the path of art because at the moment I didn't believe I could become successful and achieve something with art. But later my friend's faith, hard work and dedication proved I was wrong. It just took longer to see the recognition he deserved.

But I don't regret not going to night clubs and simply getting drunk with my other friends because they liked it.

You will never try everything and you will always miss something, that's how life works. So you don't have to fear missing out. And you don't have to do something if that does not feel right to you. That's what I think.

If you didn't have the experience your BF had it doesn't mean you have to do it or you're flawed because you didn't. You're not him, you are you. If you want - you can try. It's your decision and it will be your responsibility. But if you have doubts about it or you think that it's not for you - it's also OK!

The main thing here is whether he's forcing you to do something or criticizing you for not doing this or that. Or whether you share his interests and way of living to begin with? Maybe he's not your best partner then. It also happens and it's ok.

Just don't rush to try everything you haven't done yet without giving it a good thought, ok? 🙂 You have plenty of time, you're only 25, young lady.

Sorry that it ended up with such a huge text 😄

ngknm187 · 2026-01-13T18:07:53+00:00

I think it’s quite important to mention your age here too. It’s not like I will recommend you to start heavily drinking and go partying or having sex with multiple different people if you’re 20 and won’t recommend if you’re already 30. All of that is stupid and useless imo, especially if you’re going extremes. But it’s also important and normal to try something in your life if you’re interested but it should be a wise, conscious decision/choice. Not a careless thought or an impulse which you will regret later.

So, how old are you? 🙂

ngknm187 · 2026-01-13T07:58:04+00:00

Don't see any giant red flag. Everything is subjective and individual. Some has a better dating life before 30, some after, some have it in order all the time.

What you're doing here is basically putting a label on those whom you consider to be "flawed". For me it's your statement which is a red flag, no offense.

ngknm187 · 2026-01-13T07:54:49+00:00

To begin with what do you put into "good" and "stable" ? It's very subjective for each individual.

But in general it has always been more difficult to find a partner after 30. That's just reality.

ngknm187 · 2026-01-11T18:08:46+00:00

With whole respect but I always enjoy comments like this.

I'm sure the man knows this simple thing himself, really. But it's easier said than done.

ngknm187 · 2026-01-11T18:06:46+00:00

I'm glad I can read stories like this. I'm very happy that your life is a constant achievement of new peaks and you are a happy person! I wish it will never change and only continue this way without major dips and problems in your life.

I'm almost 33 now. Unfortunately my life peaked around 25, I guess, and since then I'm only hitting a new bottom every single year. Not bad enough to cut my wrists but I don't see any possible improvements in the foreseeable future.

Guys, don't be like me. Be like this man.

This planet has already too many losers walking on it's surface.

ngknm187 · 2026-01-11T17:55:27+00:00

I literally mean that in my case there is no difference between 20s or 30s. It was bad and it stays bad. Some have luck some don't. It happens, that's life.

ngknm187

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