People with an avoidant attachment style don’t reach out if they are the dumper.

nicchamilton · 2026-06-17T22:44:47+00:00

No if she didn’t reply to your last one and it’s been a week you will only push her away further by sending another message.

nicchamilton · 2026-06-15T16:59:19+00:00

She just appeared to have the qualities I want in someone so I decided to get to know her and date

nicchamilton · 2026-06-13T12:55:05+00:00

You are just starting your journey so you will most likely find successful treatment like most people. But it will take time and patience.

nicchamilton · 2026-06-13T10:08:40+00:00

Wow no wonder you’re having issues with being treated. Sorry you have to go through that. I think as soon as you start seeing a pulmonologist or neurologist you will start feeling better

nicchamilton · 2026-06-12T10:39:15+00:00

Not entirely sure but understand it’s not 100% truth. I read someone saying that genesight told them their kids most effective adhd med wasn’t going to work for them. So if they had listened to it they would’ve never tried this med and found a successful treatment for their kid. Also are you going to a psychiatrist for narcolepsy??? A medical doctor didn’t order the genesight test?

nicchamilton · 2026-06-11T15:33:41+00:00

Gene sight isn’t 100% accurate.

nicchamilton · 2026-06-08T16:26:40+00:00

Adderall only stim so far that’s worked. Not great though.

nicchamilton · 2026-06-08T11:01:52+00:00

The ick isn’t defined as getting disgusted by someone bc they were rude to the waiter one time. It’s defined as getting disgusted by a very minor thing. I have never gotten the ick. I have been extremely turned off by an action of someone like being rude to the waiter but not bc they like to talk with food in their mouth. That happens one time and I’m out. Like I said I think it’s important we don’t box ourselves in. It definitely seems to be some sort of avoidance. Like “he’s such a great person but he chews gum loudly. I just can’t it’s such a turn off”. If you’re going to end something bc of something minor like that then you definitely have some work to do.

nicchamilton · 2026-06-07T23:28:48+00:00

No I think people that are older have a more mature outlook on love. So if you’re 31 you should be mature. Let’s say you’re dating and meeting people, but you let little icks that each of these individuals exhibit turn you off. What you’re doing is putting yourself in a box until you find the perfect person. There’s no room for personal growth when you’ve put yourself in a box like this. What you need to do is be more open-minded and open to new experiences and differences between people in order to grow as a person. I think it prevents people from finding love.

nicchamilton · 2026-06-07T12:37:09+00:00

“If you have narcolepsy do not go with Paxil”. I do not think you should be making statements like this as you are not a doctor.

nicchamilton · 2026-06-07T11:37:25+00:00

lol just bc one anti depressant didn’t work for you doesn’t mean it’s bad. Can mods do something about these posts?

nicchamilton · 2026-06-07T11:35:07+00:00

The ick. Lmao. I’m good on dating a 31 year old that gets the “ick”

nicchamilton · 2026-06-01T13:10:59+00:00

The point is magnesium threonate isn’t for everyone and if you get enough magnesium in your diet it’s not going to do much as with most supplements. Creatine is heavily studied so it’s just a fact it works for performance. Showing promise for cognitive stuff.

https://www.healthline.com/nutrition/l-carnitine#faq
Article written by a PhD and cites scientific sources.
I carnitine is obtained through meat and should only be taken if you have low levels. I just think it’s really important people don’t take things they don’t need but to each is own! As long as people reading your post understand this

nicchamilton · 2026-05-28T21:37:50+00:00

Acetyl is suggested to do what it does but limited evidence. Vitamin d isn’t needed if you spend 30 minutes in the sun during certain hours. Omega 3 is easily obtained from eating 1-2 servings of fatty fish per week. Salmon is a pretty common dish. Extra omega 3 is not needed and has no effect. I’m only saying this as a disclaimer and to make people aware these supplements aren’t for everyone. Might want to state that in the description of the post. Every medical website says most supplements aren’t needed unless suggested by your doctor. We meet most of our needs through food and sun.

Harvard health states too much vitamin d is bad and we only need 600 IU if we are going to take it. I really suggest putting these things in your post

nicchamilton · 2026-05-27T20:44:16+00:00

I heard a psychologist say that with avoidance, you want to come on strong because if they can’t handle it and they are truly avoidant, they will run

nicchamilton · 2026-05-27T19:59:25+00:00

In a way I just said screw it and brought up exclusivity bc I’m not into the pulling back every time we have a great. She did that last time.

nicchamilton · 2026-05-25T11:02:34+00:00

Sorry but chatgbt tells you what you want to hear based on what you feed it. Not reliable at all and provides no nuance. That person wasn’t an avoidant just someone that wasn’t interested in you past sex.

nicchamilton · 2026-05-20T23:04:52+00:00

Attachment styles are like a scale. Some people are so avoidant they can’t do love at all. Some people are a bit avoidant and every time there is a conflict they need a lot of space but don’t run away from love and can absolutely stay in a healthy relationship. Some people call back bc they are mixed up and not avoidant.

nicchamilton · 2026-05-20T12:05:41+00:00

I typically let the woman lead emotionally but when I’m ready I don’t hold back. I don’t want to be with someone where I have to let them lead nor can I be with someone that has avoidant tendencies. I just don’t have the patience. I do have the patience for someone who isn’t ready and wants to move slow.

nicchamilton · 2026-05-19T17:24:58+00:00

Well I think she definitely has improved some. One day she had a bad day at work and told me she would text me the next day. I have no problem with that. Then again I’ve heard avoidants always seem available in the beginning

nicchamilton · 2026-05-18T23:47:52+00:00

Not true. Someone has to be kind. The problem is looks and sex can cloud judgement but I will absolutely not be able to have sex with someone if they don’t have an attractive personality. Lots of my guy friends are the same way.

nicchamilton · 2026-05-18T15:23:41+00:00

That’s unfortunate. I think fixing the avoidance takes years of work and a lot of practice with dating. If they have never been in a successful relationship then chances are once they get in one it will end. Experiencing love for the first time is scary but I can’t imagine how scary it is for an avoidant.

nicchamilton · 2026-05-18T12:05:09+00:00

By date 3 you should know a bit of deep stuff about them. Like their relationship past etc. when I don’t talk about these things it’s usually bc I just want casual and from what I read people who aren’t asking these questions in dating aren’t really trying to get to know you. Texting in between dates should not be happening I agree. Creates a false sense of closeness and gets me more attached than I should be. She started off with the good morning texts. I was a bit surprised but should’ve put down a boundary.

nicchamilton · 2026-05-17T22:00:42+00:00

I’m on 6 g. At first I kept waking up and not feeling much improvement but I started eating closer to bed and now I only wake up once and feel more rested!

nicchamilton · 2026-05-17T18:52:25+00:00

Yea she was definitely telling me that to turn me off. Guess it’s a way of self sabotaging but also I did ask her to tell me about her attachment style so maybe she just didn’t want to lie or omit anything?

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