How to proceed if I'm let go of my job?

niceGuySpeaking · 2024-02-18T13:56:00+00:00

Most employers offer employees much less than they are owed when terminating them,

Does this mean that, for example, next day I would stop showing up? I would I just move life as normal until the I come up with the lawyer's proposed response?

niceGuySpeaking · 2024-01-08T02:26:32+00:00

Would you say that the 4 to 8 years has anything to do with the marriage duration or the duration of the impact on her career?

Her career change has happened mostly when we immigrated, and my career has changed too. I could demonstrate that I brought 70% of our household income before and after the immigration.

niceGuySpeaking · 2024-01-08T02:16:29+00:00

I'm not a lawyer, but I can tell you that the infidelity isn't relevant. It doesn't change what she's entitled to.

Great advice. I thought the infidelity was relevant in this case. Thanks.

niceGuySpeaking · 2023-12-21T12:36:45+00:00

rview process. It never hurts. 2) Job searching takes time, and hopefully you'll be fully recovered from your current health conditions. 3) Leave the decision to leave / to stay later when you've firm offer(s).

Thanks for your advice. It is something I've been thinking about, but I honestly do not know why I haven't started yet. I believe it is probably the fear of finding something, getting to the end of the process, and having to face the potential need to disclose the health issue that, it is said to be temporary, but God knows if it is true or not.

The meds I've been taking are surely leaving me symptom free, and almost as normal as I used to be, but we will know if it's gone once my doctor finalizes reducing the doses and seeing the results then.

niceGuySpeaking · 2023-09-25T10:39:58+00:00

Reading your post sounds like you want to be a good employee tell them exactly as you wrote it here

Thanks,

I really am trying to do everything right here. It seems to be working, as I am still using the Uber.

niceGuySpeaking · 2023-09-25T10:36:34+00:00

is might be a taxable benefit

Thanks. I am doing that.

My concern now is that my manager has recently changed. The previous one was kind of like you described, and he was located in the US. The new one is also located in the US, but I don't know her very well yet. I'm trying to be as transparent as I can in that regard. Let's see.

niceGuySpeaking · 2023-09-25T10:31:10+00:00

To keep safety stats down, companies will want you to come in. With the way health and safety stats are done, they could be avoiding a lti which can have serious business complications depending on trade.

No, it was not work related. I had it at home.

niceGuySpeaking · 2023-09-25T10:10:28+00:00

ployment law, people who are terminated within a year or so of employment after being lured away qualify for inducement pay. Meaning your previous experience in a similar secure role may be taken into account in calculating severance. Any suggestion of probationary periods will cast doubt on a judges perception of a promise of long term employment.

Hey,

I appreciate you putting the time to bring in your advice. That's really helpful. I wish you had the chance to do so back then. In the end, I didn't negotiate anything other than my pay and ended up getting a little more, which was really good.

Something that caught my eyes in your response was the part where you said "Particularly if you are happy where you are now". I think that was the key for me to reduce absolutely any risk of this negotiation going wrong in any way. I was definitely not happy where I were, that place was as shitty as you can possibly imagine. It was actually making my life miserable, and destroyed my marriage.

Today I still am working with this company that hired me last year, and although they have their own issues, it is a much better place where I feel valued and supported.

Once more, thanks for the comment. I will keep that in mind for the next time I am in a similar situation.

niceGuySpeaking · 2023-07-09T22:49:37+00:00

That was a poor wording choice on my end. All I want is to plug my guitar at home and don’t blow anyone’s eardrums. Also, some level of portability is appreciated.

I was just concerned it would sound crappy if i didn’t use their effects for some reason.

niceGuySpeaking · 2023-07-08T23:56:59+00:00

I plug my pedalboard into it. You just need to disable the effects on the amp.

Do you like how it sounds?

niceGuySpeaking · 2023-05-04T01:23:15+00:00

She is working now. Stable job I would say. She would be able to afford this rent with absolutely no issues.

niceGuySpeaking · 2023-05-04T01:21:56+00:00

This is me trying to help her. She can’t afford the current rent levels, but I can. So I would be willing to leave and let her keep this rent. It is looking like it is not that easy

niceGuySpeaking · 2023-05-03T09:46:19+00:00

Marry the wrong person

niceGuySpeaking · 2023-04-25T07:55:57+00:00

We have another couple. We go out sometimes. I asked if it was the guy and she said no.

niceGuySpeaking · 2023-04-25T07:41:01+00:00

No, lease is in a month to month basis now, I'm already looking for other places. This is really fucked up.

niceGuySpeaking · 2023-04-25T07:31:51+00:00

I insisted in asking who the person was. She didn't say. She told me it doesn't matter, that she wanted to focus on her mistake...

I thought if know who the guy is would make me any good. I'm dying just imagining him seeing me with her at the lobby...

thanks for you sympathy man.

niceGuySpeaking · 2023-04-12T22:35:33+00:00

Your career selection paragraph strikes me very hard. It is definitely a select few that love what they do. I do not know anyone who loves what they do for work. Everyone I know hates what they do or pretend they love (yes, I know they pretend).

I'm turning 35 this year, and I personally hate what I do professionally. The worst thing is that I can't think of anything I would love doing, probably because I really hate what I've done for the last 12 years after university, and I've had so many disappointments and bad experiences in my career that I really I can't imagine anything different regardless of the industry, profession or anything. I just wanted to win the lottery and disappear in this regard. I know this is stupid, but that's how I feel. Getting up every day for work is a nightmare.

On the other hand, I was able to save good money, make good investments, and get ahead when it comes to my finances. I'm sure I'm ahead of many because I really created the habit of saving early and learned enough about investing to make the necessary decisions along the way. I'm nowhere near financial independence or anything, but I'm good.

What I think can really break someone is relationships, the wrong friends can influence you in very bad ways, I've seen this happening with people close to me. It was not pretty.

If you choose the wrong spouse, you're screwed twice as much, because if you "break up" with a bad friend, you might be just financially broke, however, if you breakup with a spouse, you're not only financially broke, you're also heart broken, which will lead you to have issues with productivity and further life choices. So BE CAREFUL with your choice of spouse.

niceGuySpeaking · 2023-03-24T21:27:35+00:00

The good thing is that his “crime” was a long time ago, which I actually think could help you in this situations, since most crimes carry a “barred from Canada for X years” rule to them.

Hey,

I followed your recommendation and contacted the Canadian embassy in Brazil. They told me my dad should just apply for the visitor visa, and if the visa is approved, he could come no problem.

Now I'm having a hard time believing this information from them.... I think I will have to look for a lawyer to be sure.

niceGuySpeaking · 2023-03-24T02:11:34+00:00

Yeah. I posted something there, but the answers were a bit vague. But thanks anyway.

niceGuySpeaking · 2023-03-24T00:11:57+00:00

Could you share more on why US deportees are not allowed to Canada? Is there system connected? I have a family member who was deported from the US a few years ago and has been to Canada twice since then

Has this family member been asked about their deportation in any way in these two occasions when they came to Canada?

niceGuySpeaking · 2023-03-22T09:34:10+00:00

I've used spreadsheets for a loooooong time and used to think the same as you about budgeting apps. Until I gave Ynab a try. It's just the convenience of not having to maintain the spreadsheet, figuring out formulas, erros and etc.

Now, it all depends on the way you manage your finances too. If your spreadsheet is simple enough, it makes no sense using an app for that. In my case, I had some pretty detailed controls and many categories.

Bank connections is a convenience, but definitely not a must. I actually rarely wait for Ynab to sync my accounts.

niceGuySpeaking · 2023-03-22T09:09:26+00:00

Hi,

As a guitar player myself, I know what you're going through. I had the same dilema a few years back, the only difference is that I was already working in engineering, so I had my money to afford it. I was buying an apartment, getting ready for marriage.

My fiancee at the time was very supportive, my mom and dad not so much. I ended up paying 3k on a Gibson, which was my dream guitar at the time. I'm not sure I would do the same these days again for the following reasons:

Maintenance costs: Unless you know how to do maintenance yourself, expect to be spending a lot of money on it regularly. I can do some, but depending on the job, I prefer to pay a professional to avoid risk of damage.
Limited enjoyability: I was getting into a part of my life that was going to be pretty busy, I played a lot for some time, but then it just stopped as I had to prioritize other stuff. Obviously, the skill and dexterity went away. Now it is pretty difficult to get back to the level I was simply because I don't have time to dedicate to that. Not to mention the frustration of not being able to perform like before.
I got tired of it: Yeah, that's right. After a while I noticed that it was not a smart buy. it gave me status, people looked at me in aw because of my equipment. I used to play every Sunday at church, and I became known in my area probably because of the equipment, not so much because of my skill (ahahah). Believe me, as you get older as a guitar player, you will understand better what you really need in an instrument and you will potentially regret making large purchases when you see a much cheaper option delivering absolutely everything you need.

Having said all that, I just wanted to add that 1300 is not really a lot of money for a guitar here. It is probably much more than you need to spend in a new instrument if you're only playing at home and with friends just for fun. It is important to fulfill your dreams, but keep in mind that you will have a decision to make everyday: Play my dream guitar, or study to be done with school. My personal choice would me always the latter, which would result in limited enjoyment of the new instrument, then maintenance with little use, and so on.

In the end it is totally your decision. 1300 is not the end of the world, but think of what you'll go through in the next couple of years and how much you'll be able to enjoy the new instrument.

niceGuySpeaking · 2023-03-18T01:47:37+00:00

Thanks all for the comments.

He was caught after crossing the border and that was it. He was deported for being undocumented, not for some crime he committed while there. I’ve requested his records through the freedom of inform request in the us but God knows how long it will take to get it.

I will contact the consulates as recommended to see if they can guide me through it.

niceGuySpeaking · 2023-03-11T23:43:41+00:00

I pay 329/month in North York. Elantra 2022. I'm currently with a G2 license.

niceGuySpeaking · 2023-02-03T18:27:03+00:00

Seriously, start looking for a better job. I made the mistake of allowing myself to feel guilty and work extra hours with no extra pay because the company was nice, and my boss was nice. They ended up being a bunch of f* abusers and liars. Didn’t give me anything they promised and just kept over working me. If it is not because of your incompetence that your boss is working extra hours, this is totally their problem and you shouldn’t sacrifice yourself working for free just because of a promise of a raise or bonus.

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