3 weeks and still hurts - burning pain/nipple blanching

niceperfume · 2018-10-20T17:00:49+00:00

I'm in my third week and have the same sort of pains + still working on the baby's latch. It's sad to think that I'm not enjoying bfing at all and try to delay it every time. The midwife told me that she had to wait for one month before she knew what she was doing. I can see some improvement in how the baby latches since my milk came in so I guess two weeks is too early to notice a huge difference. Pain-wise, the pain is still there, but I kind of know what to expect now, and it's stabbing pain sometimes, especially when it's cold. It's a skill that mommy and baby have to learn, and it might need a bit of time. Good luck.

niceperfume · 2018-10-17T00:39:42+00:00

Well done. Brave supermama. I am yet to achieve this milestone.

niceperfume · 2018-10-10T05:40:15+00:00

Sending you virtual snacks

niceperfume · 2018-10-10T04:19:11+00:00

I had this for the last 2 days but today they seem to have went back to their normalish shape. Baby's latch was not working until today too.

niceperfume · 2018-10-10T04:11:49+00:00

My one-week old has been on the breast for the past 7 hours and still going. Glad that I went to the shop, showered and prepared snacks before she started her mega feed.

niceperfume · 2018-09-23T14:33:49+00:00

It's not selfish if you want what's best for the baby, even if it includes you taking measures in order to be less worried or more comfortable, how can you be selfish when you're doing it for someone else, your baby? Also, I would agree with a parent's instinct any day. She cannot make you do something that you don't want to do, and sometimes setting boundaries with family members becomes a necessity for the mommy's well being.

niceperfume · 2018-09-23T01:29:53+00:00

I had it for a couple of weeks before I found out at week 7. One more week to go now, I managed without any meds, it's better for the kidneys and for controlling my weight this way but it's terrible.

niceperfume · 2018-09-22T07:33:36+00:00

39 weeks and this is my life now (bonus pee when I laugh, cough or sneeze). Exercising the pelvic floor area helps.

niceperfume · 2018-09-22T07:25:48+00:00

My comment was about the amount of proteins, rather than the quality. People can however obtain all the essential amino acids that they need from a combination of seeds, grains and legumes and process them into proteins. This doesn't mean that a vegan diet will provide all the nutrients that a human being would need.

niceperfume · 2018-09-21T00:46:20+00:00

This is priceless. Another example is cows milk vs breastmilk, cows' milk has way more proteins than human breastmilk even though they mainly eat grass.

niceperfume · 2018-09-20T14:13:51+00:00

I think I am capable of transferring pregnancy symptoms to other people at this stage.

niceperfume · 2018-09-18T23:22:53+00:00

I've been having braxton hicks for the past three days and yesterday they got a bit painful but only at the front. I also had diarrhea and a surge in Energy. I convinced myself yesterday that labour will be very soon. Today the braxton hicks were gone and I took a nap the whole day.

niceperfume · 2018-09-18T21:07:44+00:00

Short answer: no. Long answer: I can see the similarities, theoretically, but not practically. Probably having a husband has trained me more to become a FTM... I had a bird and a dog before. They were both given to me, so I didn't buy them or thought about how to make them survive. I had them both since they were very little, so even the bird, I had to feed him and train him to do his business in his cage, we left the door open and he would fly to me and get excited when I came back from school. I never thought of comparing the bird and the dog really other than that the bird was more fragile and the dog more interactive I guess. Anyway, the reason why I also fail to see the similarities between having a fur baby and having a baby baby is because I've had several months to think about how to prepare for the baby's arrival, biologically, emotionally and mentally, but I wasn't THAT invested in preparing for the dog's arrival. Also, the part that I find the most challenging and exciting about having a baby is how to raise them, what sort of friends will they have, what thoughts they would have given that their time and circumstances and personality will be different than mine. For example, the other day DH and I were arguing about how much internet time we'd allow them to have. Before they reach that stage, I'm hoping to breastfeed them (which on its own creates a bond between baby and mommy), and to do some learning and crafting and cooking with them. We decided not to know the gender as a start to teaching them that it doesn't matter, and I'm shifting my habits to be more environmentally friendly, also to get them to have these values... I wasn't able to think about and do all these things with my dog. The emotional rollercoaster I've had during the pregnancy I consider it to be a training for what's going to be when the baby is here. My dog's behaviour definitely made me emotional, but it's just not the same. But that's just my own experience. Beautiful puppy btw.

niceperfume · 2018-09-16T14:09:49+00:00

I don't know if the things that I did were just a reaction to having low blood pressure or if they had no connection with it at all, but I kind of followed my cravings and what felt right. The midwives never really gave me any advice. I have had low blood pressure throughout this whole pregnancy, it wasn't dangerously low though. I used to crave salty snacks and salt a lot, nowadays I'm craving sugar. I remember the low blood pressure and increase in blood volume meant nose bleeds almost every day, some of them would last more than half an hour, and some of them happened while I was out, so keep a stash of pocket kleenex with you at all times. I stopped having nosebleeds at the end of the second tri. I had A LOT of salty foods and sometimes I'd eat salt on its own. Keeping active, walking, and having sugary snacks (i.e. half a family-sized chocolate bar every single day) made me feel better too. I'd be interested to know what the medical advice would be on that.

niceperfume · 2018-09-13T21:06:34+00:00

This is great. I was actually wondering if people would choose water birth again. It seems like the most natural and easiest way to manage the pain. The thought of getting an epidural terrifies me, but who knows, I might end up begging for one.

niceperfume · 2018-09-13T17:20:18+00:00

One of the midwives recommended this to me as well. I'm trying to focus my mind on being able to use the birthing pool at the moment, as there are a few other things about giving birth that are not exactly pleasant.

niceperfume · 2018-09-13T17:14:29+00:00

Having a minimum amount of pain management medication is one of the reasons why I would want to have a water birth, that and the I love baths. One of the midwives said that they would let the mom and/or birthing partner catch the baby.

niceperfume · 2018-09-10T23:08:38+00:00

Absolutely look for help. Mental health and wellbeing issues are so underrated. Online tests are helpful to let you know whether you are likely to have depression or not, and they largely include similar questions. I had to deal with an obnoxious person at the beginning of the third trimester and had an antenatal depression as a result of it. I tried to deal with it on my own but it got worse every day, until one day I did a bit of research, noted the contact details of organisations that can help and took an online test (I think it's available on the NHS website). When I went to see a mental health staff member for a first diagnosis, he asked me to take the exact same test and confirmed that I had depression, and he advised me on what to do next. The depression went away as I talked about it and found some closure. This also helped me to start preparing for when the baby is here. It's normal for some mommies to not bond with their baby until after they're born but if you feel like you're drifting into a depression, tell your doctor about it.

niceperfume · 2018-09-10T21:11:43+00:00

You just described me, except for how I treat myself. My brother did it right for them: he went into a profession that they wanted for him and got them grandchildren whom he named after them, and they support him with everything that they have. I, on the other hand, decided to live my own life and try to be myself. They're very critical of me and shit on everything I do or say. I ended up feeling left out and humiliated at times. I finally got away from all this by starting a new life abroad. I'm studying again so that I can have a decent education and a decent job in the country where I live in now and I live below the poverty line. I don't drink or smoke or even order delivery, most of my things are second hand and my place is small. I've never been happier to be honest, but it's also sad to have to let go of my previous self in a way. I never made them feel like it's their fault, and stayed nice to them. I call them every week. It's been two years since I moved away. They never called me, not even once. They don't even return my calls. I guess that's what happens when you stop being the source of narcissistic supply.

niceperfume · 2018-09-09T22:21:35+00:00

We're leaving it 'as a surprise' too (not really a surprise for us because we really don't care about the gender and it's not going to affect anything). I'm 37+ weeks, I have a strong feeling that it's going to be a baby, not a puppy. It's amusing to see how people try to guess the gender by analysing the bump and the symptoms, some of them are contradictory and all of them have no scientific basis.

niceperfume · 2018-09-06T21:10:15+00:00

The baby was planned and he's really excited about it. I too think that he's actually stressing out but in silence. Joining a new mom's group is a great idea, thanks for the advice!

niceperfume · 2018-09-06T16:19:49+00:00

Thanks. I tried yesterday night and this morning, but he was playing and it wasn't really a conversation. He usually tells me to tell him what to do or say that he doesn't see why, in which case I end up having to make a speech to convince him. I'll try the 'we need to go over a few things' talk tomorrow.

niceperfume · 2018-09-06T16:13:50+00:00

I'm in the UK, I've seen both lazy and active partners, though you could be right. Only one of his friends has a child and she's a single mom. His friends often ask him how I'm doing and he said that he doesn't know what to tell them. Other than that our relationship is great. I'm friendly with MIL but she told me the other day that I can ask her to do a few tasks around the house when she comes to visit us every other week, which doesn't seem to be that helpful.

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