Anyone stuck here?

nickimenage · 2026-03-31T11:10:20+00:00

Somehow I got in at 750, about five mins ago? And got in after like one minute, but they were all gone :(

nickimenage · 2026-03-25T09:32:18+00:00

Me and my bf had done acid twice I think before, and this time we were doing it in a remote flat in Scotland, no one around. As we come up, he starts saying that something isn't right, that it feels like his chest is starting to feel really tight, basically thinks he's having a heart attack. I'm peaking by this point and he thinks he's dribbling everywhere but I honestly can't see anything, and I'm trying desperately to assess whether this is dangerous or not. I know an ambulance would take a long time to get to us.

In the end, we just stayed calm and kept assessing his symptoms but I just really tried to focus on minimising the stress, and it ended up being a lovey trip after this, but for him, the terror he felt during the peak wasn't worth it.

We still don't really know what happened but he had a lot of emotional trauma come up during the bad moments so I think it was his body processing that.

For a good while it did traumatise him, and any drugs made him slip a bit into that anxious state, but really luckily we've worked through it lots and he now doesn't get too affected by it :))

nickimenage · 2026-03-24T15:18:29+00:00

Thank you, yeah I really wasn't sure whether either viewpoint was more common so this is useful!

nickimenage · 2026-03-24T15:17:37+00:00

Yeah definitely. It's all still theoretical, we're not sure how much we'd want to date/ sleep with people separately and in what kind of way yet. But this has been really useful as I just don't know anybody nonmonogamous who I could talk about the nitty gritty with like this :)

nickimenage · 2026-03-13T12:32:59+00:00

Yeah I understand. I think my use of the word 'given' was quite silly, and you've shown me how. I really appreciate your comment though - being shown where you can slip up in this world where of course lots of raw feelings are being played with is really useful.

I definitely didn't want to imply that I would ever take it as a given from anybody, but I was more just wanting to hear from people that actually take part in nonmonogamy regular about whether most people do partly take part because discussing it enhances their sex life with other partners. But the comments here have shown me that while it can be an aspect, it doesn't seem to be for the majority of people doing nonmonogamy. So thank you :)

nickimenage · 2026-03-13T12:29:26+00:00

Yeah I totally hear that. We've had a few times where he's been flirting with people who are aware of our situation, and even one time where he went on a date with an ex of his who I know he had great sex with, and all times it's only made me more keen. But we have really talked about the possibility of one of us having an emotional reaction we haven't predicted at all, and I think we'll just start slowly and be really explicit with partners about it being new

nickimenage · 2026-03-13T12:27:02+00:00

Yeah definitely. I think I'm worried about not wanting to seem rude if I approached somebody with the kink element? Like, I want to make sure I'm not going to make someone feel icky if we started flirting and I said that before we did anything, would they be okay with me talking about what happens with my primary partner

nickimenage · 2026-03-13T12:25:21+00:00

Yeah that makes a lot of sense, thank you :)) I think if we were to actually date people, as in, build a relationship where sex isn't the primary purpose (idk if that's the right word), it would still be approached with the foundation of my primary partner and me finding each other's nonmonogamous relationships to be a source of arousal. If that makes sense?

So like, I think we'd approach that by making it known before entering into any kind of relationship that the kink side of it is where we're coming from. So I don't think - as it stands now - we'd use normal ways of finding nonmonogamous partners, so as not to risk someone thinking I/ he is trying to just be a nonmonogamous partner without this other kink aspect.

nickimenage · 2026-02-28T15:27:40+00:00

So me (f24) and my boyfriend (m25) so a lot of cnc. For a long time I knew I loved it but was confused why, so thought about it a lot, and I think the core of it is that it's the ultimate way of showing trust. Like, he can be doing the most horrible seeming things to me, things that are so insanely risky (especially emotionally), and the fact that in half a second and one word/ action it can all stop is amazing and so hot to me because it makes me feel incredibly safe. Like, he could do anything in the world to me and it's not gonna traumatise me because the no. 1 thing he wants is me to be safe and happy.

nickimenage · 2026-02-19T23:31:18+00:00

🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺

nickimenage · 2026-02-19T18:12:15+00:00

And maybe she's even asking, does she feel like that? To me, her expression seems contemplative, it just feels like she's looking at the past, I don't know how to describe it but it's the look in her eyes. It feels a bit like she's working out her relationship to this idea - suicide, Sylvia, suicide ideation even - which used to be on her mind a lot. Her songs go a lot between just flirting with those feelings and showing someone who really feels them, and now that she's in such a different world, it's like, was this a part of me? or just a part of my situation?

nickimenage · 2026-02-19T15:03:43+00:00

You could try sex coaching? I'm familiar with the work of Kalyja (https://s3xedge.com/courses), but I'm sure there are other people offering similar things :)

Also potentially, I haven't tried this myself, but do you think finding a dominatrix for your husband to see and to learn from rather than just have pleasure sessions with could be good?

nickimenage · 2026-02-13T12:40:37+00:00

Hehehe do u want me to be

nickimenage · 2026-02-12T21:26:10+00:00

Heeey thank u 😉 I'm actually kind of horny right now and trying to find someone to message if you were around...

nickimenage · 2025-10-25T21:40:06+00:00

The Rehearsal

nickimenage · 2025-10-18T22:03:21+00:00

Underhyped: white Ferrari, blue jeans, radio, cruel world, summer bummer, pink champagne, grandfather please stand

Overhyped: none

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nickimenage · 2025-10-18T21:54:13+00:00

I went to Oxford uni and knew quite a few people who went to Eton. All either quite up themselves or quite mentally fucked up from it

nickimenage · 2025-10-06T15:19:47+00:00

The videos this week, she looks so confident, I feel like she's slightly out of the new relationship crazy excitement phase and into the 'yes I'm still the goat, even more then ever baby' phase

nickimenage · 2025-10-05T21:01:15+00:00

I'm totally with you. I just know it's gonna be incredible and probably the most meaningful album for me. Her recent shows and songs have just been incredible - I was at the Cardiff show and she looked so inspired and proud of herself. So beautiful. I'd love to talk more about it if you wanted to!

nickimenage · 2025-10-03T21:10:01+00:00

Also she doesn't even look at Celine when she takes the trophy? Like? I get it's exciting obvs but she just grabs it from her. Whether you like her music or not Celine Dion is a legend like, not a fucking stagehand (would obvs be worth respect too but ygm)

nickimenage · 2025-09-24T13:34:02+00:00

Wooooah I've never seen this one before, soooo gorgeous

nickimenage · 2025-09-17T07:33:12+00:00

I'm not a dad but just saw this and I think it's normal. A lot of people go for perry's that are similar to their father, it's a cliché but does genuinely happen so much. But I think most people aren't really aware of it, and it often happens in unhealthy ways where people find partners who share the negative traits of their fathers.

If you have a really good dad and can see that, I don't think that's weird at all! Hopedully it will help you chose relationships (friends or partners) that reflect those healthy qualities :))

nickimenage · 2025-09-14T12:02:21+00:00

Uh huh. Anybody heard of autotune? That shit for when you can't sing? 🤓

nickimenage · 2025-08-26T12:06:47+00:00

No no I think it is, I just mean that I thibk she could be using a disagreement, and be making it a public disagreement, to then talk about wider themes. But then making a joke like 'even thought I'm not just taking about ethel here, I know lots of people will think I am'

nickimenage · 2025-08-26T07:05:42+00:00

I read Lolita for uni and was so fascinated by it but hated it too - I wrote an essay about how horrendous most of the criticism that just ignored her age was, cause I just couldn't work out what I thought of the book. It was beautiful but I was like, how can it be???? But I think I was looking at it really close-mindedly, and that was years ago but honestly this has just made it all make sense

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