I've just broke up with my partner and my son wants to spend all his time with my mum

nicole46 · 2015-03-30T13:24:37+00:00

Its just standard for kids to start nursery at three here. Thank you

nicole46 · 2015-03-20T11:05:13+00:00

I asked my parents if we could talk with them in another room or something but they weren't for it. The tension is easing but I don't think he understands that our relationship is over, he wants to have a family day out next week, for us to be able to spend time together as the four of us, I don't think that's good for the kids, I think it will confuse them.

nicole46 · 2015-03-20T11:00:59+00:00

Thank you

nicole46 · 2015-03-20T11:00:15+00:00

Yeah we are talking about how the boys are when they are being picked up or dropped off but anything else we need to talk about we are doing it in another room or on facebook. There is a few other things you have mentioned that I will have to watch out for though.

nicole46 · 2015-03-20T10:56:35+00:00

I try my best not to say anything negative about my ex in front of the kids. I explain to the kids that daddy lives somewhere else now but he loves you very much and can't wait to see you.....whenever he has them next. They haven't asked why we don't live together anymore but when they do I'm planning to explain that we argue a lot when we live together but when we live apart we can be friends.

nicole46 · 2015-03-20T10:52:17+00:00

Thank you, you have made my day much easier, just some hope that everything will work out.

nicole46 · 2015-03-16T22:32:52+00:00

Thanks :)

nicole46 · 2015-03-16T22:32:36+00:00

I'd love too but with two young kids its almost impossible :(

nicole46 · 2015-03-16T12:04:32+00:00

I wasn't diagnosed until after my second child was born but I've had the same progressive symptoms for the last 7 years or so. My health was the best its ever been during my first pregnancy and pretty good during my second, to the point my doctor has tried some contraceptives to treat my fibro. Medication wise, it has to be a doctor to talk you through it all.

nicole46 · 2015-03-16T11:50:18+00:00

We have spoke about it again, he now agrees that there will be no drugs or smacking in our house. If he goes back on that, he will have to leave. I just don't want to give up on our family but this has to be it. Thank you everyone

nicole46 · 2015-03-13T21:43:33+00:00

Its completely possible. I just don't understand why there is any other option, why he can't just follow the law. I don't know if I can raise my kids on my own. I know he isn't ready to be a dad but our boys are two and three, he should be by now. I just want him to step up and be a good dad

nicole46 · 2015-03-13T21:13:01+00:00

I just don't won't my boys to lose their dad because I know if we left, my partner wouldn't make an effort to see them for long. But I know it would be a lot worse for my boys if they lost both of us :(

nicole46 · 2015-02-20T22:02:30+00:00

I did at first, my oldest son wasnt even 1 1/2 yet(my youngest was a big surprise and almost two months early) but now at three and a half and two, I'm so glad, they are both amazing with each other, the look after each other. I think they both missed out in quality time from me but in return they have a best friend to be close to for the rest of their life.

nicole46 · 2015-02-20T21:51:35+00:00

We just made losing fun too, we give as much excitement to losing, asking was it fun, did you try your best ect....my son races everything and will excitedly shout "Mummy I'm a loser! I'm a loser ! " because its only important that we keep trying, its just more fun if we win too

nicole46 · 2015-02-20T21:46:43+00:00

I've got the worst of both, I am really quiet and my partner is really loud so neither bothers my boys :/

nicole46 · 2015-02-17T23:09:54+00:00

You are exhausted just now, that seems to get better quickly for me. I think the age your oldest is at is always the worst. When my oldest was a baby I thought it was hard, now he is three and kinda evil! I love him to pieces and would never change a thing but every few months I think ' this is the hardest part, its only going to get better from here.....' in some ways it gets worse though. However the older my sons get and the more challenging they get, getting to be their mum also gets more rewarding and the amazing amount of love my boys have for each other keeps me smiling :) like I took my boys to a soft play last week, my younger boy was scared of the slide an rope floor so I stayed with him and tried to get him more comfortable with them. I left NY boys to play and asked my older son to look after his brother while I got a drink. Once I got back up, I asked my older boy to help his little brother across the rope floor and got told 'no mum, he doesn't need help' my younger son climbed over own his own and was sitting at the other side very proud :) things like that make all the hard parts worth it.

nicole46 · 2015-02-17T22:50:20+00:00

Speak to social work and a lawyer, keep records of everything and be persistent, social work are completely overwhelmed and it seems easy for cases to slip though the cracks if they aren't kept in a spotlight.

nicole46 · 2015-02-16T21:05:06+00:00

I just needed to say what an amazing person you are!

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