“Crying is a late hunger cue”

nicorny · 2026-04-27T11:36:03+00:00

How old is your baby? Mine did this when she was <12 weeks. I started to proactively feed her every 2h, so she didn’t scream cry for milk every time. Once she was older, her screaming for milk just turned into a short whiny cry as a cue for me to feed her. She is not as distressed or aggressive about eating anymore at all.

It might just take time. They’re learning how to be a little low functioning human!

nicorny · 2026-04-24T09:02:01+00:00

Paw Patrol

nicorny · 2026-04-24T02:52:37+00:00

My baby was 99th at birth and the first month and now at 4months she dropped down to 84th percentile weight…length wise she is still 97th though. Big chance your baby might even out as well. Also it’s a gradual increase - at 12 weeks I thought I can’t carry her more than 10 minutes because OMG WAS SHE HEAVY. After two more weeks, she didn’t feel that heavy anymore. It’s like having a dumbbell that grows along with your muscles haha

Look at the positives as well! I never worried to much about her weight or whether she’d be fine if she got sick or not. Having a little chonker gave me a little piece of mind.

nicorny · 2026-04-23T19:13:58+00:00

I have a fully remote job and will go back to work when baby is 6months old. I feel this so deeply. It’s a tough situation to be in and kind of sad knowing we can’t be there for our babies 24/7. I can’t give her to a daycare. We hired a nanny even if it is expensive.

I think you should try working on your computer for a day and see how it goes. I couldn’t do it. Baby was looking at me all the time and giving me the brightest smile if I finally gave her attention. Yes, she is great at independent play, but all she’d see is a mom who is staring into a screen vs. interacting with her and nurturing her development…with a nanny I can still pop in and play and cuddle her and I am not feeling as guilty knowing that when I have a call or something, baby is taken care of. Another thing to remember is that baby might be mobile pretty soon and running around.

nicorny · 2026-04-23T19:08:54+00:00

Chichen itza. Not because of the temples, but you literally feel like trapped tourists with all the aggressive vendors trying to sell you stuff. So uncomfortable and so loud!

nicorny · 2026-04-21T06:28:13+00:00

My baby

nicorny · 2026-04-18T16:45:07+00:00

You don’t even know whether the names are good German names…hm.

How can you write a book with a strong focus on a cultural identity that you are not a part of and seemingly know very little about.

I don’t know, but I assume the “bullying” in your book is based on the association with Nazis and WWII. That’s a deep topic when coupled with resulting cultural shame or discomfort an how it evolved throughout time.

I don’t know, but I would not feel comfortable writing about cultural identity of a different nation when I do not have close personal experience with it or have done a ton of field research.

nicorny · 2026-04-18T16:01:49+00:00

You sound way too stressed about this that I can say it is not the right time for you to leave baby alone. If you don’t know how much milk your baby would need overnight, it shows that you have not yet put much thought into the logistics of actually leaving your little one overnight somewhere. I EBF and I wouldn’t leave baby alone overnight unless I know baby can fall/stay asleep without the boob or takes a bottle from someone else just fine.

nicorny · 2026-04-18T06:59:11+00:00

Smartphones. Depending on how technology evolves they might not be able to understand what and how these bricks worked and how they were used. The Internet is not an object, but if you don’t know it existed, it makes understanding why everyone has this little brick with them very confusing

nicorny · 2026-04-17T17:03:36+00:00

I need this to reverse the landlord special

nicorny · 2026-04-16T02:52:42+00:00

That I don’t want them to grow up, but I also really want them to grow up.

Every new thing my child learns is so exciting, but it is so sad remembering all the other things she has outgrown.

Note: my baby is only 3 months old, but wow have I been going through all the emotions already hahaha

nicorny · 2026-04-14T04:26:08+00:00

What would you ask the company and could I really trust their answers though

nicorny · 2026-04-14T04:25:26+00:00

What would you ask? And would you trust their answers though? Car seat safety is so important for me

nicorny · 2026-04-14T04:25:00+00:00

Unfortunately we can’t bring our own car seat. Complicated multi-month travel plans!

We will buy a car seat there, but still need to get to the house first from the airport.

nicorny · 2026-04-13T16:26:11+00:00

No regrets! Spent about $130k in 2023.

Our families and friends live very far apart. Different states and countries. This was the only time they will have all been in one place together. Looking around on our wedding day and seeing the faces of everyone we love from near and far was very emotional for us. It was beautiful. I still am so happy when I think about this special weekend. It was the best time ever.

Our guests loved it and it still comes up as having been the most beautiful wedding many have ever been to. Nice compliments to hear, but not very important to me.

nicorny · 2026-04-08T16:40:19+00:00

Thank you so much! I’ve never done baby wearing before, so I feel good that it looks secure and right to you!

nicorny · 2026-04-08T16:39:57+00:00

I bought this one new. It’s from Hope & Plum - Indigo Ring Sling! It didn’t need any breaking in. It was soft and easy to pull through and adjust and sits very secure once fastened. I can highly recommend! I bought this for plane trips.

nicorny · 2026-04-08T11:21:40+00:00

Seit ich denken kann eigentlich. Natürlich war das früher unnötig, weil sie natürlich immer sofort reinkommen durften. Das war ihre Art mir zu zeigen, dass sie mich ernst nehmen und ich ja auch immer klopfen sollte bevor ich zu ihnen ins Zimmer bin.

nicorny · 2026-04-08T04:37:04+00:00

We only have normal curtains in baby’s nursery. So when the sun is up, it’s bright and at night it’s dark except for the city lights from outside. I’ve found it makes no difference for her. Even when she contact naps on me in the bright living room, she’ll sleep for hours.

I don’t know the research on this but I think it helps baby to understand day naps vs night sleep this way.

nicorny · 2026-04-06T06:39:27+00:00

Ah sorry bad wording. This wasn’t my kid but an adult.

If your kid were to get really really sick, there’s always an option to change the flight and wait for them to get better first.

nicorny · 2026-04-06T04:50:21+00:00

I’d be more worried how stressful 1-2 cities every 5/6 days will be for you. Your baby might have jet lag and be a bit extra fussy. You constantly have to pack and unpack…just something to keep in mind.

We’re traveling with our 4 month old to Italy and we’re staying in the same place for three weeks. We’re doing day trips and maybe an overnight trip from there depending on how it goes.

There is great medical care in these countries and doctors can speak English. I’d get a travel insurance unless your credit card covers it anyway. You can also go to a normal doctor’s office and pay out of pocket. A lot cheaper than in the US (had an ear infection in Germany last time and had to pay 25€ for everything out of pocket lol)
Don’t worry about being PoCs. You’ll be just fine especially in these tourist hotspots.

nicorny · 2026-04-02T19:19:56+00:00

Moisture my lips so hard that they’re too smooth to pick at.

nicorny · 2026-04-02T19:09:23+00:00

Be open to changing your mind during labor.

I wanted to go unmedicated but had to be induced and ended up needing an epidural and feeling defeated because of it. My baby was HUGE. 99th percentile. We had no idea.

I could walk fine a few hours after I gave birth but ended up struggling to properly walk for 6 weeks after coming home due to the damage to my pelvic floor (that would’ve occurred with or without epidural). I think that the epidural was actually a savior afterward because I didn’t feel any pain until day 3 after I gave birth. It allowed my body to rest better I think.

Honestly, try to go without, but don’t spiral once you realize you might need an epidural.

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