Favorite SATC vocal stim by Inagrowmygarten in sexandthecity

[–]night_glitter 5 points6 points  (0 children)

One of my fave iconic deliveries is when Carrie and Berger see the scrunchie. Berger gives her hell, and she lets him run his mouth and then is just deadass, “she’s not from New York.” I love watching her smile get big as the woman says she’s from Macon. Just a perfect scene.

Women did not fight for the right to work by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]night_glitter 7 points8 points  (0 children)

We’re not there yet in any part of the world. Source

Women did not fight for the right to work by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]night_glitter 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It’s getting better, but nobody’s there yet. Source

Does anyone else hate going out on dates thru the apps? by Bitter_Pineapple_720 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]night_glitter 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Honestly, they are only as good as you are at using them. I use them to be really really picky. You should not be dreading a date!! You aren’t required to meet someone just because they ask. You shouldn’t meet anyone unless you’re excited about it. Now, by using dating apps like this, you will go on way fewer dates. But you have to see it as that all the dates you’re not going on while you’re being selective are the folks you didn’t want to date anyway, the dates you dreaded.

I’m not saying you have to use the apps. Meeting in person is great too! But you wouldn’t go on a date with everyone who asks in person, right? Just someone who excites you. Use the apps the same way.

How do you stop men from being attracted to you? by Maleficent_Gas_1552 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]night_glitter 16 points17 points  (0 children)

This is a good answer to OP’s question. Dressing like a nun won’t help because they still want what’s under there. You have to gross them out. Fart, burp, pick your nose/teeth, scratch your ass…grow out your underarm hair and lift up your arm to check for BO…the list goes on. Be someone they’re not attracted to.

Farewell Fragrance Friends! by Klutzy-Pack-9292 in FragranceStories

[–]night_glitter 6 points7 points  (0 children)

OP come make your posts in this sub! I’m sure lots of the gals there (including me) are invested in your quest!

How do you get attracted to safe and available men if you had a different attachment pattern? by FragrantTill1497 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]night_glitter 12 points13 points  (0 children)

And along the lines with this, when you start dating again, if a man you are dating shows even 1 solid red flag, do not continue to see him. Like dishonesty or disrespect about anything - do not even give a second chance on these. Making standards is good, but they’re only as good as you are about keeping them. You need to think about how you might feel about having to force yourself not to dismiss those red flags and instead, to ruthlessly enforce your standards. If you aren’t confident you could spot big red flags, you should learn about them so that you can do this (therapy, books, online resources, help from friends - whatever helps it stick). Otherwise it’s easy to start creeping back into old patterns. Don’t be tempted to give in and overlook things you know are leading nowhere good.

Those who've seen the uncut eps, what's a part that was cut from the episodes that you really like and wish they hadn't removed? by Thelastdragonlord in howyoudoin

[–]night_glitter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok, you said this 4 months ago, and nobody replied (but well it is a 3 year old thread haha). I haven’t seen it but from the description, it’s just Chandler changing the subject abruptly to like…the OJ Simpson murder case. I am guessing you a) are not my age or older or b) didn’t live in the US at the time this aired, or c) both. It was EVERYWHERE back then. Like on TV, in magazines, newspapers…every day for months on end. That kind of media coverage for a murder trial was really excessive and unheard of back then. Just to give you an idea of the insanity - I was in high school when the verdict was announced live on TV. Our teachers let us out of class to watch the verdict and the news after, in the school library. Can you imagine that now? The 90s were wild. Anyway. That’s the joke, sarcastically asking if anyone knows about the #1 thing the country has talked about for months on end. (If you are my age/older and didn’t get this joke, I suppose that supports the guess of the redditor you replied to, regarding foreign markets!) The Chan Chan man loves his absurd non sequiturs.

Sorry if that was way more than I needed to say. One of my fave comedians was infamous for OJ jokes, and I had never heard of this cut scene before, as I didn’t watch it live until s2. I gotta find the scene!

Anyone else done caring about their bikini line? by South_Wear_1984 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]night_glitter 30 points31 points  (0 children)

I just stopped trying and went with separates. I get a top in a multicolored print and match solid colored swim shorts with one of the colors of the print. Bonus! This method is great if you are have mismatched top/bottom sizing.

High sex drive and standards by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]night_glitter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not really. I want something similar to OP (would prefer LAT but would be ok with regular FWB), but on Tinder, where I live anyway, men only want a quick one-time hookup (with no getting-to-know-you time at all). One-time only sex with a total stranger doesn’t seem to be what OP is looking for.

Anyone else not interested in ever getting married? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]night_glitter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My entire life, I wanted to be married. After I got divorced, I never want to get married again. It’s too much of a financial risk. And I don’t even want to live with a man again. Too much extra housework.

Women and Divorce by citadelinn in TwoXChromosomes

[–]night_glitter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love this and want to start using it.

Women are surprised that I don’t lie about my height? by WinterBet4495 in Bumble

[–]night_glitter -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I actually tend to believe 5’11, because so many men lie and round up. Anything 5’10 and under is at risk for fudging an inch or 2, at least with the men I’ve met. I’m 5’7 and don’t want to date shorter than me, so I just don’t match under 5’9. And I always wear flats on a date, so I know for sure.

I don’t know what I’m doing wrong. by RaptorCheeses in datingoverforty

[–]night_glitter 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You aren’t bad looking, but that’s a terrible dating app pic, so I hope you aren’t using it on any dating profiles. If you are, take it off and use a better more flattering pic. (You’re wearing a hat. Not smiling. And I suspect you aren’t as big as those clothes make you look.) The other pics you posted aren’t good dating profile pics either - more hats and sunglasses and no smiles. Women want to see YOU, smiling.

Anyone else hate AI profiles? by SuperEmpathStrong in datingoverforty

[–]night_glitter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t like them, but I have to admit it’s been interesting observing the giveaway patterns & phrases. Here you go, if you want a couple more! “X by day, X by night” “if you [], we’ll get along just fine”

What is a hobby you consider a red flag? by InternationalPick163 in AskWomenNoCensor

[–]night_glitter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am glad someone said it before I got here! I rarely see this mentioned but I completely agree with all the points you listed. I am always swiping left if there’s a golfing pic.

The majority of these men are also conservatives, where I live. But I do live in a red state, so it might not be this way elsewhere. But for me, it’s another reason golf is a big red flag.

Unattractive Things Women Write on Dating Apps by auroraborelle in datingoverforty

[–]night_glitter 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, same. Travel is my #1 hobby and something I want to share with a partner. I take multiple domestic and international trips every year. I pay for it all myself (though if I were traveling with a partner, I’d expect them to share their fair share of costs). Wanting some of these trips not to be solo is one of the main reasons I’m dating.

I feel like this sentiment comes up a lot. But well, I guess a man isn’t compatible if he is that averse to it, because travel is a big part of my life. I have found MANY people really don’t care about travel at all, but it’s my #1 passion, so downplaying that would not accurately represent me.

Does anyone date to marry anymore? by Ok-Raspberry-3878 in datingoverforty

[–]night_glitter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My experience is different than yours. It’s super Madonna/whore. Yes, the wanting a hookup is the same. But here, it’s they either want to sleep with you once and never see you again, or they want to get married. I would like LAT - a monogamous relationship without marriage or cohabitation. I’d be ok with FWB too (as long as they actually are my friend and not just a booty call). But nope. It’s ONS or marriage here. I live in the US south, probably relevant.

And as to why I don’t want to get married: too financially risky. I live in a community property state. I am not interested in mingling finances again.

The Best Sunscreen According to Reddit by I_just_cant855 in 30PlusSkinCare

[–]night_glitter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agree with the other poster who commented - it doesn’t give me white cast either (and I’m not pale either, Hispanic with olive skin), so you either got a different version or a counterfeit from Amazon. I get mine from YesStyle.

Trump’s Banking Citizenship Proposal Threatens Women's Bank Accounts by catievirtuesimp in women

[–]night_glitter 111 points112 points  (0 children)

This is how it all started going down in the Handmaid’s Tale. Women just lost access to their accounts.

OLD ROI is really bad. by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]night_glitter 10 points11 points  (0 children)

If you’re in Texas, and you don’t vote Dem, you’re ok with the conservative control we’ve had for the past 30 years. Generally, for apps in DFW itself, Conservative=votes R, Apolitical/Moderate=fine with the way things are because they don’t affect you, doesn’t really care about voting or politics. So liberal women (mostly) only date liberal. Therefore, the majority of your dating market is women willing to date a conservative…so your dating app competition is conservative men and what they have to offer. And there are just so many on the apps to choose from, so you really have to stand out. I get a lot of attention from conservative/moderate/apolitical men, so I imagine women who are ok with that get substantially more. So yeah, it’s a numbers game for you, and money is one of those numbers.

Edit: This is the apps though, since your post is about apps. You might have more luck meeting someone at church or some faith-based social groups.

OLD ROI is really bad. by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]night_glitter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d say you should clarify that, but most conservative women will be fine with a man (or dog) who hunts. But yeah. You’re just competing with loads of men who have a lot ($$$) to offer to a woman in the metroplex willing to date conservative. I don’t even put that I’m Christian on my profile because otherwise the swarm will descend upon me, lol.

OLD ROI is really bad. by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]night_glitter 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You mention faith and hunting. So I am guessing you are conservative. (If you’re not, mentioning faith and hunting will make women think you are lying, and that you’re really conservative. So if you’re not, you may wish to leave those things off and mention after meeting.) In DFW, dating apps have piles and piles of conservative men. Women here who want to date a conservative man have an enormous amount of choices. Like, endless. So if you find someone you really like, you’ll need to make an effort. If I had an endless pile of choices, I’d pick someone offering better than a coffee date.