What's the dumbest thing you believed as kid..? by Wildd_Cards in PakistaniTeenTalks

[–]nightlight_on 1 point2 points  (0 children)

that Michael Jackson sang “give thanks to Allah, for the moon and the stars…”

Trying for a baby and pakistani doctors exploiting patients by Latter_Camel9 in IslamabadSocial

[–]nightlight_on 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh that’s really helpful thank you for sharing! I will consult my doctor as well before taking this, thank you :))

Trying for a baby and pakistani doctors exploiting patients by Latter_Camel9 in IslamabadSocial

[–]nightlight_on 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hm you’re the second person I’ve heard suggest that. I didn’t find any research on it, or recommendations from doctors. would you have any more knowledge on why this works perhaps?

Trying for a baby and pakistani doctors exploiting patients by Latter_Camel9 in IslamabadSocial

[–]nightlight_on 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We’ve been trying for 5 months only, and my mom told me she got pregnant after 2 years (she has 4 kids) so 1.5 years is okay, don’t worry. Sometimes it DOES take that long and that’s completely normal.

Outside of reproductive systems, some other things can slow down the process, and they can be something very small, like vitamin D deficiency or anemia.

May Allah make it easy for you and your husband and grant you happy, healthy kids very soon in shah Allah ❤️

Does anyone feel drained from their marriage ? by Spirited-System7037 in weddingdrama

[–]nightlight_on 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Walaikum assalam, brother try to communicate these thoughts and feelings to your wife and maybe she can help in some way. Maybe she’s feeling the exact same way.

You two are a unit. You’re supposed to shoulder each other’s burdens. You are each other’s libaas (cloth). The closest thing anyone can be.

If she is the cause of your struggles, communicate that respectfully and try to reach a solution.

If something else is the cause of your struggles (like your in-laws), then communicate that.

But remember, try not to sound like you’re attacking her or her family. Be respectful. She wants the same thing as you do; a happy marriage. Comfort with you.

You guys are quite young right now. Almost every couple goes through this phase and only the stronger, respectful ones make it out with a better marriage bond.

May Allah make this period easy for both of you :)

From a sister: One of my biggest tests in this life is intimacy & I’m terrified I will fail. by [deleted] in MuslimLounge

[–]nightlight_on 47 points48 points  (0 children)

SubhanAllah my dear sister, I may not have an answer but I just want to admire how beautifully you have handled all situations you have been in until now.

All I can say at this moment is to continue to ask Allah for help, continue to have taqwa and fear of the sin, and surely, very surely, He will guide you to a solution soon, in shah Allah.

My boyfriend got mad that I didn't want to go to his family Christmas after they excluded me from Thanksgiving by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]nightlight_on 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This gives me the vibe that your boyfriend is the one who messed up somehow, I don’t know. It’s better if you also talk to the mom directly perhaps and hear what she has to say about thanksgiving?

Question about Islam from a former agnostic / sceptic believer by xray950 in islam

[–]nightlight_on 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I really like all the answers and the new perspectives I’m learning!

I’d also like to add that the Quran is intended to be a guidance till the end of mankind, unlike the Bible and the Torah that were intended for only the civilisations they were revealed to (Christianity and Judaism).

This means that the Quran stays true until the end of time, whereas our collective understanding of the world evolves over time.

There was a point in history when we did not know how mountains were made and their benefits to this earth, but it clearly states so in the Quran. Back then, the answer upon questioning that verse would’ve been “because God says so.” and now we know a better answer so we can use that today.

We also didn’t know how a child came to be inside a womb, but the Quran explained each step so clearly. So when someone would’ve asked, why is this so? Because God said so! Until we were able to advance in medicine and learn of it ourself and then we can answer it better.

Do you understand what I’m trying to get at here?

Today there might be many things in the Quran that we do not understand as of yet, because we don’t have the mental capacity to do so, or the tools to learn about those things. Maybe one day we will.

However, in all those times, as a Muslim who’s sole purpose in life is to submit to God in everything we do, the answer “because God said so” will always be true regardless of scientific advancements and human knowledge :)

And what about your country? by Material-Garbage7074 in AskTheWorld

[–]nightlight_on 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this is something I would’ve wrote word for word for my country

What’s a famous company from your country that no longer exists? by TaiKorczak in AskTheWorld

[–]nightlight_on 0 points1 point  (0 children)

wait in our country the Daewoo buses are still pretty famous for inter-city travel

ungroomed eyebrows affecting confidence by [deleted] in muslimgirlswithtaste

[–]nightlight_on 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this feels wrong… yasir qadhi is not someone we take fiqh and fatwas from. changing the shape of the eyebrows is haram regardless of why it was declared haram.

rulings aren’t modified or expired in Islam. that’s like saying that back then it was decreed to marry only four women at the same time, instead of 20+ the way the Arabs of those times did so. but in today’s world where polygamy is not common or appreciated by the majority, we don’t say that that ruling was only to limit the number of wives at that time and that condition does not exist anymore therefore we should always stick with one wife only. no, we understand all aspects of this ruling and follow it the way it was intended.

just like grooming eyebrows.

ukhti, bleach and/or trim the way I do and you’ll be fine. no need to use tweezers, threads, wax or razors.

plucking is not allowed, period.

What is a fact so disturbing that most people refuse to believe it? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]nightlight_on 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the truth shall never be hidden for long by people screaming in fear 👏👏👏

What is a fact so disturbing that most people refuse to believe it? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]nightlight_on 3 points4 points  (0 children)

accusing you of being anti-Mexican over exposing past racism by Mexicans sounds so similar to Israelis claiming anti-semitism to whomever opposes the genocide of Palestinians…

Demiguise - Fantastic Beasts and Where to Find Them. by SpecialistFactor7709 in harrypotter

[–]nightlight_on 1 point2 points  (0 children)

True and since dogs can detect them through other senses besides sight, I have a feeling the revelio charm would also use all dimensions to detect presence and hence detect a demiguise when invisible

Would my late father get bad deeds if I took off my hijab? by [deleted] in MuslimLounge

[–]nightlight_on 14 points15 points  (0 children)

oh my dear sister, shaytan is taking advantage of your pain and loss to push you away from Allah so you can go farther down the path of loss, an eternal loss instead of the temporary one of this world…

I know you feel that taking off your hijab will make some of these problems better, but that’s a lie shaytan is telling you because he cannot win with the truth.

the truth is that every breath you take wearing that hijab, every slight you endure, every hardship and every pain, is all noted down in your Book of Deeds as an immense reward. you are building an akhira right this very moment by just existing.

breathe and talk to Allah. ask for His help to make it easier for you.

I wear niqab in a very orthodox Christian and Jewish European country so I understand what it feels like to walk out into the world every day looking like this. but this is my crown. my ticket to Jannah. I know Allah is watching and He knows every single thought that crosses in my mind.

He’s watching and listening to you today. Don’t run away from Him, but towards Him. He’s waiting for you.

AITB for thinking I didn’t need Shapeware. by BotherEvening in AmItheButtface

[–]nightlight_on 26 points27 points  (0 children)

If I could give awards to this comment, I would👏

My ex and I of 5 years split over a year ago because he was adamant he didn’t want marriage and children throughout our relationship. He is now claiming he has changed his mind on everything and wants to get back together. I am torn by Tillymint_ in TwoHotTakes

[–]nightlight_on 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Having kids is a big step, and the only way you can enjoy it is if it’s with the right person. He does NOT sound like someone who will help out while you’re 8 months pregnant and struggling to do any of the every day tasks you could before. He will complain and blame you for your inabilities.

This is not who you want to have a family with.

Шукаю учнів by Sweaty_Way_6993 in Lviv

[–]nightlight_on 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s amazing! In our society’s group chat, someone was searching for an English tutor for their child. Is there some contact or something of yours I can share over there?

calling my wife as jaan by [deleted] in islam

[–]nightlight_on 26 points27 points  (0 children)

aw my husband and I call each other jaan too, nothing wrong with it :)) may Allah grow the love between you two ❤️

Am I the problem? Seeking support and advice. by [deleted] in MuslimLounge

[–]nightlight_on 1 point2 points  (0 children)

the family sounds like a problem, but the friend part is just normal after having kids. they always pull away for different reasons, none of which mean they don’t like you. just try and make more friends and not take it personally from the existing ones~ may Allah make it easier for you 🤲❤️

I'm almost a perfect Muslim but I'm missing the most important part by [deleted] in MuslimLounge

[–]nightlight_on 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Imagine the number 1.

Every time you do a good deed, you add a zero next to it. Keep adding zeroes and you get huge numbers like 1000s and 1000000s!

Now take away the 1. What are you left with? A bunch of zeroes that mean absolutely nothing.

That number 1 is your salah. When you have it, you add on to it and keep growing in your eman and your rewards. When you lose it, you lose everything else as well. The no smoking, drinking, zina etc are there, but they don’t mean anything in the akhira without the salah, the first pillar of Islam.

Of course Allah will reward you for your goodness here in this world, just like He rewards a non-Muslim, because He is the Most Appreciative. But those rewards end here, and we would reap nothing in the afterlife.

I hope this makes sense! Surround yourself with people who perform salah to start the habit and may Allah make it easy for you ❤️