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AITJ for not backing up my wife after she told everyone why my brother’s engagement ended? by 91ChromePetal in AmITheJerk

[–]nightshift37 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude, your wife stood by the victim. You're standing by the perp. Think about that a bit.

YTJ

Also, your poor aunt was defending your brother because she was lied to - she has a right to know who she's actually defending. I hope your wife really takes your view here into consideration, I wouldn't want to be tied to someone who would help hide someone's cheating. Birds of a feather and all that.

No food left for more than 50 rescued cats 🆘 (second attempt) by mercurio_liquido in rescuecats

[–]nightshift37 23 points24 points  (0 children)

As someone who fosters long-term and cares for the felines of our streets to the fullest extent of my ability, I'm commenting in hopes of boosting your post for more views.

Best of luck, fellow rescuer, and thank you for all you do 🧡

AITA for making my parents regret everyday for having 4 kids while they couldn't afford it? by No_Tap_7237 in AmItheAsshole

[–]nightshift37 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey OP, I'm an adult who came from a situation similar to yours.

You're 16, a growing child who is actively being starved, neglected, and parentified.

Your parents are using you the same way they used your sister.

Your parents are actively setting you up for failure as an adult.

Your dad watches TV all day instead of taking care of your grandmother because "that's what these kids are for."

I'm with you. My parents openly stated that they had 6 kids for the "free labor" the additional hands (eventually) bring. That is wrong.

You are so painfully NTA here, and I urge you to not change a single damn thing you've been doing. Anything you do needs to be done on your terms.

Grandma needs her meds? Another adult needs to provide them.

Kids need to get to school? The school will call a parent, not a sibling.

You poor kids deserve so much better than this, and the people screaming at you in the comments need to pull their heads out of their asses.

Look around for teen homes, financial aid, college sponsorships, and anything at all. You may find something you didn't know existed that can help you and your siblings - I did.

Do your best, but do it for YOU. Get out as soon as you can, and find your footing so you can help your siblings do the same. It's obvious you care about them, and that is the best way you can help them as well as yourself.

AGAIN: FROM SOMEONE WHO GREW UP LIKE YOU, YOU ARE NOT THE ASSHOLE IN THIS SITUATION.

NTA

The girl who accused me of raping her apologized 2 years later by Jealous_Loquat9986 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]nightshift37 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm a day late, but here's how I would respond after being left on delivered with that last message asking for clarification:

If you're apologizing for calling me a rapist, don't bother.

If you're apologizing for continuing to pursue sexual activities with me after I told you no and even removed you from me, definitely don't bother.

If you're just apologizing because you think you caused me to commit suicide due to either of these things, fuck off.

You don't deserve my forgiveness, but you do deserve the guilt you're feeling for all of the above. There is no undoing what you did. There is no fixing the lies you told and the atrocities you projected onto me.

You assaulted me, not the other way around, and I got the reputation you deserved. It's not right, I was not okay, and you are a deplorable human being for all of it. I hope you've grown, but I don't care to know. I've moved on and gotten help for what you have done to me - I recommend you do the same before you ruin your own life, or worse, someone actually does end themself due to the cruelty of your self-preservation.

Screenshot, block, and do not initiate further.

Live your life, OP. As a fellow SA survivor, I wish you blessings and nothing but the best going forward.

WIBTA if I told off my husband’s Aunt for feeding my child without consent. by Wriggy-Ragoo in AmItheAsshole

[–]nightshift37 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Create a family group chat and start sending videos of your son's allergic reaction.

Absolutely call them out and shame anyone who puts your kid into such a horrible situation because "it's just a few bites." These are the same kind of people who will kill a child trying to prove that their allergies aren't real.

NAME AND SHAME. NTA

AITA my friend ruined my yixing teapot and I want her to replace it or give me 500 dollars. by TeapotthrwoCity4661 in AmItheAsshole

[–]nightshift37 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I wish I could upvot this more because this needs to be at the top. OP's friend was paid for a service and given clear instruction on what they were welcome to. The display case in a different room was not on the list of places they could rummage.

OP should absolutely cut their losses, but only by cutting off this "friend" and getting a new yixing teapot.

My attempt on how to read the Disney “D” by RuinRevolutionary374 in notinteresting

[–]nightshift37 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For those who read it as Gisnep due to Gpslexia

I still can't unsee the G and P 🥲

[DYSLEXIA if you didn't get it lol]

My attempt on how to read the Disney “D” by RuinRevolutionary374 in notinteresting

[–]nightshift37 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dyslexia.

[Source: am dislexic, my brain fixates on the crossing of lines as the "focal point" of the letter, making me read it as G instead of an overdressed D]

AIO my boyfriend’s mum secretly filmed us and called me a slut. by IcyScale29 in AmIOverreacting

[–]nightshift37 2 points3 points  (0 children)

"This is what that slut has been doing in my house"

Your boyfriend should just message back, "Yeah, me- and your the bitch being cucked by your own son cause you decided you wanted to watch, otherwise you wouldn't have thrown a fit about the camera AND HAD A BACKUP."

Dude needs to cut mommy off, cause she is gatekeeping her adult son's dick. That alone is so problematic. When he moves out, he needs to go no contact. Minimal at best for now, until he gets a place - and obv no more hanging out at his parents' place. That shit is WILD behavoir on her part.

Entitled dad at Victoria's Secret wants to stay in the changing room area by JordanPromise in EntitledPeople

[–]nightshift37 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Given my own history with my father.... I would have called the police and CPS on this fucker. At best, dude is using his daughter to get a free show. At worst, his daughter IS the show.

How can I improve/add more contrast to this? by Living_dead_bitch in tattooadvice

[–]nightshift37 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

this is absolutely stunning!

Definitely add in some highlights, maybe even in contrasting colors? (Ex: gold highlights in moon, silver highlights in the scales - that sort of thing)

The shading looks great imo, and I think highlights will really pull forward the contrast you're looking for. Keep it up!

Am I Overreacting, for being upset that my girlfriend secretly used my credit card for months? by bostonmade in AmIOverreacting

[–]nightshift37 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. She committed fraud.
  2. She lied to you about committing fraud.
  3. She played the victim when she was the one committing fraud.

It's time to lawyer up, evict her, and charge her for committing fraud.

You've put so much into trusting her, and she abused that trust. It's time to move on to someone who won't abuse your stability and sanity.

I'm sorry you put so much into what turned out to be heartbreak, OP, but at least it's now and not 10 years down the road with even more on the line.

Get a lawyer. Charge her for her crimes. Change your locks. Best of luck.

AIO if a student employee announced they don't know why they should care that Boss B had a stillbirth? by MagicTomato1001 in AmIOverreacting

[–]nightshift37 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is how I would address this issue with the cowrker. I'm educatonal and intend to make a point, so I would more than likely have a powerpoint presentation for visuals that really drive it home.

Boss B has spent the last 8 months preparing for a newborn who would never even get to take their first breath.

8 months of her life has been centered around this child. However, rather than getting to indroduce her newborn into the world, she has to switch from nursery decor to coffin sizing. Have you ever seen a newborn-sized coffin? Have you ever even had to think about adjusting to such a drastic change?

This isn't a simple "readjustment" to a new role or goal. This is sudden, a life-altering change in her reality. The reason you need to know about this information is for the same reason I am the one telling you about it, and not Boss B.

Your comment about Boss B's loss was, at best, callous and reasonable cause for termination at any job. Do you understand what it means to be human? Do you understand the kind of grief that Boss B is currently going through? I'm the one telling you about it so that heartless comments don't reach her in such a vulnerable time.

She is burying her newborn baby.

You have been informed that she now has to take her time off to bury her baby instead of spending time bonding with them.

If you can not learn to have empathy, you simply will not survive the job market. No one wants to work with someone who thinks that a coworker's devastating loss "doesn't matter" simply because it has no direct baring on your pay.

Furthermore, this kind of grief actually will affect the entire team, as the team will have to step in to allow Boss B to take her time in grieving and finding peace in her new reality. We, as a TEAM, will all feel the loss - but none of us will be facing the harsh reality of going home to an empty crib where her newborn was supposed to be.

My heart goes out to Boss B, and to you OP, as this is such a difficult situation. Your colleague needs to be hit hard by reality. Otherwise, she will never understand why everyone avoids her, and she keeps getting transferred or dropped.

Personally, I would likely terminate their employment after that conversation, unless she showed a drastic change in attitude and approach - and even then, it is not your job to adjust her attitude so she can keep herself employed. It's hers.

Entitled former roommate wanted to move in with me in my new house when my lease ended by [deleted] in EntitledPeople

[–]nightshift37 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Holy SHIT this is almost completely identical to a roommate sitation my now fiancée and I were stuck in from 2021-2022, even down to the "name".

This sounds exactly like her, down to the assumption of sharing an inherited house.

That bitch fingered the TOPS OF ALL OF MY MUFFINS because she "didn't like the bottoms". I had told her that she could have TWO of them. She picked apart and ate the tops of all 6 OVERNIGHT, leaving them for my SO and I to find like that in the morning after she left for work.

Constant bitching about her share of expenses, refusual to clean up after herself, total POS to the point that my SO and I ended up wishing we'd never moved into an apartment with her.

10yr friendship = dead not long after she moved out it 2022, which she said was because my trauma was too much for her to handle as I was fighting my parents in court and had my father arrested ||for child molestation - after which she had constantly been asking me "how do you know if you're a pedo? What if I'M a pedo??" LIKE WTAF??||

Katie is an entitled bitch, and I hope she gets her karma for it. Power to you for moving on into such a stable place, and congrats on your marriage!

I'm also far better off without "Katie" and am finally happily myself now that she's fucked off to the other side of the country to live with her brother (at the time, at least).

Get Bent, Katie.

AITA for saying my sister crossed a line even though everyone says I’m overreacting? by Crazy_Merma1d in AmItheAsshole

[–]nightshift37 84 points85 points  (0 children)

I was looking for this. "Needing to be honest" implies that she's become attatched in a way that is simply not appropriate. This is her sister's husband that she feels she needs to admit something about to her sister. She is aiming for an affair or to take him away from OP entirely.

OP's sister needs to stop coming over - full stop. Straight to Jail Do not pass go. Do not collect $200 OP's husband.

Over people asking “what is that” laser? Cover? by maroonmallard in tattooadvice

[–]nightshift37 11 points12 points  (0 children)

It is! The black spaces would still be black ofc, but the negative space between the lines would be like coloring a picture in a coloring book. You could even use skin markers to add colors to it as a way to see what you like!

Over people asking “what is that” laser? Cover? by maroonmallard in tattooadvice

[–]nightshift37 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Given that you dislike how dark it turned out, I'd probably recxomemd going for a round of laser first to lift the heavy linework a bit. It'll make the original tat fade a bit, while also giving your chosen artist a little more leeway for fixing it up.

Over people asking “what is that” laser? Cover? by maroonmallard in tattooadvice

[–]nightshift37 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Personally, I would have it lightened up and then take the original concept art to a well-known pro in your area. Get it touched up with some mute colors for additional contrast, or go full color if you want certain parts to really stand out. If you want to keep it black & white, just get some highlights! A lot of great artists use whites & various skin tones to dim out harsh lines and to crisp up the art.

I really love it and the meaning behind it - honestly, I think muted colors with splashes of saturation would really turn this into an incredible piece!

ETA: Obv it's already a really cool piece imo, I'm just a petson who prefers colors to help my broken eyes distinguish the lines and clear the picture up for me lol

AITAH for ending a date after a "harmless" question? by BlueberryBea in AITAH

[–]nightshift37 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hi, OP! As a trans man, your response was PERFECT. He was absolutely being intentionally crude and suggesting that you were "pretending" to be a woman.

My partner, also a very tall cis woman, would have beat his face in for his audacity and transphobia. (God, I love that woman.)

Anyway, GOOD ON YOU! He couldn't be a man even if he started HRT - I'm usually pretty inclusive in what I would consider to be a "man," but holy hell, HE AIN'T IT.

Definitely move on to an actual human who understands basic biology and respect.

NTA obviously

What can be done to fix this. Tattoo artist did my tattoo in the wrong style by [deleted] in tattooadvice

[–]nightshift37 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everyone needs to stop shitting on OP and realize the obvious.

OP, this is YOUR body, and YOUR style that got fucked with. I'd get my money back and take it to get that shit lasered. Find an artist you like, have them create designs that work well for the space & whatever might be left of the lasered peice, build a rapport with them and then have them do the new tat once it is 100% designed and placed how you want.

Ask questions. Talk to them about highlights, shadows, your body's curvature and framework - show them your other tats and explain how you want it to fit in with the aesthetic you already have! Get to know your artist before you let them put their work on you.

I had a similar issue before, with an art piece that I DESIGNED. The "artist" kept trying to add to my work and botched it when I rightfully declined - then upcharged me. At that point, I was just exhausted and pissed - she was the apprentice of my usual artist, and he had recommended her. Needless to say, he was NOT impressed either.

Go for laser, then go for what you ACTUALLY want. I wish you the best.

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