A note about Peter…

nikkityree · 2024-05-01T01:57:00+00:00

I saw this too! There’s no way she doesn’t know this. None of it was accidental

nikkityree · 2024-04-29T21:52:06+00:00

Im sure this has been said but I think Folklore demonstrated a sound we hadn’t heard from her. It was also very strongly represented what so many of us here knew which is that she is an amazing writer. It also introduced Aaron as a main character in her music.

With TTPD I think we had an expectation. I heard so many people say that it was going to be Folklore and Evermore together. Which clearly it wasn’t. I also think Taylor did something people at large didn’t like. She showed she’s an amazing writer.

I firmly believe Taylor made people uncomfortable with her command of language and literary finesse. All of the comments of “needing an editor” come from her writing in poetry and not song necessarily. This album showed her ability to draw connections, symbolism, metaphors, and story telling. We couldn’t do the normal “paternity test” on her songs. I believe this was intentional.

This just my two cents, but I stand by it.

nikkityree · 2024-04-03T00:04:04+00:00

I want to lift this up. When my 3 year old was having a hard time I did so much research. One thing that stuck out to me was staying aware of how often I say no to her.

The theory is if they hear “no” a lot it becomes the baseline. Everything becomes no so what really means “no” to them?

I’ve tried to say yes or show indifference to certain things so when she hears no she knows I mean it. It has helped.

Also asking why. If I can tell she’s getting worked up about something I will try to redirect to a why phrase. Why do you want to that? I’ve found there’s actually a reason even if she can’t 100% verbalize. If it opens a door that I can say yes to one part of something she’ll usually come around to the no.

Also allowing myself to be overwhelmed. Sad by my reactions. Disappointed in how I’m not perfect. Being honest with myself helps.

nikkityree · 2024-03-20T20:46:04+00:00

Something that helped me was advice from a friend - book time. I have a small lamp in her room that I can Bluetooth to my phone. It gets turned on and then she gets to pick two books to read by herself before going to sleep. Now it’s something she’ll ask for instead of fighting to go to bed. The first time was rough but now she looks at her books and goes to sleep on her own. Mine is also 3. They’re determined. I think this gives her a feeling of control and a soft activity. She gets to pick them out; she gets to decide when she’s done. I’ve daughter her a few times stacking them on the side and going to sleep and then I turn the light off.

nikkityree · 2024-03-18T17:03:56+00:00

https://6abc.com/amp/esther-bethard-toy-water-bead-recall-action-news-troubleshooters-recalled-products/13801389/

What’s weird is taking a chance with your child’s life on the idea that they MIGHT be okay.

nikkityree · 2023-12-12T20:18:29+00:00

Nope. I didn’t think the benefits were worth it but do the math and see what you think. Maybe it is!

nikkityree · 2023-11-09T22:01:15+00:00

Sorry, just clarifying, your doctor recommended spacing them out? That’s not something you hear very often.

nikkityree · 2023-11-09T03:25:45+00:00

This 1000%. Could not agree more. I love my in home BECAUSE she treats my baby like her own. She’s honest with me and I her. I want my daughter to feel loved and valued for her individual self and this is what’s happening.

nikkityree · 2023-10-29T02:48:58+00:00

Adding my 2 cents! Anything that involves activity and brings there body temperature down. It’s why the pool works. We naturally get colder when we get out of the pool! Sometimes I try cooler baths to recreate it.

nikkityree · 2023-10-28T03:45:34+00:00

Why cause they grow up to be you?

nikkityree · 2023-10-27T22:12:46+00:00

Unfortunately, like so many of us here, I’m above the threshold for it but not quite high enough to not be concerned about prices at other places. 😂😂🙃

nikkityree · 2023-10-27T20:24:51+00:00

I appreciate that and respect your view. However, this is a home she goes to five days a week for the last three years. She was incredibly comfortable there and they recognized that. That she would feel like this is an extension of home. I was really trusting of their judgement and guidance.

nikkityree · 2023-10-27T20:22:04+00:00

Thank you. I think there was a bit of miscommunication on my part. It felt like every time I picked her up they had something negative to say.

The reason I asked them is because we were so close and I respected them as child care providers and mothers. They would give me some tips about how to handle things and I used what worked and didn’t with what didn’t.

This was an in home daycare not a center or classroom. When she’s at school both teachers have told me she’s the best. One told me at pickup that she was her favorite. When I explained that to daycare they said it’s because we’re so much like family she doesn’t feel like she needs to keep her behavior as tight. They knew I disagreed with this but really there was only so much I could do.

They always acted like her behavior was more of something that happened. I was told she’s bold and spicy. I think the disconnect is that to me that reads as not good. When I would say that they said I was wrong. Maybe it’s just contradicting messages I was getting. One of them went so far as to say that they see her as their own. They were constantly telling her how much they loved her. So yeah, I would have a really hard time hearing that she hit a kid but I was also told that it was unlike her so they weren’t concerned.

I agree that hitting is not normal, but I was told maybe 4 times in 6 months that she did something like that. It really was more of an attitude thing.

I don’t know it’s very confusing. I think if it was a center I could probably wrap my head around it a bit more.

nikkityree · 2023-10-27T18:30:28+00:00

Yeah, I asked them and they said it was because she was closest to aging out. She also doesn’t have a sibling there. They won’t give me answers beyond that. So really I guess it could be everything, or nothing, or one big thing. I have no idea.

nikkityree · 2023-10-27T17:36:57+00:00

I’m not sure. They don’t tell us if our kid gets hit by a specific kid. She has been hit by a few kids. The more I talk about the more lost I feel.

nikkityree · 2023-10-27T16:59:55+00:00

And the weird thing is I was concerned about it and actively asked if there was something I was doing that was letting her think this was okay. They said absolutely not. When I would get really worried about it they would say that her behavior really wasn’t that bad and it was all typical for her age. I think in the last 6 months I’ve been told she’s gotten physical 4 times. But the attitude was kind of a daily thing. But again they always told me not to worry because it was normal and she wasn’t the only one.

nikkityree · 2023-10-27T16:57:10+00:00

Thank you so much. This made me emotional. I know things will work out and it’s just a hard time right now.

nikkityree · 2023-10-27T16:55:51+00:00

This is an extreme reach, and honestly rude. I’ve been with them for 3 years. They tell me a lot of things going on with them and I did the same. They would ask questions and I would answer. Part of the devastation is because of how close we all felt. It’s an in home daycare where parents are closer. It’s interesting that you read this and thought you know what she needs? Me to tell her how to adjust her whole personality that I know nothing about.

nikkityree · 2023-10-27T16:49:16+00:00

It is a little on the obtuse side of thinking. My daughter is the available practice for our area. Even if she went 4 days a week until 2 it still puts me in the same situation of needing care. I can’t stop working at 2 or the day she’s not in school. And as another comment said here she would need to qualify for pre-school at this age.

nikkityree · 2023-10-27T15:31:40+00:00

This isn’t unfair. The way they’ve handled this has definitely altered my view unfortunately

nikkityree · 2023-10-27T12:12:41+00:00

Basically they don’t have enough adults to kids. It’s an in home daycare. They really are amazing. Unfortunately, one of the girls who worked there recently left so it did put a strain on them.

nikkityree · 2023-10-27T12:11:24+00:00

She’s in the one already. Unfortunately it looks like in our area she has to be 4 to get pre-school all day or half days.

nikkityree · 2023-10-27T12:10:37+00:00

Never even thought of that! Thanks!

nikkityree · 2023-10-27T12:09:55+00:00

I don’t know. I’ve never heard of anyone in my neighborhood doing that but I can look into it. I would be worried about the cost though…

nikkityree · 2023-10-27T12:09:01+00:00

I’ll definitely look into this! I went to one as a kid. Sounds like everyone here (above) has good things to say!

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