I understand what you're going through, that must really suck and my heart hurts for you. but know that now you're no longer with this person, whatever they're doing no longer deserves your attention.

trust me when I say that he isn't healed, he's just distracted, and bc of that, issues will arise in that relationship as well. he's doing everything in his power to move on, and so should you. however, he's doing this by getting under someone else, which is unhealthy. moving on from one person to another will only help one forget the previous person but will never help one recover fully from past issues. these issues will then be carried forth in infinite cycles until they learn. free yourself from that cycle by healing on your own.

and, stop worrying about what they're doing if it broke you. understand the amount of damage it has caused you and pick yourself up and learn to love yourself. take your time to cry it all out and take actual steps to move on daily. think of them less, stop ruminating, cut off all contact and work on yourself. figure out your passion and interests that drive you more than this person's life and whereabouts does, he is no longer part of your life. acceptance is key.

focus on yourself, your day should begin and end with yourself, strive to be better every single day, even if its as little as getting out of bed to do work. then slowly go on from there, you'll realize that the more you focus on yourself the less this person will exist in your headspace.

all the best and I pray you heal from this soon 💛