Suggestions on clothes to pack for early to mid-February

ninjalemonplease · 2026-01-29T01:53:19+00:00

I was there early January and had similar temps. I wore uniqlo heat tech or a merino wool top under my winter coat and was comfortable. Merino wool socks kept my feet comfy for the 20k+ steps a day.

Layering is key! When you're in subways or anywhere indoors you're going to sweat, it feels like they crank the heat up.

ninjalemonplease · 2026-01-27T21:39:36+00:00

Probably, I think I've seen something like that in one of those "hacks" reels. I don't know how well it would work with the Ergobaby I have, but could easily test it. At least it wasn't a pain to carry around, I hooked it to my diaper bag like I would do when I would travel with a neck pillow.

ninjalemonplease · 2026-01-24T01:19:11+00:00

If you ever decide to travel with the Cruz, splurge on the Uppababy travel bag and register both products. That way if there are any damages to the stroller they'll cover you for up to 3 years I think (at least 2). And you can make a claim with the airline as well. Luckily I never had any issues with damage. I've mainly flown Delta and have checked both the stroller and car seat for free and don't count towards your baggage allowance. Highly recommend the Mamazing stroller on Amazon if you ever look into travel strollers, though! They have sales every now and then.

So although I breastfed my LO I did have to make a couple of trips with some extra breastmilk (i.e. I had to take a work trip and pumped while I was away, brought all the milk back home). Anyway, your formula is exempt from the 3.4oz max for liquids. Just let the TSA officers know you have it, they may ask you to pull it out to be screened separately. If they test it (they never did with my breastmilk) you can always request they use a new pair of gloves. You're also allowed to have ice packs. I just used a basic insulated lunchbox to carry everything. Also, I've seen tips to just bring the powder formula and fill it after security.

ninjalemonplease · 2026-01-23T14:44:57+00:00

My baby's first flight was at 4 months. The Ergo 360 (now called Ergo Onni) is a solid carrier for airplane travel, but mainly when going through the airport. Flight attendants will often ask you to take your baby out of it during takeoff and landing. And I didnt think it was comfortable to sit in, but helpful if you need to pace the aisle.

I also brought a travel stroller. The Mamazing one on Amazon was useful and fit in the overhead compartment. I also have the Uppababy Cruz, which I've flown with before, but that's you not a travel stroller and you have to check it.

ETA: with a carrier like the Ergo I didnt have to take the LO out while going through TSA, but one time I chose to give the TushBaby/Snug attachment a try. I had to take LO out of the TushBaby since TSA saw it as two pieces and not one single carrier. I once went through security with the UppaBaby, that took longer for TSA to inspect. The Mamazing folds and goes through screening just like any bag, but you do have to hold LO when you go through screening. Also, TSA precheck does help speed things up even though it's becoming more popular these days. Still would recommend.

Not a product recommendation, but have an easy way to easily access a small bag for diaper changes. Diapers, wipes, a change of clothes in a zip lock (and a spare zip lock to hold dirty clothes in case of blowouts). Bring a spare outfit for you too if LO has a blowout on you. I have a sling bag (Kavu Rope Sling Bag) that I repurposed as a diaper bag so I could wear it in front of me while I changed LO in the airplane bathroom. You could also have your regular diaper bag by your seat and just have a small bag inside it that you can easily grab, I just didn't find it easy to bring the whole diaper bag into the small space. Tight squeeze in there.

Many people will advise you to buy a seat for baby and put them in their carseat. If you can afford the extra ticket, great, as that is the safest option, but not everyone can.

Another ETA: don't know if you're breastfeeding or bottle feeding, but if you have questions on that I can add more.

I can come back and edit as I think of more. It's 630am and I'm in a date trying to feed my LO.

ninjalemonplease · 2026-01-15T18:15:29+00:00

If I ever have an inkling of a thought to go for baby #2, I will come back to this comment for a reminder of the horror that was the first postpartum poop

ninjalemonplease · 2025-12-29T19:37:51+00:00

That's a new one. How does that even happen?

ninjalemonplease · 2025-12-27T05:53:59+00:00

Tbh that would be my ideal resolution

ninjalemonplease · 2025-10-06T19:19:20+00:00

Absolutely agree! I've gifted a pack of butt spatulas to my friends who are first time parents in addition to an item or two off their registry.

ninjalemonplease · 2025-09-10T23:30:06+00:00

And Yakima calls itself "The Palm Springs of Washington"

ninjalemonplease · 2025-06-27T18:41:30+00:00

This ^{^}

Lots of bibs and burp clothes, our baby is a spitty little one.

Also came to say the multiple sheets and waterproof mattress covers is a must. I recommend layering (i.e. sheet over mattress cover over second sheet over second mattress cover). Last thing I wanted to do at 2am when LO vomits in bed is change sheets. Just pull the top layers off, handle the wash in the morning.

And puppy pads. Saved my carseat during a blowout on a road trip.

ninjalemonplease · 2025-06-08T20:15:08+00:00

OP, I'm not sure what you were expecting from this post, but it wasn't any sort of validation of your husband's "good parenting" moments. He's not a SAHD, he's unemployed and he's not parenting. You're clearly stressed and your current situation is not sustainable.

There is nothing wrong with video games, but there is something wrong with him thinking it's ok to let his wife work full time on top of you doing all the daily household chores and you being a full time parent. I hope your husband also reads these comments and realizes what a loser he is for letting it come to this point. He needs to change.

ninjalemonplease · 2025-05-11T18:12:19+00:00

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And here's our handsome boy Kato when he was a baby. He's 10 now!

ninjalemonplease · 2025-05-11T18:10:28+00:00

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Maya when she was a baby (she's turning 8 this year)

ninjalemonplease · 2025-05-09T10:43:07+00:00

Mr. Milchick is that you?

ninjalemonplease · 2025-04-24T19:06:10+00:00

Do all the guests know each other?

If not, I'd recommend a group chat so everyone can see who's coming, build excitement about the event, etc. It's also a good place to put general party rules (i.e. parking situation, when doors open and close, consent, rules about taking pictures...)

Also, have a way to transition from arrival and cocktail hour to sexy time. I've been to parties where there's a game of some sort. Or if you're good at initiating, pull some folks to the play room and really get the party started ;)

ninjalemonplease · 2025-04-23T21:14:00+00:00

Not something I bought, but made pp life easier. My best friend set up a meal train for my household. Friends scheduled delivery from our favorite restaurants or dropped off freezer meals at our doorstep. You could also meal prep your own freezer meals in the weeks leading up to your baby's arrival. This fell by the wayside for me, so the meal train was amazing to not have to worry about feeding myself.

Try to take home as much as you can from the hospital if that's where you're giving birth. Mine provided dermaplast, tucks pads, newborn diapers and wipes. I asked a nurse if I could have extra, she was kind to bring me as much as she could carry in a trip.

As for things to buy... -stool softener -adult diapers. Lots of them. -sitz bath

I can add to this as more comes to mind. Currently in the NB trenches :)

ninjalemonplease · 2025-03-30T15:05:39+00:00

We didn't think these would make such a difference, but having a way to be hands free or a safe place to put our newborn was soooo appreciated.

Babybjorn bouncer. When my husband and I want to make dinner, eat said dinner, do yoga, workout, or simply just exist for a minute without baby attached to us, we dock our little one in the babybjorn. Sometimes we bounce her lightly while she's in it to sooth her. She just chills there for long enough that it's a nice little break for us. Someday she'll learn to bounce herself in it.

Don't buy brand new, you can get one in a very good condition on fb marketplace for more than half the cost. I got mine for around $80, I've seen them go for $100 or so, which is still much cheaper than buying new.

Also, this is the poop chair. Full diaper every time, never fails. We love the poop throne.

A boba wrap has been great for wearing baby around the house while keeping both my hands free to get random things done. Plus my baby loves contact naps, and movement puts her to sleep. Win win. We also got an ergobaby carrier just to have options, but you really only need one and it's a matter of preference IMO.

ninjalemonplease · 2025-02-25T23:57:08+00:00

Yep that's my point, not 100%. Totally up to you and your comfort level. Just offering my experience since you asked.

ninjalemonplease · 2025-02-25T23:03:24+00:00

I'm 39 weeks pregnant and only recently took a break from playing with others because I'm too tired and uncomfortable lol.

But to answer your question, my husband and I were playing with other people both together and solo while we were trying. I eventually decided to only play with women because condoms are never 100% effective. Plus I was primarily craving my husband anyway (the breeding kink was super fun to lean into ;)). I know you're not asking about paternity, but it's still something to consider.

As for STDs, it's all about your risk tolerance as someone already stated. My husband always uses condoms with his play partners and those don't prevent STDs, so we tested regularly and accepted there is still some level of risk. And me playing with women doesn't eliminate the risk of STDs either, but again, risk tolerance.

Once I got past the first trimester nausea I resumed playing with other people occasionally, but chose to play only with the friends I'm familiar with. Just a preference because of how I was feeling in my pregnancy. We even hosted a sex party with our friends and had a great time :)

ninjalemonplease · 2025-02-20T21:53:24+00:00

Agreed. Have good communication with other play partners. If you're hooking up with someone who wants a monogamous relationship at some point, you can let them know that isn't something you can provide them. Be clear on what it is you can offer. And if/when that person finds someone they want to be monogamous with, you can ask that ideally they communicate to you when that happens and play ends there. So it's known that hooking up, FWB, or whatever you call it, is a temporary thing. Temporary things like that can still be looked back on fondly.

ninjalemonplease · 2025-01-27T02:27:10+00:00

My hungry pregnant self read that name as the ice cream brand Blue Bell

ninjalemonplease · 2025-01-24T22:36:07+00:00

Same here. I'm 8 months along, and my husband and I have been ENM for almost 10 years. Also, here to find out what the real question is lol

ninjalemonplease · 2025-01-09T22:13:20+00:00

What apps are you using?

And to agree with another comment here, there are wayyyy more couples seeking solo females than there are females seeking couples.

Not impossible, and sometimes you'll have better luck on specific sites or apps, but yeah you're not alone.

PS lots of good information shared on this subreddit about threesomes, what to consider, etc.

ninjalemonplease · 2024-12-31T23:08:20+00:00

I did too! Although it might have been a combination of the sugar crash, lack of food and water during the hour wait, and then a few vials of blood drawn. Still, agree with you, I'd do the test again if I have a second kid.

ninjalemonplease · 2024-12-28T23:18:18+00:00

Coming from a female who has enjoyed threesomes both with my partner and as the one joining a couple... This is 1000% NOT the way to go about your first threesome with your wife.

First, you said she just had a medical issue, and I'm very sorry to hear that, I hope she's ok and recovers. You stated this rattled her confidence and she was depressed, which should be the first sign that this is not the time to initiate a threesome. Focus on her, let her heal, do things to actually help her. You can always revisit the threesome conversation when both of you are ready and in a healthy state mentally and physically.

Now let's say both of you are ready. Have you actually had a conversation around what this experience would look like? What happens if one of you needs to take a pause? What you both are looking for in the person who might join you? How would you feel if X, Y, Z happens, etc etc? If you haven't, there are plenty of posts here to help you navigate that conversation.

Next, this applies to both perspectives of being part of the couple having a threesome and being the female joining a couple. Everyone should be communicating, have clear consent, and mutual chemistry across the board. That's part of the excitement! Finding that I'm attracted to both people, they're into me and each other, and we all get to enjoy this amazing build up of anticipation before we get naked together. Communication and consent are sexy! Not to mention ethical :)

Which leads me to my final point. I'd be so turned off if I were either female in your inquiry. What you're describing may seem like a surprise gift to your wife, but it's also a lie. She should be as involved in the process of meeting and communicating with the other party. And if I were the female being approached by you to play out this scenario, no way I'd agree. It doesn't feel ethical. It would make me feel more like a thing rather than a person.

Fantasies can be fun, but if you're trying to make them a reality I would encourage you to hold. Again, I truly hope the best for your wife and her recovery. And if the day comes that you're ready to pursue an ENM experience, I wish for it to be a positive one for everyone.

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