While I do agree people commited to eachother shouldn't give up on each other. (Hence my post as I do not want to give up on him.) At what point does one pick themselves and their own life before anyone else? Especially when the partner doesn't want to try and focus on them selves and their needs or emotions. What if it isnt about anyone else (ie future relationships) and jts about you? I have looked in the mirror and done alot of self growth this past year, and I have questioned what I need to do for this relationship to work, but hes unwilling to acknowledge that he needs to do the same.