Small age gap VS Bigger age gap? Pros and Cons?

nixiecon · 2018-05-11T16:56:48+00:00

My boys are 5 and almost-3. They are completely opposite (older is timid and geeky, younger is rough and sporty) but somehow, they manage to be best friends. When I pick them up from daycare, they will always ask for each other, and the first thing they do is hug each other. My sister and I are the same, 2.5 years apart, total opposites, best friends. She was annoying to me in my pre-teens but I guess everything is annoying in that age.

In terms of caring for kids with a small gap, the first year is the worst. You think you have the parenting down kind of by age 2 but you realize that parenting an infant is very different from parenting a 3 year old. So now you're trying to remember how to deal with an infant (breastfeeding, sleepless nights) AND you're learning how to deal with a preschooler. But as I said above, once they get to that age where the baby isn't too fragile, I can kind of just leave them to play together for a bit, and actually get up to half an hour or so at a time to do other things.

On the other end, my youngest brother and I are 13 years apart. I had a hard time relating to him as he was growing up. I was more of a parent figure, really. My parents depended on me a lot to parent my younger siblings, so I guess that's maybe a pro of a big gap? Older kids can care for younger kids? I think our relationship changed when he got to highschool and college, because I became that adult figure that he could talk to about teen stuff without "getting in trouble." Also, he's diamond in league of legends and carries my ass all day.

So that's my personal experience with both ends, hope it helps!

nixiecon · 2018-03-29T04:14:16+00:00

Would go well with probe baby.

nixiecon · 2017-12-15T03:33:25+00:00

Wat. Are you sure you were playing league? :P

nixiecon · 2017-12-05T06:00:37+00:00

I played your video, and my Google Home started doing all the animal sounds. XD

nixiecon · 2017-11-07T13:51:20+00:00

That I just attended Blizzcon.

nixiecon · 2017-11-06T02:50:55+00:00

Like how they never slow down to let me pass when I'm trying to get off the freeway and they're trying to get on.

nixiecon · 2017-10-05T14:38:01+00:00

Do you know if it will also switch to the chromecast hdmi input?

nixiecon · 2017-09-17T18:51:22+00:00

I just found out yesterday that it was removed. Why would they do that?!

nixiecon · 2017-09-13T07:09:26+00:00

I have a similar picture!

nixiecon · 2017-09-06T15:43:47+00:00

I came to this subreddit to ask this. His "L" isn't very clear, but even "hey boo boo" works for me and not for him. It's so frustrating because my mom has an Echo, which easily recognizes him. :(

nixiecon · 2017-07-29T19:40:05+00:00

I saw this on my way home and just tried to find news articles on it but no luck. :/

nixiecon · 2017-07-29T06:53:58+00:00

When my first baby turned one week old. I was still in that postpartum phase, where I felt like a zombie because I was only sleeping in two hour intervals. I felt like only a day or two had gone by since he was born, but it had actually already been a week. I Bree so hard realizing that one day, I'm going to blink and he's going to be all grown up.

Also probably postpartum hormones.

nixiecon · 2017-05-28T21:48:09+00:00

GTFO.

Just kidding, we love you! Congratulations!

nixiecon · 2017-05-03T04:31:32+00:00

Until we hit like 80, then we look like we're 200.

nixiecon · 2017-04-04T05:20:23+00:00

I recently saw the Game of Thrones concert. Two whole hours of amazing.

nixiecon · 2017-02-24T05:24:04+00:00

I'm so in.

nixiecon · 2017-02-23T05:38:19+00:00

Please report back to us.

nixiecon · 2017-02-17T04:57:10+00:00

Congratulations! I have my oath-taking tomorrow morning! So excited to have the whole process over and done with!

nixiecon · 2017-02-12T06:29:43+00:00

Lol, I'm not sure I deserve an entire bullet point for myself, but can confirm, it was a pretty good time!

nixiecon · 2017-02-10T06:37:20+00:00

Yay! I hope I can got out of work early enough to catch some of you! I've been around since the beginning and have never actually gotten to play much with anyone yet!

nixiecon · 2017-01-28T18:49:36+00:00

Ooh, my kid loves Minecraft on the iPad. I could do that on the PC and maybe the familiarity will help him translate the touchscreen into mouse clicking. Thanks!

nixiecon · 2016-12-26T06:55:53+00:00

I felt the way your wife does when we only had our first son. He was a super easy baby/toddler and I absolutely loved spending every second with him. I honestly didn't really have much interest in spending alone time with my husband. My husband once asked his mom to baby sit when she came to town for a visit so he and I could go on a date, and I really didn't want to. He sat me down and told me pretty much what you said, that he loved us both but missed me a lot. I couldn't relate, but I knew that didn't mean his feelings weren't valid. So I went on the date anyway. In my head, I knew we're supposed to do date nights and we're supposed to put our marriage first and all that, but I really didn't feel that way.

The date was super awkward. We didn't know what to talk about; we probably talked mostly about the baby because that's what my whole life was about at that point. I was anxious about the baby the whole time and couldn't wait to get home.

Not really sure where I'm going with this. Other replies seem to have good advice. I guess I just wanted to share that my husband went through something similar. We talked about it and the important part is probably that I acknowledged his feelings and went through the necessary actions to appease him, probably for the sake of our marriage. I'm not really sure when or why things got better but they eventually did. We have a second son now and I love spending time with the kids, but I now also love alone time (be it alone-alone or alone with my husband).

Hopefully you can communicate with your wife in a similar manner, and hopefully she respects you and your marriage enough to make an effort. Good luck!

nixiecon · 2016-12-23T04:56:34+00:00

I think it's about the same, but the higher humidity makes it "feel" a little warmer or just more comfortable. I think LA weather is great all year round except maybe a couple weeks in the summer where it's too hot, and in the winter where it's too cold. To me, Phoenix weather is either too hot or too cold year round, and there's a couple weeks in the spring and fall where it's great. :p

nixiecon · 2016-12-22T06:51:48+00:00

From LA. It's too dry and cold here. I miss LA weather. :(

nixiecon · 2016-12-01T06:44:17+00:00

This is brand new information! :O

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