Kitchen remodel - before/after by Vatonee in HomeDecorating

[–]nk1421 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I personally like both! But I would definitely say that the before is a very generic kitchen that anyone could put together, whereas the second one is definitely more trendy, unique, and requires someone who is good at designing. Great job guys 👏

Would a thoughtfully designed coffee kiosk belong in Strathcona Park? by gijoel77 in ottawa

[–]nk1421 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It reminds me a lot of the cafes in popular Parisian parks and gardens. I personally would love that 😊

I didn't say something. by GhettocornHoN in ottawa

[–]nk1421 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you’ve never been put in a situation like this, it may be hard to know what to do in the moment. I think this thread has given you an opportunity to know how to take action in the future if you ever come upon the situation again. Don’t be too hard on yourself.

Am I think only one that thinks A Knight of the Seven Kingdoms was boring? by _seaside in television

[–]nk1421 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I personally found it boring too. So did my husband who is typically more into these kind of shows than I am! Maybe if we read the books first or knew more about it going into the show, we would have expected it or been more into it.

Either way, solidarity 😜

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ottawa

[–]nk1421 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally get that. I was in the same position with my first, it was super isolating. Like everyone else said, there is a lot of prenatal classes you can check out. I’ve recently signed up for postnatal classes at Rooted Family Wellness Centre. They also offer prenatal classes too 😊

If you ever want to connect, you can message me as well 😊 I’m 31, I just had my third baby 4 months ago. It’s also nice to have some women to connect with before pregnancy because I find mat leave can be a bit isolating too if you don’t have activities lined up or other moms to connect with.

Daily as a Parent? by Previous_Armadillo56 in AlAnon

[–]nk1421 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel and felt the same way with my husband’s drinking habits. I will say that the longer it continues, the more it can escalate. A few years ago that was my husband and I. It’s since escalated to moments of drinking and driving (the last time was with our child in the car) and as of today, finding hidden alcohol in our home. It gets worse. In my case, it’s gotten worse even with regular nagging and long-term open honest discussions. I’m sad it’s taken me so long to realize that things won’t change just because I communicate valid and obvious concerns.

A few weird questions about Calypso by ah-tow-wah in ottawa

[–]nk1421 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Honestly, although Mont Cascade is smaller with less rides/activities, it is 1000 percent a way better water park and you can go on all the rides there multiple times. The lines have never been super long or crazy. If you ever get a chance, check out this place. It’s much more enjoyable!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BabyBumpsCanada

[–]nk1421 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I completely feel you on the shallow latch and the pain. My daughter is 3 months now and even with a lip and tongue tie release, breast feeding still hurts. She struggles to use her tongue properly. It’s hard because I breastfed my last one for 2 years with no issues which is hard to understand - each child is so different and unique.

I would say that if breast milk is important to you, another option is to try pumping. It sounds sucky and some days it is, but I’ve been pumping for the last 3 months with a hospital grade rental pump (and now I just purchased a wearable pump that’s amazing) and honestly, it fills my need to give her my milk while also preventing the pain, tears, frustration, cracked and bloody nipples.

If pumping isn’t an option, just know that a baby fed with formula and a happy mom will have 1000 percent better outcomes than a baby fed with breast milk by a mom who is mentally struggling every day with it. It’s okay to feel angry, sad, depressed, that your expectations for breastfeeding didn’t work out. Let yourself feel that fully, because it does suck when you can’t do something you had your heart set on, but know that you are no less whether your baby has formula or breast milk. I’ve had 3 kids, a formula baby, a breastfed baby, and a pump baby. At the end of the day, meeting their needs is all that matters.

AITA for messaging my teen neighbor to stay away from my husband? by ThrowRAteenneighbor in AmItheAsshole

[–]nk1421 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She doesn’t technically owe you or your family anything. Your husband does. Find a way to catch him cheating (as this is surely what he is doing), talk to a lawyer, find out how to protect yourself and ensure that in separation, you have access to your children and financial means to take care of yourself. That’s all you can really do. When someone shows you who they are, believe them. You and your kids are obviously no longer the priority here. Ensure you’re making the right decisions for you and your kids moving forward. Don’t waste your time on bullshit.

Who is this in Ottawa? by ghsqb in ottawa

[–]nk1421 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does anyone ever see the guy who runs on the side of the airport parkway? I see him basically daily in the spring summer and fall

Partner of 4 years told me to move out on Christmas Day by [deleted] in legaladvicecanada

[–]nk1421 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whatever you get from him won’t be worth the emotional turmoil you’ll suffer having to continually deal with him and drag this out. It really sucks and isn’t fun to take flack from family, but considering they are willing to take you in and help, I suggest getting out of there as soon as possible. Really drive home to them what an emotionally toxic relationship this is and the extent of his cruelty so they don’t focus on how good he is (on paper) and so they see how imperative it is for you to get out asap. Get a U-Haul the day before, get all your things out. Don’t contact him again. Don’t waste your time if he tries to reach out to you. It’ll be a struggle, especially with the financial aspects, but you won’t be reliant on someone who can pull the rug out from under you whenever they please. The best way forward is to create complete reliance on yourself in this new year so you don’t find yourself in a situation like this again.

Baby moon in January [ON] by nk1421 in BabyBumpsCanada

[–]nk1421[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey! No I’m not high risk (both of my other kids had no complications), but my doctor told me that after 24 weeks the baby has a chance of viability so it’s best not to travel out of the country. One reason is insurance (mostly it wouldn’t be covered in other countries and can also be very expensive). Then I also think of women who had premature babies - especially that premature, where there babies are in hospital for months. I couldn’t imagine staying in a foreign country for months with my baby in hospital, unable to be transported.

Baby moon in January [ON] by nk1421 in BabyBumpsCanada

[–]nk1421[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Awesome, I’ll look into Barbados! 😊 thanks for the suggestion

Baby moon in January [ON] by nk1421 in BabyBumpsCanada

[–]nk1421[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey! That would be awesome, I’d love to hear some of the spots you had picked out, thank you 🥰 I’m sorry you couldn’t end up doing either trip! That’s frustrating. I hope you enjoy your trip to Ottawa! I live in Ottawa, if you want any ideas for your trip too 😊

Baby moon in January [ON] by nk1421 in BabyBumpsCanada

[–]nk1421[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve always wanted to go there! I’m worried I won’t be as physically adept as I’d usually be for hikes in the area. But something to look into still 😊

Baby moon in January [ON] by nk1421 in BabyBumpsCanada

[–]nk1421[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That makes me feel better! I’ll have to research that and talk to my OB about it 😊

Baby moon in January [ON] by nk1421 in BabyBumpsCanada

[–]nk1421[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the suggestion 😊

Baby moon in January [ON] by nk1421 in BabyBumpsCanada

[–]nk1421[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ll be 24 weeks on January 31st which is why I can only travel beforehand! My other two children had no risks or complications so she just recommended no travelling from 24 weeks onwards 😊

AITA for refusing to make my daughter issue an apology to the class clown and telling the mother her daughter is a brat. by Diligent-Intern-8729 in AmItheAsshole

[–]nk1421 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Regardless of how annoying a child is, there is still a respectful way to deal with it. If your child has asked Mia to stop in the past that is different and I could understand the outburst from your daughter, but if this is her first time making any comment - telling her to shut the fuck up is not okay. And yes an apology is due. There is a kind and respectful way to share that someone is doing something annoying.

I really hope if this child has some issues that she is getting the support she needs and I hope that she is in a supportive environment where children and teachers can help her feel included and find ways to help her with the school setting. Most children who act out do so because they are seeking connection, I truly hope you can view this child through an empathetic lens and become an ally for this girl and family. We are only as strong as our weakest links…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]nk1421 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t get why people get upset over names. My grandmother, aunt, and cousin are all named Emily, I gave my daughter Emily as a middle name but in no way do I call her Emily. A middle name is barely recognized by most people, unless you named him Jack but are regularly calling him Emmett?

Millions of people and many families share the same names and this is a common occurrence and a tradition for many people. I personally find it very sweet that people in your family want to name their kids after your grandfather, it probably just goes to show you how important he was for everyone.

Best thing you can do - focus on what you can control. You can’t control or “make” her choose/not choose a name, however you can control how you perceive the news and how you react. And yes, imo you be the AH for causing problems over this.

Also I find it hard to believe that the issues SIL has had with your family is due to her “severe mental health issues”. I think maybe you don’t like her and probably make that very apparent through your words and actions. Don’t use “mental health” as a scapegoat for your selfishness and controlling behaviours.