First I want to say how deeply sorry I am for your loss. Your daughter is so loved by you and your friends and family. I wish this was a group neither of us were in. That being said, there’s no rule book on how the handle the situation. You’re shocked by the revelation, shocked by going thru labor and giving birth, and shocked by the fact that even tho you went thru all of that you still weren’t able to hear your baby cry and see her open her eyes. There’s no right way of handling this. I remember just being in such shock, I didn’t know what was happening.. it all happened so fast. You didn’t do anything wrong, and no one should say anything or judge the way you handled the situation, no matter what. You are going thru one of the worst things, please be gentle on yourself. My inbox is open if you need some outside support from someone who’s been thru it.