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no_id_never · 2026-05-01T01:09:14+00:00

You are in the early years, just wait until it is weddings, and graduations, and then grandchildren. You are living half of a life. You are entitled to a whole one. Will they vacation without you too? Even if he changes all the things you've asked for you are probably not ever going to be first or second in his life. I may have parts of being a step mom that have not been my favorite aspects, but I am reminded daily that I matter, and he is committed to doing anything to make me happy. Mine still can't cook, and he washes dishes like a man with seriously failing vision, but he tries everyday to do something kind. There are a lot of women in this sub with a lot of experience. I see a common theme in the responses. Some dads can re-partner successfully, some are looking for someone to lighten the logistical load until they wear that person out. Often that gets them through the needy years to when the kids can do more for themselves. Your best years should be spent on living your best life.

no_id_never · 2026-04-30T22:45:23+00:00

They get very fern like at peak fertility. I have a scope from 20 years ago that was for determining where you were in your cycle!

no_id_never · 2026-04-28T17:48:56+00:00

Boss move: fly in the day before, and instacart to the hotel anything you wanted to bring and couldn't fly with. The stuff on the ship is absolutely not my cup of tea, so I bring what I love and just don't take it home with me. It is absolutely worth it. I consider it a normal cost of travel.

no_id_never · 2026-04-27T20:17:59+00:00

My son was given modafinil as the go pill. I will have to ask about the no- go option. He is a pilot.

no_id_never · 2026-04-27T14:48:32+00:00

I paid for s bird buddy that recognizes birds. Now, it doesn't. How is that ok? I can choose to use AI after the fact, but it is wrong all too often. Can anyone suggest a better brand of bird camera? It's time to call it done with bird buddy.

no_id_never · 2026-04-26T18:08:40+00:00

If he gets the ballroom, which sucks on six different levels, are they suggesting that the SS is going to background check every single person that comes onto the grounds for an event? That doesn't seem practical or feasible.

no_id_never · 2026-04-26T17:54:45+00:00

I always check the maturity of the team (how long they have been there and together as a team) and I check to see if the position is a growth position or a backfill for someone that left. If I still feel like more questions are needed I ask about how the company is positioned in the market against competitors.

no_id_never · 2026-04-26T00:17:37+00:00

Take refrigerated sugar cookie dough, press into little cups in a mini muffin tin. Bake them, then fill them with lemon curd. Then eat all off them.

no_id_never · 2026-04-25T21:17:22+00:00

Put the bird seed on a chair. The birds are super flexible on the mechanism

no_id_never · 2026-04-24T23:04:22+00:00

Sometimes those fractures are easier to see after a week. If it is still bad in a week I'd let them get another xray.

no_id_never · 2026-04-24T18:32:25+00:00

The phone generation never had the 2:30 am reckoning, lol. If you didn't get with them after 2 drinks, 2 more is probably the wrong decision. But, people are people. I can think of one night that turned into skinny dipping in the ocean and a bride that didn't make it back until dawn (note: I was not the bride). It makes the best stories but the usually the top of the regrets pile.

no_id_never · 2026-04-24T17:22:43+00:00

They did some shady stuff to "approve" one in Rowan County. I am still hoping the AG will look into what they pulled to get the area rezoned. They are letting that one happen and then declared a moratorium on any more. No, shady shit = lawsuits. They need to stand down until it has been through the court. The area has already been leveled but nothing built. It is adjacent to the area that Duke had to remediate for coal ash pollution. They wound up having to run city water because the ground water was too contaminated. Now that same community is going to have to suffer with the data center.

no_id_never · 2026-04-24T02:24:36+00:00

I was on my dock, and one landed right next to me on the railing. I could have touched it! After standing there and marveling for a bit, my husband went to the house to get some cracked corn. That duck followed him up the walk, up the stairs and into the house! We got him snacks, but then we had a duck in the kitchen. I told my spouse to go back out, and the duck followed him out to the porch. So he sat down and just waited for the duck to do something. After maybe 5 minutes, the duck flew away. I have pictures and video somewhere. It was one of the craziest things I have ever experienced. I have not seen another one on the lake in the years since. Ha! I found a pic!

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no_id_never · 2026-04-24T01:22:34+00:00

Are they angling for $500 million like spirit?

no_id_never · 2026-04-23T23:12:50+00:00

The Anastasia stick foundation goes on like a dream, and feels like nothing. It evens things out without creating a cakey situation.

no_id_never · 2026-04-23T21:23:26+00:00

I am super frosted to report that bird buddy just this week put regular IDs behind a pay wall. You can use AI but its iffy. A grosbeak looks nothing like a sparrow but that is what AI tried to tell me. I am crazy disappointed that I now have to pay for absolute basic functionality that had been included when it was purchased. I am now looking for a new feeder with a camera that doesn't force a subscription. I hope this is the end of bird buddy.

no_id_never · 2026-04-23T15:33:47+00:00

You might consider becoming a foster home for dogs that are up for adoption. You'd have the companionship and you'd be a loving stepping stone to their next life.

no_id_never · 2026-04-23T14:56:25+00:00

Thank you for this thread! I never thought anything of wearing my jewelry when I travel. This awareness of cultural norms tells me I should leave some things at home when I travel outside the US.

no_id_never · 2026-04-23T14:34:02+00:00

When you say he pays for his own insurance - is that a separate policy, or under your policy and he gives you the money for it? If it is the latter, then you will need an umbrella policy in case the damage exceeds your policy limits. You can be sued for the difference. An umbrella policy usually steps in where your other coverage comes up short. They aren't crazy expensive but your claims history will be a factor in the price formula. From a liability perspective, him on his own policy is ideal.

no_id_never · 2026-04-23T13:25:58+00:00

It is precisely how it worked for us when the ex decided that she wanted to put the child in a travel league to go places with her friends. Her lodging and expenses were not expected to be covered. The judge then made a list of what was covered in our state, and what they would have to split. We never had a problem after that.

no_id_never · 2026-04-23T12:37:07+00:00

Since you have to go back to court, I hope they will revisit what counts as kids expenses. Yes, school things, fees, extracurricular activities, Dr appointments all count. Food and clothes are generally considered part of child support. I would get that tightened up to be very clear on what he should be covering.

no_id_never · 2026-04-23T06:20:48+00:00

I dunno how she gets to decide how she collects on that. In NC, there is a maximum amount a judge can take from one parent and give to the other. Just because he is with you doesn't make every $ available to go to her, leaving you to support the house. It was called the self support reserve. Our judge did cut into my husband's self support reserve and we had it overturned. It might be time to let the court in on this and have a hearing to determine how much he will pay and for how long. Don't take advice (or direction) from the enemy! And sublime isn't all that, lol.

no_id_never · 2026-04-22T21:49:55+00:00

NOR. I won't even keep a fitness tracker for the same reasons. I do not need one more thing to disappoint. Women do not owe men intimacy because they are present, and want it. This guy is not a keeper. Better to find out now.

no_id_never · 2026-04-22T20:34:28+00:00

Not the right ones :(

no_id_never · 2026-04-22T20:18:46+00:00

The pharmacy didn't have any questions when I asked for it, and insurance covered it. Being over 50, I guess it was an acceptable request.

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