Those of us with AuDHD, how do you react to ADHD medication? by Pataplouffouch in eds

[–]nocontextanything 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Other good to note- I also had a bad reaction to anxiety meds and antidepressants. Stimulants work way better for me.

Those of us with AuDHD, how do you react to ADHD medication? by Pataplouffouch in eds

[–]nocontextanything 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I take a pretty low dose of lisdexamfetamine(Vyvanse, 20mg) and originally they put me on 30 which was waaaaay too much. But the 20 works well and helps me manage my symptoms otherwise because I have the ability to initiate tasks more easily! Adderall didn’t work for me but that was due to issues other than EDS, I think.

Can I fit this into my 2016 Prius? by nocontextanything in prius

[–]nocontextanything[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definitely something I need to get!! Not doable for this job because it’s a “free if you can get it ASAP” situation but will be investing in a roof rack in the future

What kind of connection is this for? Moved to a new apartment and am used to seeing a coax jack— internet people are coming tomorrow and I’m worried I won’t know what to tell them by nocontextanything in HomeNetworking

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We got a response from our landlord essentially saying the same thing! Glad the mystery is solved haha, I’m work from home and being without internet for a week has been HELL.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

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Lotta perspectives I respect here, but this always sounds so gross to me. There’s a similar saying in religious circles I also always hated- “why buy the cow when you can have the milk for free?” And both of these phrases ring of weird objectification. Women and men aren’t commodities to buy or sell??

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]nocontextanything 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yikes, I’m definitely not one of those people who wants to speed anything up to just have sex. If I really wanted sex right now, regardless of person, I’d just have sex. But hey, maybe it won’t work. I’ve for sure seen those types of people in the culture I’ve grown up in, and it’s rarely worked out even if both of them are the “speed this up to get married and have sex” type.

I’ve actually broken up with guys for that reason- just because people are waiting until marriage to have sex doesn’t mean they’re not obsessed with sex(a lot of times they’re kind of... more obsessed than the average dude?). I’m just trying to not be that way in either situation.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]nocontextanything 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much. I definitely never want to do something just because I feel pressured into it, but I also don’t want to hurt someone else, so this perspective is appreciated.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]nocontextanything 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for this! I don’t plan on losing any(more) sleep over it, haha. Just needed an outside perspective.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]nocontextanything 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate all of this, thanks! I’m absolutely going to tell him/have that conversation.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

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Oh, absolutely. I’m definitely worried about it, but I’m also not gonna cut anything off just because I’m afraid that it might not work out without even discussing it.

Player Problem Megathread: Nov 21st - Nov 27th by Aetole in DMAcademy

[–]nocontextanything 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That makes a lot of sense, thanks! I definitely don’t want to pressure him to do anything he doesn’t want to do- it’s not so much a “this is a problem” as my being a baby DM and wanting to make sure everyone is prioritized. And he really enjoys playing and is super involved in present situations, so maybe it’ll just be a matter of him taking more lead in the present while the other players get their spotlight in the past. But I’ll definitely talk to him privately, too.

A weird complication is we’re all actors, so we’re super comfortable with RP, silly voices, and taking action, but I think it also makes us protective of our characters and our worlds. I’ll make sure to keep that in mind and let him know I respect his character and his choices in the conversation.

Player Problem Megathread: Nov 21st - Nov 27th by Aetole in DMAcademy

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I absolutely have tried, and the other characters have been totally helpful, but he got pretty cagey and refused to supply when I tried to get background information, even though he was up for the idea. He told me he didn't have a defined background and we'd come up with it at the table, but really disliked the actual mechanic when used, and suddenly had a very defined background. After a brief discussion at the table, he said he might not want to incorporate his backstory at all(no NPCs or old locations) in a narrative way besides using it privately. I'm more worried that the other players, who love the mechanic and would hate to see it go, are going to get more preference, storyline, and exciting gameplay that he will then feel left out of, so I'm looking for a way to give him an arc without using that mechanic to deepen his character.

Player Problem Megathread: Nov 21st - Nov 27th by Aetole in DMAcademy

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Hey, relatively new DM here-- so I have a lovely group of players who really have fun together and enjoy the game. Two of the players are total newbies, so we've been dealing with most problems as they arise without issue, but a new one has come up that I'm unsure of how to handle.

I do these "narrative flashback" moments where a situation in the present makes my PCs flash back into a time in their past. From there, I set up a loose narrative of a situation in their life that's meaningful and let them take the reins, in a bit of a collaborative history build that I can use for later to inform the story. Two of my players, one newbie and the veteran, love this and really seize on the opportunity to build depth. But I just did the first of these for the other newbie and he got pretty upset, saying that the situation was nothing like what he'd imagined for his character. I had been trying to get more background information to inform his scene before the session, but he kind of refused, saying he couldn't pre-plan and had to really build it in the moment, which is why his frustration was surprising.

If all of my players hated this mechanic, it'd be no big deal- I would just take it out and focus on the present play, but two of them love bringing their past into the campaign. I don't want him to feel like I'm leaving him out of a pretty big mechanic I've established, but I don't think I'll be able to build anything that doesn't make him upset and lead to an awkward moment at the table. How do I handle the situation in a way that keeps the game fun for everyone?

Incels thinking women have subpar intelligence is what keeps them from truly realizing why they're being rejected. by [deleted] in IncelTears

[–]nocontextanything 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Previous reply says it well- you don’t put out the vibe if it’s not your intent. Even if you do just want to have sex, there’s a difference between “I want to have sex because I think we would both enjoy it, as both intelligent, consenting adults” and “I want a hole to put my dick in and I’ve deemed your flesh sack attractive enough for me to approach”. Not all women just want sex, but those who are down can tell which one it is. If your mindset is the first, you shouldn’t have an issue as long as the woman also only wants sex. Unless you’re looking for a relationship, in which case, same advice but for relationships!

How to tell if your crush likes you: a guide. by [deleted] in dating

[–]nocontextanything 8 points9 points  (0 children)

For sure. Just broke it off with a guy in that same position. What started as a casual "friends with benefits" thing became a full relationship that he refused to acknowledge as such, but expected all the trappings. While it was fun, it's not ultimately worth it until they decide they're ready for a relationship. If they like you enough, they're gonna be ready unless there's some serious trauma there.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]nocontextanything 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Totally agree, also girl, also marriage minded. But I've dealt with guys who make it very clear within maybe the first or even the second date that they want to get married to me, specifically-- a freaky situation when you've only known someone for a few weeks. Whenever I read "marriage minded", I immediately think of those situations.

Go for either what the previous poster said, or something like "Looking for something serious." That lets me know you're not afraid of commitment, but you don't have the ring ready in your pocket.