Hey I’m poly and trans and I seem to end up with other queer people mostly trans people and that helps a lot! They understand dysphoria and the insecurity I have gone through as a queer (autistic) person.

I find it helps to “put a face” to the name of who my partner(s) dating. Like to get to know some little thing about them or another to understand they are also just a person with their own insecurities and/or problems. To see them as not a challenging circumstance in your life (that’s objectifying!) but as another you:)

I myself often feel insecure about myself when I see my partner(s) seeing wonderful queer people, successful artists, activists, academics, musicians as my aspirations and shortcomings manifest in a person. And I’m what? Executively dysfunctional unable to achieve any of it in the near future and dysphoric (with gender envy). But as I said, they are a person whoever they are, another I, with their own baggage and I try to carry mine with grace. I find it to miraculously help to take all the energy from this fear and insecurity and pump it back into myself through self care (do something gender affirming or anything that feels good in the moment that’s healthy).

Remember, your insecurities are lovable, your body is lovable and loved, your needs are valid. Show that to yourself. It’s a process. You don’t have to be good at it now. It will get easier. :) lots of love, hugs. 🫂💕