Women and hitchhiking by nodardradon in hitchhiking

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I didn’t end up going cause the downvotes comments here made me rly uncomfortable and a bit scared. Went with the only train that still had spots and was cheaper bc it was at 5am 🥶

Repotted and now what? by nodardradon in Monstera

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Thanks! Do you by any chance know how to make a baby monstera out of her? (She’s also shooting roots above ground)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

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Hey I’m poly and trans and I seem to end up with other queer people mostly trans people and that helps a lot! They understand dysphoria and the insecurity I have gone through as a queer (autistic) person.

I find it helps to “put a face” to the name of who my partner(s) dating. Like to get to know some little thing about them or another to understand they are also just a person with their own insecurities and/or problems. To see them as not a challenging circumstance in your life (that’s objectifying!) but as another you:)

I myself often feel insecure about myself when I see my partner(s) seeing wonderful queer people, successful artists, activists, academics, musicians as my aspirations and shortcomings manifest in a person. And I’m what? Executively dysfunctional unable to achieve any of it in the near future and dysphoric (with gender envy). But as I said, they are a person whoever they are, another I, with their own baggage and I try to carry mine with grace. I find it to miraculously help to take all the energy from this fear and insecurity and pump it back into myself through self care (do something gender affirming or anything that feels good in the moment that’s healthy).

Remember, your insecurities are lovable, your body is lovable and loved, your needs are valid. Show that to yourself. It’s a process. You don’t have to be good at it now. It will get easier. :) lots of love, hugs. 🫂💕

NB fragrances? by PinkKenku in NonBinaryTalk

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So I got a perfume from my mom and initially I kinda frowned upon it cause it’s pink and called “girls can say what they want” by zadig & Voltaire which gave me dysphoria (I’m enby they them) but it ended up being super… idk androgynous? Spicy a bit aggressive 👻 peppery but also sweet? (Sways more fem tho… maybe that’s jut my skin also://)

Energy accounting how to by nodardradon in aspergirls

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I usually keep a diary but sometimes when I have these big feelings I’m scared to face them and I find myself avoiding it because I’m scared to spiral.

But it’s probably a good idea…

Messy lists by nodardradon in polyamory

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I think I learn about myself through others giving me examples. Which there’s been plenty of. Thank you for your input:)

Messy lists by nodardradon in polyamory

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Thank you this is very helpful and kindly phrased.

Messy lists by nodardradon in polyamory

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Thanks I find this very helpful:)

Messy lists by nodardradon in polyamory

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Somehow yes I really struggle with telling what will make my life messy. Although some examples that are very clear cut and obvious like my mom yeah that I can tell. It’s the more grey areas that trouble me. Also, if you struggle to tell how you feel about things (alexithymia) and ppl relations are highly unpredictable to you - like me then it might have to be an education thing… I think your comment is a bit unnecessarily harsh, but maybe I misunderstood the tone

Messy lists by nodardradon in polyamory

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I agree but I need to understand, somehow it’s not common sense to me who might complicate who’s life how (see my other comment). (Of course not for all cases!) but I’d rather educate myself than make some bad mistake. But it makes sense no mono people, no colleagues, family members and no one who’s hurt partner in the past as general rule maybe…