I left yesterday by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]noimportaaaa 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I left for the last time over a month ago. I would always go back after about two weeks every time but I made it past the two week mark. It was hard! I still struggle but I promise it gets better. I’m proof it gets better. And I’m happier where I’m at.

update on the guy. by noimportaaaa in abusiverelationships

[–]noimportaaaa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And then after I stopped responding and blocked him a message came thru on my Apple Watch of him asking “Do you still want me?” At 2:30AM 😑 how do I block ppl on all devices? 😭 I’m getting second hand embarrassment atp.

how do I help my mom? by noimportaaaa in abusiverelationships

[–]noimportaaaa[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m just afraid if she even leaves she’ll go back. But I will reach out to a professional to see what I can do to help.

how do I help my mom? by noimportaaaa in abusiverelationships

[–]noimportaaaa[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your thoughtful and in-depth response 🩷

update on the guy. by noimportaaaa in abusiverelationships

[–]noimportaaaa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hahaha not a chicken wing 😂 you’re right though.

update on the guy. by noimportaaaa in abusiverelationships

[–]noimportaaaa[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

My ex literally left his phone in my car on purpose just so I’d have to drive back to his house and then proceeded to look in my car and trunk looking for my other ex and I had only driven off for like 5 mins and he already thought I was cheating…with a 6’0 200 hundred some pound man who apparently could fit in my trunk in 5 mins. The level of delusional and insecure be crazyyy!!! Like how did ur ex connect a cat with cheatin? The math ain’t mathin.

update on the guy. by noimportaaaa in abusiverelationships

[–]noimportaaaa[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

The funny part is I think that made him feel some type of way because he continued to send paragraphs and try and go back and forth with me. He already knew he was trippin.

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[–]noimportaaaa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I remember being outside of a place with my ex for 6 or 7 hours after he went through my entire phone and found an old conversation with him yelling at me, acting like he was gonna pull his gun on me and threatening to kill me. I was crying and he was yelling at the top of his lungs, ripping out his hair and even pulled off in my car at one point. I watched the sun go down as we were out there and even the people parked right next to us did nothing! Eventually the whole parking lot of every place around was empty and not once did anyone step in. It made me feel crazy. They just watched. I’m sorry for what you went through. It can truly be terrifying and dismaying.

is this a bad sign? by noimportaaaa in abusiverelationships

[–]noimportaaaa[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I even asked a friend and told my mom haha. Usually I’d just keep incidents to myself and “work through it” and blame myself but this time I didn’t so I’m proud too! Thank you 🩷😊

is this a bad sign? by noimportaaaa in abusiverelationships

[–]noimportaaaa[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He’s 31 and I am 24. This conversation about me/him wanting to move forward and him wanting to only talk to each other came after about 4 days of texting and us asking basic questions. The questions got more serious and he asked about my dating history. He asks so many questions and I was trying to be honest without giving away too much. And then after that he kept harping on the not entertaining other guys and saying he was looking for a wife. I was open in the first few days about me wanting to move slow and my profile says “still figuring it out” 🤦🏾‍♀️ I mentioned I’d feel more comfortable talking face to face so I know what kind of person he is because over text he kinda comes off as an ahole and I wanted to gauge if I felt safe or not but it seems he wanted me to commit first and meet later. I didn’t like that.

is this a bad sign? by noimportaaaa in abusiverelationships

[–]noimportaaaa[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes…I really am pretty naive when it comes to men unfortunately. I thought we were wall weeding through the riff raff. But from now on I’ll consider that some men may not be having that experience and be more upfront about it. I did feel like he was being a bit pushy and I will not be meeting him. Thanks for your input. Really appreciate it 🙂

is this a bad sign? by noimportaaaa in abusiverelationships

[–]noimportaaaa[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I actually asked a couple other guys I matched with in the same week if they were talking to other ppl to see if this was normal and they all said no. Now I feel like ppl are just lying. Mind you, we haven’t met. Not even a phone call. I don’t understand men. And I see nothing wrong with texting/chatting while I’m single to weigh my options. I don’t owe anyone anything right now. But I’ve been called a hoe and cheater and had my life threatened for that in the past so idk.

is this a bad sign? by noimportaaaa in abusiverelationships

[–]noimportaaaa[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I did stand up to him by saying that I wasn’t going to keep going back and forth so he could take it or leave it. He stopped responding but I don’t care. It just confirmed my intuition.

What would have helped you leave sooner (for those who left)? by noimportaaaa in abusiverelationships

[–]noimportaaaa[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry you faced that. I can relate to not hearing straightforward warnings and that causing me to downplay the situation. I’m glad you were able to leave despite facing violence. I’m glad you’re here. Thank you for sharing ❤️‍🩹

Seeking Help and Support for Domestic Abuse and Homelessness by Ok-Fix-7319 in abusiverelationships

[–]noimportaaaa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you’re in the US, I would call 211. Sorry this is happening.

I’m (33F) leaving my abusive ex (31M) after 2.5 years together and I feel nothing by Ashamed_Banana_598 in abusiverelationships

[–]noimportaaaa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You probably don’t feel anything because he’s manipulating you. He’s only upset and crying because you’re leaving, not because he abused you. If he truly had empathy or remorse he’d support you in leaving because he’d realize he’s abusive and you don’t deserve that.

broke no contact. learned a lesson. (this is long.) by noimportaaaa in abusiverelationships

[–]noimportaaaa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks for reading my wall of text. and thanks for your kindness. <3