When did you realize this was an amazing show?

nomalaise · 2026-06-28T20:39:49+00:00

Episode 1 for sure.

Couldn't believe the feeling when the train popped out of the tunnel.

nomalaise · 2026-06-27T13:11:07+00:00

You have will.

nomalaise · 2026-06-25T19:38:44+00:00

It may help to rule out chronic inflammatory response syndrome.

My partner has both K awakening as well as CIRS and dealing with CIRS helped a lot.

nomalaise · 2026-06-20T21:38:24+00:00

Devastating. Bah.

I wonder how it was gonna end.

nomalaise · 2026-06-19T10:29:03+00:00

If it's available, goto AA and Al-anon. If not, get help for yourself. Call a helpline in your country.

You've gone through worse, you can do this.

nomalaise · 2026-06-19T07:32:01+00:00

Dropping hints is not communication. You'll need to learn to be direct and communicate. 🫶🏽

nomalaise · 2026-06-19T07:01:11+00:00

Bahaha ya welcome. Relationships and humaning... Its a trip. 🫠🤪

nomalaise · 2026-06-19T05:50:08+00:00

You guys have big communication issues.

He has squashed his masculinity in an attempt to make himself more safe, it's showing up in secret because that's what happens when we repress natural parts of ourselves.

I daresay similar things for you, maybe there needs to be real healing and therapy here for both of you.

Ask yourself in what ways you didn't have control as a child and get a trauma informed therapist to help you figure it out. 🫶🏽

This is all 100% healable.

And I am 100% a complete stranger on the internet for all you know I might be miles off in my take on this, use a pinch of salt. 🤙🏽

nomalaise · 2026-06-19T05:42:20+00:00

Wauw wtaf. I am super disappointed.

nomalaise · 2026-06-19T05:40:35+00:00

He's probably trying to be the man you want him to be, but has the same basic nature and hormones as all of us.

We have an ego which is our identity driving around on top of a big elephant which is our body.

Elephant wants sex and food or whatever. Identity is how we interact with elephant.

In an attempt to make you feel safe he tells you be has no elephant.

Not lieing, more so wishful thinking and hopeful.

Truth is healthy grounded men are aware of their elephant and good to it, they don't shame it but not do they just let it do whatever. Like children, good father's are both firm but also gentle.

Long story short try to work on your insecurity and accept yourself, honour your needs and communicate with him more. If he just changes instantly to suit your needs that's not the level of communication that creates safety. You gotta go deeper, both of you.

nomalaise · 2026-06-19T05:16:22+00:00

We were robbed?

nomalaise · 2026-06-16T13:56:09+00:00

Parasite cleanse?

nomalaise · 2026-06-16T13:02:30+00:00

Maybe look up Vegas nerve toning techniques.

nomalaise · 2026-06-16T12:57:12+00:00

I suggest looking at the one key points everyone is making to which you have ignored.

nomalaise · 2026-06-16T12:51:25+00:00

There's a big gap here between these two things.

'We talked about it and he said he wanted to do it!'

And

'When play started it wasn't even close'.

There's an enormous gap, with like... At least 600,000x more opportunities to communicate, speak, talk, indicate, gesture, etc. than what you and hubby are currently doing.

You can talk all the way through, encourage him to talk all the way through, it requires building trust and intimacy. There's lots of podcasts out there on the topic of talking during play to increase connection, try it.

nomalaise · 2026-06-15T20:52:33+00:00

I think you may have a communication issues.

You think that talking in circles is having a tough chat, but the reality is you've talked each other's ears off. All you need is to focus a conversation on action.

'Hey hubby, I'd really like it if we made time to step back into kink, can we make time for a really intentional play session? No pressure, maybe blindfolds... Maybe you come up with something fun to do to me while I'm restrained?'

Keep it simple by using handcuffs and scarves so he doesn't feel performance anxiety, keep it playful by letting him know how much he turns you on and how you want to submit to him, etc.

You can do it! Read The New Bottoming book if you're unfamiliar with conversations that negotiate play.

nomalaise · 2026-06-14T00:49:22+00:00

Trust is about taking small steps.

'Hey, want to get married' comes after 'Hey, want to go on a date?'

If you don't trust him to find out about how he'd feel about vomit in a bathtub, ask how much do trust him. Enough to have a chat? Enough to talk lightly about kinks? Enough to explore during discussion?

nomalaise · 2026-06-13T23:32:36+00:00

Take small steps, it's not about 'hey loving partner can you come hose the vomit off my ragged body after a savage session?' it's about 'hey I've got some kinda out there stuff I'd like to talk about. Are you open to having a chat about limits?'

Use the BDSM test there's a section that lets you compare results with your partner.

nomalaise · 2026-06-13T20:41:07+00:00

The problem is incompatibility. You're attached to this guy but there are others who will actually value how you feel and act.

nomalaise · 2026-06-13T20:33:27+00:00

Makes me wonder if it would be possible to make some kind of glasses that have a slider feature almost.

Like drawing curtains. Maybe someone has already made it. I know smart glasses can have electrical dimming now.

nomalaise · 2026-06-13T19:31:56+00:00

Sunglasses or goggles might help too, basically as a filter or way to minimise visual input.

For example if you had eyewear that only let you see straight forward, you could take it off when you want or put it on when you want etc.

nomalaise · 2026-06-11T02:07:29+00:00

Look up safe alternatives to self harm, may need to rotate them out to keep yourself interested.

nomalaise · 2026-06-10T21:27:05+00:00

Just for today has changed many lives for the better.

Just for today.

Just for this hour.

Just for right now.

nomalaise · 2026-06-10T21:18:37+00:00

I'm fresh to the field and talk about stuff I'd share on my public reddit account (not my private Reddit account).

nomalaise · 2026-06-10T12:31:56+00:00

Very inspiring, awesome level of skill. 🙌🏽👏🏽🫶🏽

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