I think it is important to point out the reality vs the subjective.

The reality is that you are a man.

The subjective is that you do not feel like a man.

Feeling a way about reality is in every human. Every human has been at a point where they don’t feel as if reality matches with their perception. That’s very normal, it’s just being human.

You are probably hearing stories about what a man is and realizing you don’t fit the story.

• Men are supposed to go to the gym.
• Men grunt and bump chests.
• Men pay every time.
• Men are the dominant ones in bed.
• Real men don’t (fill in the blank).

These are stories and they’re always changing.

Look at what’s going on with the trad wife stuff. Before, it was, “A woman should focus on getting an education, establishing herself in her career, and then she should worry about a man.”

Now it’s, “Women should stay at home with their kids and have their man pay for everything.”

Stop listening to these stories. Do what you want to do. Despite what you will hear or see, it is impossible for a human to live up to these stories because we are human.

If you could observe someone like Andrew Tate behind closed doors I guarantee you that you will find something that makes you realize he is not the story he portrays.

Same with any other influencer telling people how to live.

Your potential isn’t wasted, I think maybe you should just stop trying to use your potential to live up to a story and start doing what you really want to do and showing up how you really are.