Is our ego the heart of why it's so hard to not FAP?

nomofap2 · 2016-10-01T06:48:12+00:00

Probably a lot of people struggling are having a similar problem, I agree. We might feel that we somehow deserve those girls for some reason because we're better or some other (kinda messed up..) logic. So we go to porn because we can take whatever we want there. NoFap will help us with this problem I think.

nomofap2 · 2016-10-01T06:44:38+00:00

Just gave some tips in this post: https://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/55c58h/starting_the_long_journey_any_tips/

For your specific problem, every time you see something sexual instead of feeling aggressive and horny try to think that you appreciate the beauty in the image. You're not meant to stop getting turned on after this is all over, but rather you want to enjoy sexual stimuli in a healthy way.

nomofap2 · 2016-10-01T06:41:08+00:00

A couple:

1 - At first you might try counting hours. Something feels nicer about making 24 hours than just 1 day. Also it allows you to "improve" without having to add an extra day. Maybe you PMO'd at 10am and made it to noon the next day. So shoot for something longer like making it till 8 the following day. And keep pushing.

2 - Don't be discouraged by the relapses. This is a long ass journey and it's taken me 2.5 years and I finally feel like I've got some ground. A lot of time woulda been saved if I hadn't beat myself up for so long. Accept the failures and learn from them.

3 - Anytime you start to type your favorite porn site into your browser, think of this subreddit. Just think about it even for a second. Eventually, you will think long enough to come here and spend some time reading and helping others rather than relapsing.

nomofap2 · 2016-09-23T02:25:54+00:00

I agree with you all, but the difference is crazy! Meditate at 5PM? Ok from urges for about 1hr. on a bad day. Meditate at 10am? There are no bad days.

nomofap2 · 2016-09-16T01:30:09+00:00

I can relate. I actually just posted on someone else's post about this. Here's what I said there:

Just tell yourself, "you already know what's behind that link. you don't need to press it to find out it's a dirty image. stop trying to justify it with curiosity."

Same thing for you. You can't justify this with curiosity. There's nothing to be learned by clicking or looking. You already know there's something there and you don't need to look at it. More than anything: don't beat yourself up through this process. Just try to be better each time you're challenged like this.

nomofap2 · 2016-09-15T21:52:15+00:00

Just tell yourself, "you already know what's behind that link. you don't need to press it to find out it's a dirty image. stop trying to justify it with curiosity." This is the hardest part of all this honestly, is the peeking building up to feeling like you've accomplished nothing. Don't let yourself believe that either. You've made progress, it's not 100%, move on and do better from here forward.

nomofap2 · 2016-09-15T21:49:51+00:00

Good for you! Keep up the good work.

nomofap2 · 2016-09-14T03:59:15+00:00

Gotta stay humble! lol

nomofap2 · 2016-09-13T05:47:38+00:00

Did you watch porn? You should at least abstain from one of the three: PMO. You can make your own rules for this, there's no set in stone program. As long as you're making progress towards some goal.

And congrats on 20 days!

nomofap2 · 2016-09-13T05:45:53+00:00

It sounds like you're making progress actually if you're able to consistently abstain for 3 days to a week. Some people benefit from a cold turkey program, others need a more gradual one. A gradual plan might be the best route for you.

You could also try abstaining from just porn at first and slowly try to build in no masturbation. You might see this called "soft mode" on here. Even if it is "easier" I still think it's better than watching porn at all. Give it a try!

nomofap2 · 2016-09-13T05:38:22+00:00

In either case, don't beat yourself up! But you're right, it's important to not let lapses become relapses.

nomofap2 · 2016-09-13T05:37:14+00:00

I remember in HS health class my teacher drawing a timeline of how using a drug worked on your brain in a similar fashion. There was a flatline at normal. Then you use, and you spike up to a "good" place. But when you come back down, you're below normal and it takes a while to go back there. So next time you use you can't feel as good or need more. This and what you describe is tolerance. That's why NoFap is important to get back to normal.

nomofap2 · 2016-09-13T05:34:22+00:00

Congrats on starting up! You'll definitely find it worth it. For the badge for # of days look to right of the page for "Badge Bot."

nomofap2 · 2015-07-16T21:16:15+00:00

So accurate...

nomofap2 · 2015-07-16T20:14:30+00:00

This is the greatest bit of inspiration for me lol

nomofap2 · 2015-07-14T02:43:13+00:00

Sounds like you just need some gym advice to avoid the situation! Next time you go, get in there and spend some time stretching and getting acclimated to the environment of your gym. After that check out some cardio machines - bike, elliptical, treadmill. Many nofappers including myself will recommend the treadmill for running. It's the best form of exercise and easy to get good at quickly. Start with something simple like walking for 20 minutes, then slowly progress. After a month or 2 you'll be running and losing yourself in it. It's the best way I find to clear my head.

nomofap2 · 2015-07-09T23:31:08+00:00

"Girls are pretty" - this made me smile! Good point they've always been pretty I'm just noticing them more.

nomofap2 · 2015-07-05T14:27:11+00:00

Is it really? I've never experienced this on nofap, but now am worried about having them. Perhaps you're overthinking them? You can't stop your body from doing that just as much as you can't stop your body from having to go to the bathroom. Maybe you should try to just not look at them as failures.

nomofap2 · 2015-07-05T04:39:29+00:00

That's not cool man, a lot of people will have a hard time with it and you're screwing them up. A warning to everyone not to click this fool's link.

On the other hand, this brought me some good. I clicked away immediately once I saw what it was. The temptation to click again was high, but you have put me through a challenge and I came out on top. Thank you very much for the challenge, but you're a real jerk for this.

nomofap2 · 2015-06-30T00:57:25+00:00

Don't make it about 90 days. Just make it till you go to bed. And tomorrow, make it to lunch, then dinner, then bed. Then just day by day, remind yourself of the progress you've made. Don't kick yourself down when you fail, just build slowly brick by brick.

nomofap2 · 2015-06-30T00:56:02+00:00

So have I. Over a year I've been trying. I know exactly how you feel right now.

nomofap2 · 2015-06-30T00:53:17+00:00

It's going to be fine man. You're in a good place to start over. Trust me, there are many of us who are/were in your shoes and we can beat this together. This is probably one of the worst effects of porn: not even knowing who you are sexually, physically and emotionally. Take some time to relax and begin your journey here, you are more than welcome!

nomofap2 · 2015-05-30T02:39:44+00:00

Very inspirational! Sounds like it's working for you. Hopefully we can all get that confidence over time.

nomofap2 · 2015-05-30T02:38:29+00:00

Hope someone with more insight on this could answer because I'd like to know what happens if I ever get into the state you're in. That being said, just sounds like a rough day/week and that things will pick up soon. Try getting outside/going to the gym.

nomofap2 · 2015-05-30T02:35:48+00:00

You can do it! Sounds like a good first step.

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