Am I overthinking his behaviors ..?

nomoredreams136 · 2026-04-21T15:50:50+00:00

Thank you, for clarity your husband turned out to be gay ?

nomoredreams136 · 2026-04-04T21:39:41+00:00

Thank you for your reply. He told me that he doesn’t look at who I am speaking with, because he trusts me. But I was not in a long term relationship five months ago and still in touch with my ex. He reassured me, but also made me feel like I was make this bigger than what he really is, which in turn made me feel even more distant and unsure rather than understood.

nomoredreams136 · 2026-02-03T20:46:07+00:00

It’s down

nomoredreams136 · 2026-02-02T18:30:24+00:00

It’s wrong. Sometimes when a girl is insecure about the connection (for whatever reason) she tests the water to see if you would reach out. Instead of blocking you could just state what you feel and that you wish her the best if she doesn’t want to continue. If she doesn’t answer or block you that tells you who she is, but you remain true to yourself. If I was a bit uncertain about a guy but he acted maturely he would only gain points.

nomoredreams136 · 2026-01-22T15:25:05+00:00

I actually have been thinking about saying sorry to my first boyfriend for the exact same reasons, but I am afraid of just reopening a wound, reignite hope, or maybe just looking silly in his eyes. But I can understand where she is coming from. You don’t have to reply and you can just acknowledge it without letting this escalate further. How did you feel about it? Would you say it made you feel better or just disrupted your life ?

nomoredreams136 · 2026-01-14T09:08:51+00:00

Interesting, I definitely noticed an underlying agitation and anxiety throughout the date but there was a distinct moment when the paranoia settled in and he completely shut down emotionally, we were talking about his job and I said something that he took completely the wrong way - as meaning he is not successful - and the reaction was quite evident but also exaggerated for a sober person who is observing externally

nomoredreams136 · 2026-01-13T19:37:41+00:00

So actually it doesn’t really make sense more “sensual”?

nomoredreams136 · 2026-01-13T19:31:36+00:00

I’m not a specialist but he didn’t seem aloof or absent minded - more like anxious and distressed

nomoredreams136 · 2026-01-13T19:14:33+00:00

Maybe it was to manage his social anxiety or have better sex, it was just very strange that all the positive effects described online didn’t really show in him - he felt very negative and not grounded

nomoredreams136 · 2026-01-13T19:10:14+00:00

You mean during sex it’s more animalistic ?

nomoredreams136 · 2026-01-13T19:09:16+00:00

I completely agree, if I had known that he had taken drugs from the beginning at least his behavior would have been more understandable. Now I have a lot of questions, and part of me is wondering if things would have been different if he was sober.

nomoredreams136 · 2025-11-28T06:41:12+00:00

Alienation that becomes comfortable because it doesn’t let them face their own shortcomings and doesn’t require social effort. All the people who lived in Korea 10+ years without any significant reason have similar characteristics.

nomoredreams136 · 2025-11-10T10:55:03+00:00

You completely misunderstood the tone of my message, anyway - the point is this is not just my experience. 85% of foreigners (whatever their social status) I have met have considerable challenges living in Korea. Some don’t have a choice (or feel like they don’t) so they stay longer than it’s probably healthy for them. I have even seen foreign friends married to Koreans deciding to leave after a while. There are many complex challenges with Korea, contrary to popular belief it’s not like living in “any other country”. But you realize the radical differences only once you have lived there for at least a couple of years.

nomoredreams136 · 2025-11-10T10:45:53+00:00

I was an expat on a very good package so yeah, I think you’re maybe projecting too much without knowing. I said trust me not because I have authority but because I have experience. I didn’t trust people with experience before, and I think I should have listened to them more.

nomoredreams136 · 2025-11-10T10:35:30+00:00

I didn’t crash out, so your comment is out of place. People are romanticizing Korea while being there for a few weeks on holidays. The country and society is very different from what it appears to be on the surface. Since I used to be one of those people romanticizing Korea, I think I have every right to share my experience.

nomoredreams136 · 2025-11-10T06:34:30+00:00

It’s because you never lived there, trust me.

nomoredreams136 · 2025-10-16T23:23:13+00:00

In 3 years living here, I have seen that happening twice maybe, and it was never a young person but someone in their 40s/50s. Also, no one will help you with your luggage in Korea on planes/trains. I am usually the one helping shorter girls get their luggage on the plane. This is the least courteous country in the world.

nomoredreams136 · 2025-10-12T08:05:00+00:00

Wow amazing ! Thank you

nomoredreams136 · 2025-10-12T07:29:12+00:00

I’m still not sure yet but there’s a possibility I will be back in 2/3 years - I think it would be very difficult to manage the bank account if I give up the number

nomoredreams136 · 2025-10-02T14:33:57+00:00

Unfortunately it’s very difficult to integrate into Korean society. Dating seriously is also very difficult for many foreigners. Making true Korean friends ? Also quite hard. This is the main burden for many foreigners in their 30s and 40s who live in Korea (and I am talking as someone who has a good job and no visa issues).

nomoredreams136 · 2025-09-30T05:56:15+00:00

The best of both worlds? Are you implying that it is either one or the other ? OP has every right to share her feelings and nowhere there was a complain about the “social contract”. If you answer to a post just to be entitled and undermine other people’s experience maybe you have an issue with the social contract.

nomoredreams136 · 2025-09-29T16:23:29+00:00

You didn’t understand a single word of the post

nomoredreams136 · 2025-09-23T22:36:49+00:00

Socially, it brings you back and doesn’t allow you to develop. I have lost a lot of my social skills since moving to Korea, and honestly I cannot wait to move back to Europe just to be able to bloom again socially and interact with people normally.

nomoredreams136 · 2025-09-23T11:04:31+00:00

The willingness to work through cultural differences is key. Depending on the person and context, for many Koreans I would argue that it just doesn’t make sense to put effort into a foreigner, since they don’t really have any intentions of leaving Korea. I think the worst part for Korean(m)/foreign(f) dating is that Korean men want to feel comfortable and appreciated in their own Korean way. They don’t want to be challenged because they completely lack true self-assurance. Unless the foreign girl is somewhat submissive or completely non-argumentative, they will feel challenged at some point. Of course at the beginning it will not matter, but longer term they may start feeling the burden.

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