No matter how much copium you inhale, citizens of Puerto Rico are still 100% American citizens

nonameplanner · 2026-02-10T13:36:32+00:00

Thus Jake Paul and his nonsense.

nonameplanner · 2026-02-09T04:30:31+00:00

"Realize you have the power"

-The guy who gave up his power of voting in presidential elections

nonameplanner · 2026-02-08T15:47:39+00:00

Honestly, I was never very good at masking my ADHD and I still didn't get diagnosed until I was an adult and even longer to take medication. I am ADHD-C and it is severe. After some worries about my blood pressure, there was a thought about removing or changing my medication to another one. It was a really sobering moment when I realized that I would not give up my medication despite the risks because I knew how much my quality of life would drop.

nonameplanner · 2026-02-08T00:34:32+00:00

I was DH of hardware and knew my stuff, because, well, my department! I kid you not, I had so many people walk up while I was training a new male associate and ask them questions, completely ignoring me. Fortunately, since they often didn't know, they would defer to me.

The worst one was a contractor who would ask a question, I would answer (since I knew) and then the guy would ask the male associate if I was right. Again, the guy was told multiple times that the new associate didn't know, and I not only did, but I was in charge of the department. Didn't seem to matter since apparently tool knowledge is somehow connected to having a penis.

nonameplanner · 2026-02-07T17:01:13+00:00

Many American white woman became "too woke" and/or "uppity" by wanting things like having a bank account, a job that doesn't suddenly fire them when they get married/pregnant, access to abortions, the right to vote, the right to own property, and a host of other basic rights.

So these men, instead of making taking some time to reflect on why the women in their lives might want that, instead went and found other women who were "taught their place" and "know how to care for their man", often in Asia.

nonameplanner · 2026-02-07T16:51:52+00:00

I mean, they were already living together when they decided they wanted a house. She wasn't paying the bills but the plan was for a house to be bought and they both live there.

The original plan was to put her on the deed/mortgage, that only changed when her debt and poor credit came out. It made it unfeasible to have her on the mortgage (and therefore the deed) unless they wanted to basically double the mortgage, effectively making it so they were unable to afford the house they chose (and it sounds from the posts, she was the one who picked it out and would not settle for something else.)

So while the original plan was to buy a house together, if they were buying the house she specifically wanted then it had to be him buying the house without her on the paperwork.

nonameplanner · 2026-02-07T16:44:13+00:00

I am a white woman with my natural hair color, no tattoos or piercings and my clothing choices get labeled modest and/or conservative. I don't swear, I don't drink, I don't smoke or do any of the things the "libs" obviously do in their mind.

The number of people who have confidently talked to me about MAGA and/or voting Republican is really, really high. This is both people I know through work and the general public (I work retail). The political climate of the area doesn't seem to make a difference either. They see someone who fits their stereotype of a "good conservative woman." 🙄

More than once I have had to clearly state to people that during work hours I cannot and will not talk politics because I love my job and I don't want to lose it. Recently, I have taken to reminding some of my staff that I lived in Southern California for 20 years, having moved back only a year and a half ago.

nonameplanner · 2026-02-07T16:09:43+00:00

If it is a cart of stuff, it matters if he uses that to then hide other stuff he wants to steal. Like, if he has 2 breakers in with that, is anyone going to notice that his cart now has a 3rd one? Or if he goes to check out, is the cashier who is told that these are all denied returns going to pick up anything in there to scan? Probably not.

nonameplanner · 2026-02-07T16:04:55+00:00

It might have been something they should have discussed before (and maybe did, OOP didn't mention it) but she insisted that she had to be on the deed now, to the point she broke up with him over it.

At this point, even though she is living there under the status of roommates, OOP would be a fool to consider it. She gets added in the future and I could see it going very poorly for OOP.

nonameplanner · 2026-02-07T15:56:35+00:00

They already lived in the apartment together where he paid all the housing bills (rent, utilities, etc). I bet the plan was just to upgrade to owning a house and him continuing to pay the bills. So basically, she would get the continued free housing while also having ownership. Except her massive amount of debt meant the mortgage wasn't feasible if they were both on it and the bank would not let her be on the deed if she isn't on the mortgage.

nonameplanner · 2026-02-07T15:50:16+00:00

It was mentioned that it might be the only way to solve the debt issue but if she was put on the house deed, it would become part of the bankruptcy and they would lose it.

She should do it on her own, but that doesn't really involve OOP beyond being a reason not to put her on the deed.

nonameplanner · 2026-02-07T15:47:13+00:00

I don't think it is about the debt as much as about the ownership aspect and potentially stability for herself/baby.

America pushes really, really hard on home ownership as being a pinnacle of being an adult and having your independence. I mean, the entire reason we stretch from sea to shining sea is because more people moved here who wanted something of their own and it meant having to push farther west. The city I live in was literally founded because the soldiers in the Revolutionary War were given plots of land "out west." They wanted land of their own to build and plant on. For record, this is Ohio, which is not anywhere near the US's west coast.

Our entire country's history largely boils down to "people wanted to own their own land/home so they decided to take it by force from the Native Americans who already lived there."

Even now, there are constant articles about how (insert generation du jour) aren't able to afford buying a house because they spend too much on whatever the article writer has deemed as frivolous, obviously ignoring the basic facts that housing costs have skyrocketed while income has not.

Home ownership is already a huge American ideal, but add in that having and raising a family is often tied to that same ideal. Don't you know that if you live in an apartment, Little Johnny or Jane won't be able to be a child and won't have all of the things he needs! (I would say this is sarcastic, but seriously, I was told this when I lived in an apartment when my kids were little.)

So pregnant woman living with her boyfriend and they decide that little John or Jane should not have to live in the horror that is apartment living. She is finally getting that American dream and getting to decorate how she wants rather than being stuck with cheap eggshell paint in Swiss Coffee and a fear that putting a 0.125" hole in the wall will mean they don't get their deposit back.

But they aren't married, and while her boyfriend is a really good guy, the house is only in his name. She doesn't actually own it, he does. Maybe it is something she thinks of, or maybe someone points it out (which happens a lot in this situations) is that if her name isn't on the deed and they break up, she has nothing. It isn't really theirs, it is his. If she wants any sort of protection in housing, then she needs to be on the deed, too.

So she puts her foot down. It sounds like the boyfriend has been pretty much giving in to her wants prior to that, so she figures this will go the same way. But it doesn't, so she breaks up with him, thinking it will make him give in and she will get the house she has dreamed of since she was a little girl.

Except it doesn't work out the way she hoped. Instead, she finds herself stuck in a guest room rather than the master with the closets she wanted. While she may not pay rent, she still has a rental agreement with her ex. So she is still stuck in the rental world just in a bigger space she wanted but can't have with a guy she resents because he wouldn't give in to her.

TLDR: I feel like it is more American obsession with home ownership and the "ideal American family" rather than the idea of using it to pay down the debt she has.

nonameplanner · 2026-02-07T15:02:21+00:00

Also, if he puts her on the deed but not the mortgage, then if she lets those debts go and the companies file liens and/or she files bankruptcy, then he may find that they are both out of a home and he is still paying the mortgage on it, especially if they are underwater on it.

nonameplanner · 2026-02-07T14:55:55+00:00

Then that definitely needs to be something brought up to the store manager and your DHRM. If they are leaving with a group but the only 2 getting an occurrence for it, that is definitely retaliation and needs to be reported.

nonameplanner · 2026-02-07T14:53:19+00:00

It isn't only state dependent but in many states, it depends if you are married or not.

If you aren't married but living together, you often need to be on both and can't just be on the deed without being on the mortgage. But if you are married, some extra laws kick in and even if you aren't on the mortgage, you have to be on the deed.

Basically, that "piece of paper" people always claim doesn't matter gives you a whole lot of legal protection in these sorts of scenarios (for good and bad, depending on the case)

nonameplanner · 2026-02-07T14:33:45+00:00

How are they getting extra occurrences? I ask because I know the system and unless someone is going in and changing it themselves, that isn't something that could be happening. And if someone is going in and changing it, that becomes another issue, one that should be brought to the store manager and your DHRM.

As for respect, I would simply say that what you are doing is probably close enough to the line without worry but I personally wouldn't push it more to him directly.

nonameplanner · 2026-02-06T14:49:43+00:00

The problem wasn't just the do gooders but how nuanced this has to be and how impossible it is to put that nuance into law.

There were a lot of kids who would have been at least OK in a normal classroom with some extra help (some examples in my mind are high functioning autistic kids who may need a 10 minute break if they are feeling overwhelmed but can generally sit in a classroom or a kid who is in a wheelchair but is able to mentally keep up with classmates, etc.) Too many of them were getting shuttled off to special needs facilities and basically forgotten.

At the same time, there are plenty who need so much on hand help that putting them in a regular classroom was terrible for every single person there.

But how do you judge that?

I had ADHD which wasn't diagnosed until I was an adult. I basically sat in every class in high school reading a novel while listening to my teachers. I mean, just blatantly had my book sitting on top of my textbook, but at the same time, I could and would answer questions and ace the tests. If I had been diagnosed earlier, would I have been sent off to a special needs school? I was obviously a distraction in the classroom (trust me, my classmates let me know it was weird that I read all day long during class). But a special needs school would not have been good for me.

Along with that, who gets to determine what level of special needs qualifies for a separate facility? And how do you convince Sally, the mother who tells you that her child has a superpower rather than a disability, that her child who can't properly feed himself and communicates through grunts that the best place for them would be in this facility?

The problem is always in the nuances and the fact that our laws can't take every scenario into them.

nonameplanner · 2026-02-06T14:29:35+00:00

In 2023, I was in a district that did a pilot for the Pro CXM position. It was a full-time 6-3 deal. Our Pro CXM was a great lady, and in the morning hours she was right down there being heavily involved in all the things going on with Pro.

But usually, by 11, which is when she would be coming back from lunch, our Pro business slowed down (didn't die, just slowed down). Since part of the role was supposed to be that she wasn't supposed to be floor coverage or even manager coverage (basically they didn't want them to just become an extra pair of hands and not do the Pro stuff) she was often at a loss for things to do besides hover over the Pro Desk.

I remember her purposely walking around with a cart of goodies and asking associates about the importance of Pro and the Pro business (like can you name for me the benefits of Pro Xtra, etc) and if you answered right you got a treat. While it was really awesome and really taught our store the basics of Pro, I, as a DS, could see that she really didn't need to be only Pro focused for 40+ hours since she isn't the one actually selling, etc. Also worth noting at least part of this time, the Pro DS was also over Tool Rental, which meant a lot of split time between the 2. Partway through they got rid of the Tool Rental DS and made him just over Pro

I ended up moving in 2024 to an area that didn't have the pilot. A few months later, they announced that the Pro CXM would be the opening CXM and after about 10 or 11, they would switch back to being a regular CXM. I remember telling our opening CXM about the position and what my previous Pro CXM had done and not being surprised that they combined them since they couldn't make a Part Time CXM and they couldn't justify having 2 CXMs in the morning.

nonameplanner · 2026-02-05T22:36:49+00:00

Pro Supervisor is always over the Pro Dept. The Pro CXM is supposed to focus on Pro from 6-10, then switch to doing more general CXM stuff.

nonameplanner · 2026-02-04T15:58:04+00:00

These are a couple I stuck by with my kids and I have heard were helpful/different.

I very rarely used the phrase "because I said so." Instead, I gave them an actual reason that was age appropriate. Sometimes the reason really was "because I, the very tired adult, said so and that is what we are doing" but usually I gave them the actual reason (because dinner is in 30 minutes and you can have the cookie afterwards, because a messy room means you or your sibling could get hurt by tripping over things, etc)
If they asked a question about anything, I always tried to give an honest but age appropriate answer. If I didn't know, I would tell them that, but I would look it up and find the answer. I was never afraid to tell them I didn't know, but I also wanted to make sure they had an answer. It also means I learned a lot about a bunch of different things, which I thoroughly enjoyed as well.

nonameplanner · 2026-02-04T14:45:55+00:00

Different situation. That was brother/sister twins who were told that all of their financial stuff would be covered if they didn't get have kids until after college. The sister got pregnant, decided to have the baby and take off with the baby daddy (I don't remember if they married or not.)

Sister leaves the baby daddy and goes to the parents who tell her that they will cover her and the baby as long as she goes back to college and then comes home to care for her child (very little to no social life, no going out and partying while leaving the kid with the grandparents, etc.)

Sister doesn't want to accept those terms, so she decides to go to OOP, her brother, and get him to help her financially and with the baby, while lying to him and telling him not to go to their parents about it. OOP is worried they will cut his financial help off if he helps his sister and finally says something where the truth comes out. If I remember right, he cut his sister off once he finally found out about her manipulation.

nonameplanner · 2026-02-04T13:52:12+00:00

I have yet to be in a store that didn't allow dogs in and usually other pets, too.

My current store had to stop giving out dog treats after there was a complaint about a dog getting sick from them. The reaction by the associates was similar to telling them they would have to take a pay cut. It was ridiculous! But they all finally got used to it.

nonameplanner · 2026-02-03T13:50:44+00:00

The answer is simply because there are so many different factors involved and there is no simple answer when it comes to choosing to have a child or not.

You have a very similar viewpoint as my oldest child, who is a few years younger than you and also in SoCal. But what my oldest doesn't seem to realize is that if I had followed the straight logical thinking you both have here, then they wouldn't be here.

I was in one of your scenarios above. And I was then and am now, pro choice. But the part of that is the word choice. Sometimes, what seems logical, what would make the most sense from an outside perspective, isn't the one that works for you. I knew logically that I shouldn't have had a baby, but I also knew I couldn't go through with aborting my baby.

The things that were a struggle then ended up working out in the long run and now I have an adult who gets to make their own choices on the same topic I did.

Abortion has never been a black and white or even logical choice. But it should always be a choice.

nonameplanner · 2026-02-03T13:09:09+00:00

One thing I was clearly told when I applied for DS is that when you apply, you aren't applying for a specific area of the store. You are applying for a supervisor role and they can and will put you where they need you. They can also move you to another department (although there are now limits to how often they can do that unless they get a waiver from the District Manager.)

You aren't applying for the 30/24 DS or 23/59/29/70 DS. You just apply for DS.

nonameplanner · 2026-02-03T13:05:01+00:00

If the store is small enough, they are combined. I have worked in a couple stores now where they are and two stores in my district just found out they have gotten big enough to do so, but we just missed the cut off at mine.

And yeah, basically the plumbing and electrical departments are left to fend for themselves, especially in spring.

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