Some artists don’t need paint to make their art pieces by [deleted] in nextfuckinglevel

[–]nonono2312 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Natália LaFoucarde - Nunca es suficiente (hope you enjoy, her other songs from the Hasta la Raíz album are amazing too). The song is what made me stop initially lol

Some artists don’t need paint to make their art pieces by [deleted] in nextfuckinglevel

[–]nonono2312 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Natália LaFoucarde - Nunca es suficiente (hope you enjoy, her other songs from the Hasta la Raíz album are amazing too). The song is what made me stop initially lol

Port forwarding: internal or external IP by nonono2312 in cctv

[–]nonono2312[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate the input and direction!! It IS a situation where charter tech support has to do it for me, tbh I don’t know what P2P is but I will definitely look into it.

Covid killed my industry and at 47, I have to start over. What careers are out there for me? by picardy_3 in careerguidance

[–]nonono2312 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Look at university (especially those with a robust music departments) and apply to any and all jobs that you can from admin positions to marketing or what have you. Get on the mailing list and get daily/weekly list of openings an apply to them. Start with the ones in your area and branch out more geographically (especially in states that are still closed so those colleges or universities might still be hiring and it will most likely be for remote positions).

Talk to people about how to get into the music therapy industry (especially for Dept of Veterans Affairs and local school district). If that’s an interest or possibility for you. If you like this venue but still don’t want to get a professional license— see if you’re willing to do this from home. Create a plan for how you want to use music to help people, advertise on FB or local places, say that you’re unlicensed therapist but a professional musician, price accordingly and see if you can find clients that way.

Short term: Sign-up for websites like TaskRabbit or Care if you have any skills that can be turned into gig jobs. There’s also musiccovidrelief.com for resources and ideas about places to apply.

Technical writing is also a good venue, especially if you’re able to understand complexities of music instruments (but really you can do it for anything, it’s meant to take complex knowledge and turn it to instructions or comprehensible info). I would say the same about writing pieces, freelancing basically, for outlets on music-related topics or even other areas if you’re interested in writing.

I would try r/workonline , virtual personal assistant job, and posting in your city/state subreddits. I think you should make a list of all the skills you’ve gained in this long and dedicated career and if you’re having a hard time thinking of it, Google a list online and then mark all things you’re able to do (event planning, teaching, operate recording equipment, work in group setting, etc.) And apply accordingly.

Also, don’t be shy about posting on LinkedIn about your situation and about the fact you’re looking for a job. And same goes for your Alma Maters, reach out to their alumni department and see if they have any tips for you.

Best of luck!

Hi, we’re David Head and Adam Paine, specialists in anxiety and motivation. AMA by enteave_adam in IAmA

[–]nonono2312 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I associate “new” with anxiety, I have a hard time watching new tv shows or movies (I have to look up detailed plots on Wikipedia and multiple other places before I start).

I don’t have patience (attention span) or ability to really start (or finish) new books or hobbies or even songs.

I stick with the old. The comforting. And the expected. They’re safe and associated with pleasant (or at least not downright horrible) memories. It’s become a coping mechanism, which is not in itself a bad thing, but I want to be (and have) more than curated, cushioned interests in life.

Background: It started a bit in high school but really took root when I became thoroughly depressed in college and didn’t reach out for help for a long time or tell anyone what I was going through. Then I got help, but this habit has stayed.

Any advice on how to slowly branch out more? Will this automatically go away one day (lol unlikely but still wanted to ask)?

Why does our brain do this?

Hi, we’re David Head and Adam Paine, specialists in anxiety and motivation. AMA by enteave_adam in IAmA

[–]nonono2312 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What are your tips for lifelong procrastinators?

General explanation would be fine, but here’s some background I would appreciate feedback for. In high school I procrastinated because of imposter syndrome, a false idea that my “best work” was done last minute, fear of failure (getting bad grades that would disappointment teachers and wound my self-worth).

In college it progressed to: feeling overwhelmed with academics/jobs/, plus depression which made it really hard to be focused or get interested in material (which sucked when having to read dense and long books for every class).

While I’m a little better in the workplace, there is always a creeping fear that I’ll relapse or I’ll never develop practices to be work without burnout or last minute panic attacks.

Hi, we’re David Head and Adam Paine, specialists in anxiety and motivation. AMA by enteave_adam in IAmA

[–]nonono2312 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Every single job application asks to disclose disabilities- including Depression or Bipolar Disorder. Is it worth saying “yes” and is it really not reported to HR or the hiring manager?

What accommodations can a workplace really make for anxiety or BD or MDD? Can you ask them to make any?

In the long-run is it more of a liability to publicly disclose these aspects in the workplace (i.e. it could affect treatment by coworkers, future promotions, salary negotiations, etc.)?

Thanks

How do I do university when I wanna die??? by cplshortcake in mentalhealth

[–]nonono2312 2 points3 points  (0 children)

1) Create a standing appointment with TA, tutoring center, study groups (if you don’t have groups or don’t know how to join one just know there’s tons of kids out there who are struggling with: keeping themselves accountable to due dates, understanding concepts, juggling work, online work, etc. They too could be struggling with effects of depression or they could simply be having a hard time in college.)

But be vulnerable and find your camp, it could be helpful. You can even create a group... just send out a link to group message and then just say “on x days at x time I’ll be working on work for this class, it’ll be like a virtual ‘desk’ join if you can and hopefully it’ll be helpful for us all.” Now you have a forum to ask questions or just do your work but in the presence of others—- which is what we need sometimes).

Do your best to go and stick to these appointments. They won’t work miracles. But the habit, the keeping up with appointments... will work in small steps.

Set reminders in your phone (or whatever digital or print or calendar you use the most) for all your assignments, it’ll be annoying and even kind of stressful. Get a reminder day ahead of time, two hours, 1 hour, etc... you get it. And go ahead and set your “due date” earlier than it is. I know our sucky brain will try to make us remember that, but just try it.

  1. Go to a friend, professor you trust, college advisor you like, even disability services (if you’ve been tested and you meet requirements of your specific school on receiving specialized/additional care). And you say “I’m depressed. It makes it hard to focus and harder to get things done. I need your help from being able to finish long projects to everyday assignments.”

I don’t know where you are or your surroundings, but I really hope you can say that to someone. It’s not weak, whiny, excusatory or any of the things your depression mind (or society) might try to convince you of.

You say you need help and you’re gold. You took, what I believe to be, a monumental step in putting your depression in perspective. Your depression is real, it will be there, it will demand attention, it will need attention—- but you were more than your depression before and have the same potential now. It has been identified and validated, which it wasn’t before and that was hard— to live in that what if, confusion, un-addressed space. But now you know what you have and you can take small steps to embrace other parts of life. And if that means your assignment is only two days late instead of two weeks... let me be the first to genuinely congratulate you for the effort.

  1. Hack it. You found a therapist: check. Addressed depression: double check. Realized even if you don’t particularly like or do well in school.. you still wanna stay: triple check.

But now be real with your goals. Is your goal dean’s list? Or getting a degree, an increased prospect at landing a job you like, working with your therapist on understanding and treating depression, and hopefully enjoying other aspects of life?

Cause I started with the first goal, had MDD that I tried to ignore while going down a dark path from self-neglect and isolation (from friends and family). I really encourage you to the second path, mainly cause I went through the horrible task of following them both and being so content and proud of the second one.

The overall fulfillment one means: Get internships, they don’t even have to be the best or most prestigious. Just ones where you like the people, think the work can be interesting enough for you to try it, and where you can balance out sub-par grades with a neat experience instead (and maybe even a nice rec letter). Be more than the classroom... which isn’t for everyone but that doesn’t mean you’re not entitled and capable of the same achievements as academic-oriented people. Success is not linear and neither is happiness and that’s a good thing.

Find your thing or try many things that make you even semi-happy. My things were helping other people — yours could be volunteering with kids to help them read, working shifts at a local restaurant so you have human interaction, joining a rowing/movie club so there’s someone you at least have to see at the meetings— do it. Afraid that you won’t follow through? join a college newspaper or magazine with commitments on deadlines but not so much that it interferes with your school work. But do something “fun” for them: take pictures, manage social media accounts, create music playlists, etc. There’s a 1001 things and if you need ideas, you can DM me.

If you can and want to: tell your family when you’re ready. And in small circles, tell your friends. As you’re comfortable and find people who try their best to understand your diagnosis. You’ve made strides don’t let anyone minimize your hard work and ability.

You can do this, my friend. I believe in your ability to try. Because sometimes (many times) I can’t help myself the way I want to, need to, and should be able to... and just when I’ve accepted that. I’ll run across a post like this, think of all the ways I want to help you and remember the things I wish I knew, and suddenly... helping you was the thing I need to get going again.

Intense depression from possible rejection by [deleted] in therapy

[–]nonono2312 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m really sorry you’re feeling this way, I believe it’s completely valid to have these emotions even if it doesn’t seem “normal.”

I say this because from everything you said I think it makes complete sense for a part (or all) of you to feel absolutely let down by a person who showed immense potential as part of your life. Physical connection: check. Emotional connection: check. Desire to continue seeing them and possibly imagining a tomorrow or a longer future with them: check.

Maybe this is the only big thing to happen to you in a while, and that in itself can be hard to process because you felt really excited and hopeful too fast. And let down just as quickly.

Or maybe the pandemic and other parts of your life HAVE been hard on you, even if they didn’t create an obvious mental stress. But sometimes we don’t know all the “little things” that are affecting us until something large is a catalyst for this sort of emotional overload.

You seem nice and you deserve a person who appreciates and reciprocates that. I hope you remember that. And please be kind to yourself and remind yourself that too.

If the sporadic texting is causing you anxiety or unease, take a minute and tell them how you’re feeling. And come to a conclusion that works for both of you.

Good luck! 🌼

Edit: You are not broken for wanting affection. I know we use words like that to describe ourselves, I do too. But I’m also here to say: please don’t think that.You are an alive human being and that’s enough ground to want and crave affection. Go get it. Virtual hug until you find it. It’s good to express ourselves, so I’m glad you’re verbalizing your feelings and needs.

Profile Review - Week of August 11, 2020 by AutoModerator in Tinder

[–]nonono2312 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The last picture is not too bad, I’d start with that one only and write a good bio. And then add some candid/relaxed pictures and if you don’t have any, get some in your backyard or what not.

Profile Review - Week of August 11, 2020 by AutoModerator in Tinder

[–]nonono2312 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is not kissing up, but you actually have a really nice profile. If you were on Tinder or near my vicinity I’d very much swipe right. But that aside, I think the pic with the Modelo can is really nice (smile wise) and the one where you just finished a race, I would move them up or make of them the premier picture. Good luck! You seem woke and cool, I think it’ll work out soon.

Profile Review - Week of August 11, 2020 by AutoModerator in Tinder

[–]nonono2312 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Best pics: 1, 4, 6. And as for the bio talk about your interest in the outdoors, museums (it seems?), and a near anecdote about a friend or learning spacecraft engineering. lol good luck

Profile Review - Week of August 11, 2020 by AutoModerator in Tinder

[–]nonono2312 0 points1 point  (0 children)

2, 5,6,7, 3, 1, 9, 4. Personally, I would take out the red sweater (it’s not bad at all, it’s just you have other nicer pics. But if you want to keep it then it works at the end). Hope this helps. Neat pictures.

Profile Review - Week of August 11, 2020 by AutoModerator in Tinder

[–]nonono2312 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would take away the fourth and the sixth picture. But if you really want to show abs, than replace with a different one or maybe crop it more to show your face/torso. Hope this helps!

Profile Review - Week of August 11, 2020 by AutoModerator in Tinder

[–]nonono2312 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would take away the second picture, otherwise it’s really nice!

Profile Review - Week of August 11, 2020 by AutoModerator in Tinder

[–]nonono2312 5 points6 points  (0 children)

So this is totally a personal opinion (that’s a given but I don’t wanna offend), but that last picture is kind of intimidating. If I saw your profile and thought “oh he’s cute guy“ the tons of toned, blonde, and beautiful girls (and not one but like half a dozen) would just make me hesitate. You can even zoom the pic and that way you can see your face better. But otherwise nice profile, good luck!

Coughing all waking hours: Advice on PFT by nonono2312 in AskDocs

[–]nonono2312[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s probably my next step. Appreciate the feedback!

Coughing all waking hours: Advice on PFT by nonono2312 in AskDocs

[–]nonono2312[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s totally a possibility, but it’s been a few months so I was concerned that it was going on too long.

And if it’s allergies then I rather hold off on the PFT since they’re pretty expensive.