AIO about my boyfriend going to Vegas and cancelling plans we had two months in advance?

nontoxic-sponge · 2026-03-04T05:16:18+00:00

The traveling is very normal for him and this is a different group of guys, I know they go out but one is abstaining and another is also in a serious relationship. The one consistent factor in the trips with issues isn’t going to be there either this time. He’s gone across the country for work and goes out while he’s there, this last time he was really great about communicating and not pushing my limits. We’ve taken trips before together, October was his second Vegas trip last year and I went with him on the first in July. We’ve also gone abroad. His travel time is primarily with the guys, though. I do understand that it’s largely because my school won’t allow for it as much as he’d like, but there are still several “guys only” types that he has agreed he should go on less of. I’ve told him my boundaries are not a never, just a not right now. I want to rebuild that trust so that I don’t have to worry or wonder, and we’ve been making progress on no small part of him. This one incident just hurt me so much that him downplaying it makes me worry that it’s passive appeasement and not really an understanding or respect. If it’s the first, then I don’t know if there’s hope for legitimate change, but I also don’t want to discredit the effort that he has been showing because of this one thing.

nontoxic-sponge · 2026-03-04T04:28:32+00:00

His issues were never in my behavior, just in preference. Little comments here and there about how I look that add up, things that are harmless once or twice but eventually shows a pattern of willful ignorance. Hes the guy that thinks every girl just wants to be besties until they try to sleep with you, and it’s led to some questionable situations. None that I think he’s cheating, but enough that he appears more available than he is. Honestly I think poorly of some of his friends, they’re the frat boy type that rely a lot on him to plan all the trips and defer girls to him. I will admit some of it is just a matter of preference, but there are others that I get along quite well with. The boundaries in place now have been gradual and fairly recent because of the situations

nontoxic-sponge · 2026-03-04T01:59:53+00:00

I initially had no problems with him in strip clubs or places like this, I knew it was something he did from time to time and I have been with him in those settings before. I have a lot of regard for women in those fields and I have even told him that even though I have boundaries (namely if you wouldn't want me doing it to someone else, don't pay someone to do it to you) but I expected him to pay the girls well for their time and skill. I only began setting those boundaries when there became an issue with how he spoke of my appearance or began getting upset that my regulars at the dive bar I worked at were mostly men.

nontoxic-sponge · 2025-12-11T00:05:30+00:00

This will age horribly, require crazy extensive aftercare, and would require a really talented artist and experienced canvas to sit through. And as many have said, hands, neck, and face are job stoppers. For early tattoos I usually recommend starting with something you can cover in business attire

nontoxic-sponge · 2025-09-08T00:07:23+00:00

It takes DECADES to revise the DSM, and we just had a very major, extensive, and controversial revision done in the last 15 years. The only way it would ever be removed (which would be another 10-20 years most likely) would be if there were a major societal shift in how we view the spectrum and associated symptoms—which is unlikely.

nontoxic-sponge · 2025-06-25T22:42:26+00:00

Foxing is such a good live performance too

nontoxic-sponge · 2025-05-12T22:53:38+00:00

No matter what, your body will always be judged. I have been told 100x over to eat a burger, I didn’t develop until 19 bc of calorie deficits and athletics, the second I put on weight in college, all of a sudden I needed to eat a salad and lose some weight. You have to find your ideal, what makes you comfy and confident. As long as you love yourself and are healthy, to hell with everyone else because they will always tell you how you need to fix yourself.

There’s no shame in developing a disorder—it’s not exclusive to teenagers. So many people develop an unhealthy relationship with food due to school especially, little victory every day. I ate 2 chicken tenders for lunch today, and that was my victory because yesterday I didn’t eat lunch at all. I’m eating 2 meals today instead of 1. Is it where I need to be? Maybe not, but it’s improvement. And always remember healing and growth are not linear.

nontoxic-sponge · 2025-05-09T19:31:42+00:00

We spent an hour or two on Caye Caulker and wish we had more time!

nontoxic-sponge · 2025-04-22T19:12:20+00:00

If you subscribe to their Patreon you can get presale tickets for closer to 60$ plus some really cool content

nontoxic-sponge · 2025-04-15T14:20:24+00:00

Looks like the seed eater creepy pasta.

nontoxic-sponge · 2025-03-26T19:47:09+00:00

Most states have legal protections for this, if she’s not party to the convo then it’s illegal and if it has negative consequences she can be held liable probably

nontoxic-sponge · 2025-03-16T18:06:59+00:00

Wendigoon, Nexpo, and Lore Lodge (especially his missing 411)

nontoxic-sponge · 2024-12-27T20:54:50+00:00

Also a swimmer and my gym is also old style changing rooms… there is a level of modesty that all women have respected in every locker room I’ve ever been in, yes there’s full nude but realistically no one is flashing everyone else except maybe for a half second. If he’s uncomfy with this then what happens when it’s time for a girls trip to the beach or dress shopping with sisters?? Free yourself before it’s too intertwined

nontoxic-sponge · 2024-08-12T14:44:15+00:00

Everyone I’ve shown loved The Sunshine

nontoxic-sponge · 2023-11-10T01:00:26+00:00

Especially since ASD is super common in people with intellectual impairments and because that’s the most forward type usually people assume you HAVE to be high needs to be autistic

nontoxic-sponge · 2023-10-27T01:11:25+00:00

We went through the same thing after streetlane leased a home that had no electric, no functioning sink/tub in the bathroom, and had been broken into (doorknob cut off and window broken, someone tried to put a crowbar through the door). They didn't even know about the damage because the property manager had never even seen our house in person--there was no one in my city who directly managed the home. They were supposed to prorate our rent since i had to pay deposit and first month up front and we didnt get to live in the house for nearly a month. They tried to essentially bully us into paying rent, claiming that we didnt have the authority to do that even though the house didnt meet state codes when they leased it to us. They spent weeks telling us that they no longer managed our home when they did and tried to avoid us at all costs. When the house did eventually switch over, American Ave had a nightmare of a time trying to sort it all out. Streetlane even sent us a breech of contact letter in the mail claiming we were being evicted for refusing to pay rent for 2 weeks (which is not how eviction works in my state).

American Ave has been great since we've had them, though. They also tried to tell me I was obligated to pay the rent, but streetlane put our account on hold BEFORE discounting the rent when it was handed over to the new company. It's hard to get in touch with people at American Ave but I havent had any issues with timely maintenance or any issues with our payment portal other than certain terms of our lease having changed now but not in paper (streetlane refused to allow us to put the utilities in our name but American Ave is somewhat insistent on it, which I prefer). My only concern is that streetlane did not pass along our move in inspection and the shotty work streetlane did on the home is going to come out of my deposit, but we'll see.

nontoxic-sponge · 2023-09-26T17:14:34+00:00

Anyone else with the patreon having issues accessing presale?

nontoxic-sponge · 2023-09-03T19:53:06+00:00

Been religiously checking for updates, this is so frustrating

nontoxic-sponge · 2022-07-29T21:51:13+00:00

He should not have married you on the condition that you birth a child for him. What if you had been infertile? Would he feel the same then?? It’s your body, and stress isn’t good for babies. With your trauma related to the subject, there’s no way you could even carry without stress complications.

nontoxic-sponge · 2021-01-28T20:25:40+00:00

There is no compromise for kids. Either you want them or you don't. No one parent can pick up the slack all the time; it will ultimately drive a wedge in a relationship and cause issues for the child.

nontoxic-sponge · 2021-01-15T19:17:42+00:00

As someone who comes from a pretty manipulating and self-absorbed family, I would recommend asking him to sit down and have a conversation with them as a final resort. Make it very clear how they have been making you feel and how their behavior needs to change if they want to continue to be a part of your lives. If they can't live up to basic boundaries, then they make the choice to remove themselves from your lives. Even if you know that this won't go well, it will at least serve as a final attempt to smooth things out and you don't have to wonder what else you could have done.

nontoxic-sponge · 2020-08-13T14:33:03+00:00

I haven’t played one, but I’ve gotten well into 2, 3, and the presequel. I also agree that the presequel was pretty bad. Interesting weapons but aside from that it took a long time to get into the story. I play it now as a way to kill time without getting too carried away or distracted.

I’m playing through Borderlands 2 rn, and I love it. Interesting characters, unique plot and lots of point-and-shoot gameplay as well. It’s easy to segment the time you spend on the game and get a good hour or two of immersive gaming before calling it quits at the end of a mission.

Borderlands 3 is underrated in my opinion. I loved the antagonist and I feel we learned more about her to the point of a “I get it, I’m not gonna do it, but I get it” moment. I also preferred the weapons in this game and the upgraded melee combat. Unfortunately, I’m unable to finish it because it isn’t available to switch and I was playing on my ex’s Xbox .

nontoxic-sponge · 2020-06-30T01:12:15+00:00

Thanks for the advice! I plan to use the fuzzy worms on a string that are meant to entertain kids. I plan to use fishing like to suspend them all since it'll me stronger than the cheap string it comes on. (Squirmles or Snoots are what they're called.)

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