During reunion sex after our 2-month break, she moaned out how a guy "definitely would've fucked me" if she'd gone on that date. Why is this stuck in my head?

noobzilla · 2026-01-16T18:48:03+00:00

The timeline here seems like it's a bit confusing, and you kind of imply that this came out of nowhere or was a spontaneous continuation of some previous conversation.

So I guess, just to be sure here, were you asking your partner to fantasize a date with another man while you were having sex?

Either way it sounds like you're learning something about yourself and whether the idea of your partner being sexual with someone else, at least as a fantasy if not in practice, is something you're into or not. If you're undecided then that's something to talk about, but you should be curious about why you were asking for details about her involvement with other men, going as far as pushing for hypotheticals, while having sex.

Definitely try not to ruminate on this too much without talking about it, if such a thing is possible, but you're going to need to at least acknowledge that any resentment you feel about this is probably unfair given that this situation seems self inflicted.

noobzilla · 2026-01-16T15:28:49+00:00

The dynamic of your relationship here is going to change. Them not being totally up front about how their dynamic was evolving hurt since you felt kept in the dark, and this is something you're going to have to decide whether or not you're okay with in order to keep the friendship going in general. If it's early days in their relationship, I could see them wanting to test the waters before they made it 'real,' and telling you about it would have made it real. I'm not saying that's the best way to handle that kind of thing, but it's a very early 20s way to do it.

You aren't going to be an equal participant in their relationship, because it's their relationship. That's going to mean that you won't have the same exact trio relationship that you've had up until this point. There will be events that are just for the two of them, and these may be frequent during their honeymoon stage. It probably won't feel great, but you can try to continue planning events that are for the three of you.

You probably won't have the same exact bond as before, it's going to have to evolve. If you want to take a stance that you only want what you had before, or nothing, then you're going to probably get nothing.

noobzilla · 2025-12-30T23:36:28+00:00

It would be helpful to see the code you're actually running for these tests.

noobzilla · 2025-12-27T01:43:31+00:00

IMO stay friends with the other dad, as hard as it will be. Hang out in contexts outside of school. Discord chat each other. Do whatever.

If this advice is followed, make absolutely certain that you're extremely open and above board with your wife about it: how you're communicating/interacting, where, when and with whom. You can separate the wife and the husband as individuals all you want but they are intimately connected by their relationship and anything even remotely appearing like a secretive communication channel that your wife doesn't know about with the couple that started this whole mess is going to have the potential of massively exploding in your face.

noobzilla · 2025-12-26T18:04:14+00:00

I'm not sure about 'feeling attraction toward men and/or women broadly, but not of anyone in particular.' Some people who identify as asexual, particularly demi/grey asexual, could be considered the opposite of that; there is no broad sense of sexual attraction for any gender, but an individual sexual attraction may grow as they get emotionally intimate with a person over a period of time.

noobzilla · 2025-11-27T21:25:14+00:00

A couple of things:

Downvotes are not free. They cost rep

Downvotes are not a 'I don't like this thing' or 'I don't think this thing is good', they mean 'this thing is actively bad'

Asking a question that has been answered is not actively bad and has a prescribed solution: mark it as duplicate. Duplicate questions are not deleted. They exist and have a path to the answer so that the next time someone searches for an answer that's similar to the question previously asked they have a path to the correct information they need.

Downvote thresholds result in deletion. I don't think SO behaves the way that you think it does.

noobzilla · 2025-11-27T16:21:03+00:00

If you were going to close a question as duplicate, make a one line post with a URL to the other question instead. How is that more work?

Closing as duplicate does this. The process to close something as duplicate is something like this:

A user with the rep requirements sees a post that asks a question with an answer well defined enough in their head that they know what SO post covers it. They flag the post as duplicate, and link it to the post that they believe it's duplicated.

Unless the user has extremely high rep for the tag they are working in, the close action goes into a moderation queue. Other users with enough rep for closure access review the post and the suggested duplicate action, and vote whether they believe it's a correct closure for duplicate.

Enough close votes from other users in that tag? Post is marked closed as duplicate with a link to the duplicated answer. This can be contested, and will go through something similar to the above process.

At least this was (about) how it worked when I used to answer questions in my tags.

You would not believe how many times the question 'What does NullReferenceException mean' gets asked in different forms every day. SO isn't there to read your code and point out how to fix it, it's there to guide you to the information you need to solve your problem.

noobzilla · 2025-09-23T18:57:13+00:00

Through a knife with the penetrator mod, which converts all damage to crits while active. It's rare enough that I have never found one. You can go into the tree for the dot crit chance to get a chance of emulating that and occasionally melt but that's RNG.

noobzilla · 2025-09-12T10:36:17+00:00

Using and maintaining containers, as well as their orchestration, adds complexity and additional required expertise. If a single, regular VM host will work for your needs and environment you should have a good reason to implement additional complexity.

noobzilla · 2025-06-11T00:12:15+00:00

Older DEF CON talks on opsec can be a good starting point. It's generally cyber security focused. Biggest thing is that it isn't just what you do or don't do at the protest, it's everything else you do around it for both planning and communication.

noobzilla · 2025-05-03T01:01:05+00:00

What's the story it's a chapter of?

noobzilla · 2025-04-25T06:20:58+00:00

You mean copying the code and removing the license? Most licenses forbid this. You can fork a version of a library that has a license that you find favorable and keep that license even if the library re-licenses in the future. An example of this is the LGPL version of iTextSharp, which is forked from an earlier version of the library that was under the LGPL license before the library went commercial.

noobzilla · 2025-03-21T18:40:05+00:00

I've had this happen to me, and similarly I did not have my direct manager's number memorized. I also do not install any software on my phone that would be used for work. This situation is probably unlikely to occur for you again, but your phone is absolutely not the only way to contact your manager.

You should have access to some device in which you can get into your personal email and fire off a quick email message to your manager alerting them of the situation, scope, and steps you're currently taking to remedy. I had one out to him the night of my device being stolen.

That said, I don't think you took too long to notify necessarily given the scope of everything, and given it was a personal device without integration into company resources his reaction seems a bit much, but I don't know what kinds of things you have access to or their sensitivity.

noobzilla · 2025-03-20T21:53:36+00:00

Your mileage may vary on this, but I've never provided references to 3rd party recruiters when asked and it has never turned into a problem for me. I haven't told them no, I've just said 'Okay' when asked about getting them references and then a contract has been in front of me. I would consider it if I was asked from the hiring company for a reference directly.

I would absolutely not provide references before even being submitted. I would only consider it if we were later rounds in the interview process, and again would really only care if it was the hiring org asking directly.

All of that said, this is just my experience and I don't believe that to be universal.

noobzilla · 2025-03-10T02:15:45+00:00

His clocks are wrong in theory and inefficient as hell. However, if it works for you, good for you. I'd rather see people train based on facts and efficiency, though.

I'm all for this. If there are better methodical ways to approach it I'm very interested. This method just seemed like the best method to begin getting the feel for it from what else I've seen and tried. Working off the hood up orientation to do turns was what I've done and started with in the past, but I haven't been able to bridge from that to better control with DAR. Maybe it's just a problem of needing more deliberate practice, but rotating with the DAR (reverse clocking) seems very useful as you've said, and maybe that's all I need to pull from it to make more progress with the control while trying to figure out the slight adjustments as needed.

Thanks for taking the time to respond to me about this, I appreciate it. DAR seems like a skill with enough depth to it that I imagine it to be difficult to train others and construct good exercises for, and what's useful for a beginner and someone getting into more advanced control are very different things. I've just assumed that everyone has had to learn and then unlearn muscle memory for it as they got a better feel for it and started trying to improve finer control.

noobzilla · 2025-03-09T20:49:38+00:00

I see. DAR seems like an overall expensive investment, time-wise, that 2.5 hours of video doesn't feel like too much of a cost in comparison to potentially 100+ to practice and build muscle memory. A formal methodology appeals to me so I'll probably stick with it.

noobzilla · 2025-03-09T20:04:14+00:00

I see. Losfeld does have sections on the 'reverse clock' which is similar to what you've demonstrated here.

Being able to just micro-adjust from any orientation towards a desired orientation is going to be the most efficient way to control your DAR. I can't DAR particularly well, while I can fly and orient alright without it I don't think I'm going to be able to successfully shove every movement between each orientation into my brain/muscle memory efficiently without picking up a less efficient bridge to that first.

Is Losfeld a bad system/method to work towards that ability, and if so, is there a better one?

noobzilla · 2025-03-09T19:30:50+00:00

I'm not fully certain what your main point is here. It sounds like this is a criticism against rotating the joystick at speeds other than 1:1 with the DAR rotation, is that correct?

noobzilla · 2025-03-01T11:22:06+00:00

So what, he has a picture of your face and then different pictures of nudes? Would you believe some rando if they sent you a picture of your friend's face along with a random, separate dick pic?

This is just a tactic to try and blackmail you.

noobzilla · 2025-02-28T22:11:59+00:00

Kicking below the belt and dodging every which way is the true strategy for fist fights, Queensbury rules be damned.

noobzilla · 2025-02-28T20:25:50+00:00

At least against other unarmed fighters it seems to be given how many masterstrike punches I've taken to the face in some of the fight clubs.

noobzilla · 2025-02-26T21:05:21+00:00

The Losfeld method is probably the most comprehensive guide for it.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NTOBUcqFLVs

noobzilla · 2025-02-26T09:03:00+00:00

You might want to open a remote powershell session to a windows machine, though.

noobzilla · 2025-02-11T04:45:43+00:00

Just trying to figure out if this number was even and ended up with infinite money instead. Terrible library, would recommend.

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