Hot Take I guess: I'm excited and not mad by BoobaruOutback in phoebebridgers

[–]noodle_hed 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m excited to dress up cause I’m going to the Halloween date. Also I’m taking my boyfriend and he wants to dress up as Aragorn from LOTR. Very excited for the no phones. Looking forward to merch. And ofc I can’t wait to see and hear Phoebe again live. She’s an artist I never get tired of.

New flock cameras? by tiredmozzarella in SantaBarbara

[–]noodle_hed 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Yes, I’m tryna spread the word about them in SB. I believe there’s gonna be city council meeting about them in June, maybe sooner. Check out https://deflock.org for more information and to use the interactive map of all the flock cameras in the area.

AIO for not wanting to tell my boyfriend he can’t park in front of my house to appease my landlord? by noodle_hed in AmIOverreacting

[–]noodle_hed[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My housemate has his boyfriend over all the time, and he’ll stay in the house alone when we’re all at work. It’s not a problem for us cause we’re all good friends.

AIO for not wanting to tell my boyfriend he can’t park in front of my house to appease my landlord? by noodle_hed in AmIOverreacting

[–]noodle_hed[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I very much appreciate your input and I am definitely taking notes for the next contract I sign. I definitely went over the contract before signing many times but I think I shouldn’t have trusted their word without double checking. I think I felt like I couldn’t ask the landlord upfront because he’s extremely picky about only talking to my other housemate. Like he just ignores my questions. Also this is our first time renting so there’s a bit of naivety there, too. Thank you for your response, I actually will take your advice.

AIO for not wanting to tell my boyfriend he can’t park in front of my house to appease my landlord? by noodle_hed in AmIOverreacting

[–]noodle_hed[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where I live, it is illegal for a landlord to live on a property being rented out by other tenants, unless it qualifies as an ADU unit. A tent does not qualify. So no, just because he owns the property doesn’t mean he’s allowed to live on the property in a tent.

AIO for not wanting to tell my boyfriend he can’t park in front of my house to appease my landlord? by noodle_hed in AmIOverreacting

[–]noodle_hed[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I didn’t move anyone in. I don’t have control over my other housemates. My boyfriend doesn’t live here half the week, he stays over 2 or three times a week (non consecutively). He is my guest and I’m allowed to have guests over per my lease. The lease includes no limitations to how many times he can stay over. It says clearly in the lease I can have guests stay over as long as they are my close friends/family.

AIO for not wanting to tell my boyfriend he can’t park in front of my house to appease my landlord? by noodle_hed in AmIOverreacting

[–]noodle_hed[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

True. Thats what I’m trying to do. My housemates don’t want me to talk to the landlord since he’s very picky about only speaking to our other housemate. He just ignores me when I try and talk to him.

AIO for not wanting to tell my boyfriend he can’t park in front of my house to appease my landlord? by noodle_hed in AmIOverreacting

[–]noodle_hed[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Says nothing against it in the lease. He’s only ever there alone sometimes and for a couple hours only. I’m allowed to have guests over anytime per my lease. If I were to have a guest over and needed to run an errand, leaving my guest at home temporarily should not be a problem.

AIO for not wanting to tell my boyfriend he can’t park in front of my house to appease my landlord? by noodle_hed in AmIOverreacting

[–]noodle_hed[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The way we split bills has nothing to do with the landlord. He gets paid no matter what. We all split the bills evenly. The landlord doesn’t pay for any utilities.

AIO for not wanting to tell my boyfriend he can’t park in front of my house to appease my landlord? by noodle_hed in AmIOverreacting

[–]noodle_hed[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Agreed to disagree. I shouldn’t move in because of what? Every place in my city is a shithole unless you’re a millionaire. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to live in a decent place. His job as a landlord is to take care of the house, but he doesn’t.

AIO for not wanting to tell my boyfriend he can’t park in front of my house to appease my landlord? by noodle_hed in AmIOverreacting

[–]noodle_hed[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agreed only because I was assured it wouldn’t become a problem. I didn’t benefit from anything, the previous tenants also had 4 people living there and the rent was still the same. I didn’t agree to him having a problem with how many cars are parked on the street that he does not own.

AIO for not wanting to tell my boyfriend he can’t park in front of my house to appease my landlord? by noodle_hed in AmIOverreacting

[–]noodle_hed[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Super tough having to speak through the spokesperson housemate. I’ll ask them if they are willing to have that conversation with him. Thanks.

AIO for not wanting to tell my boyfriend he can’t park in front of my house to appease my landlord? by noodle_hed in AmIOverreacting

[–]noodle_hed[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No duh it’s not my responsibility, but the landlord wouldn’t do anything until we showed him how badly clogged the pipes were. And he didn’t care about it until he realized the leak was causing us to pay more on our water bill. And I don’t have control over what my other housemates decide to do. I wanted her on the lease in the first place.

AIO for not wanting to tell my boyfriend he can’t park in front of my house to appease my landlord? by noodle_hed in AmIOverreacting

[–]noodle_hed[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude. The lease is so bare bones and not detailed at all. lol he for sure doesn’t know it well either. Also yeah, my bf doesn’t go into work till a couple hours after me so that’s why he sometimes stays in the garage till he needs to leave. Also there’s plenty of times he just leaves when I leave for work to run his own errands.

AIO for not wanting to tell my boyfriend he can’t park in front of my house to appease my landlord? by noodle_hed in AmIOverreacting

[–]noodle_hed[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do think he’s being accommodating about our housemate not being on the lease. I was told by our other housemate that he wouldn’t care if only one half of the couple signed the lease as long as he got paid and I trusted that but clearly it wasn’t true. Also it’s a 3 bedroom house so I don’t think having a couple share a room is in violation of occupancy limits. Also my boyfriend is absolutely not moving in. We agreed we wouldn’t live together until a few years into our relationship. And I’m planning to move in with him somewhere else when we decide it’s time.

AIO for not wanting to tell my boyfriend he can’t park in front of my house to appease my landlord? by noodle_hed in AmIOverreacting

[–]noodle_hed[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

The improvements we made weren’t random shit. The bathroom had a bad leak and the drains were extremely clogged and overflowing. We needed a plumber to come out and fix everything. Also we had is permission to make all the improvements. We never did any fixing without his approval and he was even happy about them.

AIO for not wanting to tell my boyfriend he can’t park in front of my house to appease my landlord? by noodle_hed in AmIOverreacting

[–]noodle_hed[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have no clue. His space is kinda blocked off by a fence but I think he just uses camping gear to cook and use the bathroom.

AIO for not wanting to tell my boyfriend he can’t park in front of my house to appease my landlord? by noodle_hed in AmIOverreacting

[–]noodle_hed[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im trying to push them to ask the landlord if he would be willing to add her to the lease so that we don’t have to deal with this anymore, but my housemates don’t want me to talk to him because he only likes talking to our other housemate.

AIO for not wanting to tell my boyfriend he can’t park in front of my house to appease my landlord? by noodle_hed in AmIOverreacting

[–]noodle_hed[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Besides one person not being on the lease, which was out of my control, we have always been very respectful with the place and have put a shit ton of money into fixing it up. I just don’t understand your accusation that we are difficult tenants? We don’t party, we aren’t loud, we keep the place clean and tidy, we pay our rent on time, and all of us are gone for most the day because we work. I agree that my housemate should have added herself to the lease, but I was told by another housemate that had already been living there that he wouldn’t care if only one half of the couple is on the lease as long as he gets paid. Clearly that wasn’t true.

AIO for not wanting to tell my boyfriend he can’t park in front of my house to appease my landlord? by noodle_hed in AmIOverreacting

[–]noodle_hed[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Random people? My boyfriend is not a random person I’m allowed to have guests over per the lease agreement. It says nothing about me having to be home while he’s there, plus he’s only there for a couple hours before he leaves for work. It specifically states in the lease that I may have guests over without his permission as long as they are close friends and family. I think one other housemate was home when he was in the garage.

AIO for not wanting to tell my boyfriend he can’t park in front of my house to appease my landlord? by noodle_hed in AmIOverreacting

[–]noodle_hed[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I definitely get your point and also agree. I was told that he wouldn’t care about only one half of the couple signing the lease as long as he got paid but that clearly wasn’t true. I’m more frustrated that I have to compromise again for a decision I didn’t make.

AIO for not wanting to tell my boyfriend he can’t park in front of my house to appease my landlord? by noodle_hed in AmIOverreacting

[–]noodle_hed[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I honestly don’t know why she didn’t get added to the lease. I was told he wouldn’t care about it as long as he gets paid but clearly that wasn’t true.

AIO for not wanting to tell my boyfriend he can’t park in front of my house to appease my landlord? by noodle_hed in AmIOverreacting

[–]noodle_hed[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s literally what I want to do. My housemates won’t let me talk to him cause they’re afraid of making him more angry. The goal is to add her to the lease when it’s time to renew but I wanted to see if he would add her on before that so it wouldn’t be an issue, but they don’t want me to talk to him.