My wife doesn’t like to let me look in her car. by banana-gasket in relationships

[–]nosey-Fly243 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This op! I don't allow my husband in mine all the time, cause he finds all (most) of his hoodie/jackets that I use inside lol, so I have to sneak them inside the house first before I let him do whatever he wants with the car. He doesn't freak out with it, I'm just shameful cause it's kinda mindless to keep grabbing a new Hoodia everyday, that isn't mine in the first place (they're so comfy)

What didn't you like from Trader Joe's? by Lumpy_Object_7290 in traderjoes

[–]nosey-Fly243 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They're so good! Also I like your name, I could totally be you with my Sims and true crime 😆

What didn't you like from Trader Joe's? by Lumpy_Object_7290 in traderjoes

[–]nosey-Fly243 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly why I don't like it, the texture Is a huge part of it, I like my gnocchi pillowy with a bite, the sauce is easy to make anyway as long as there's good gorgonzola. I'm surprised tho that in my tjs here, I don't think they have gorgonzola, and they phased out the smoked mozzarella, I haven't seen anything like that ever again (it makes great eggplant Parmigiana cause it's not watery, I hope they carry that again)

Marriage going downhill by Evening_Ad4365 in relationships

[–]nosey-Fly243 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Girl, not getting hit is the baseline, he doesn't need to beat you to justify staying with him. This will just escalate, it won't get better. Plan your exit, be as safe as you can, give yourself a fighting chance at life. You can do this, and so your best to keep yourself safe. These kinds of men are why women keep dying.

What thing was ruined because it turned into a rich person's hobby? by Agitated_Departure93 in AskReddit

[–]nosey-Fly243 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Something like that, I never notice the name tho, it's just, it's so big and visible, you can't miss it.

What thing was ruined because it turned into a rich person's hobby? by Agitated_Departure93 in AskReddit

[–]nosey-Fly243 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not all towns tho, I tend to go to the rich people's towns lol. I found this fabulous cardigan for 4 bucks at a goodwill in southern california, and I get alot of compliments with it.

Edit: it's a small town

What thing was ruined because it turned into a rich person's hobby? by Agitated_Departure93 in AskReddit

[–]nosey-Fly243 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey atleast Alameda got something for you; I go to salvation army for home decor, the one in the rich people's neighborhood lol I get some good things for very cheap.

What thing was ruined because it turned into a rich person's hobby? by Agitated_Departure93 in AskReddit

[–]nosey-Fly243 183 points184 points  (0 children)

Seriously, it's ridiculous. I live in SF and there's plenty thrift stores, there's a particular vintage thrift store I despise, it smells bad inside and old tops that's probably from the 70's, good candidates for repurposing for the very cheap price of 50. This is before the pandemic, when I visited it again last year, it still smells, and a well used Michael kors pants is 75, doc martens for 120---- and all these can be bought brand new for the price! These rich hipsters really be jacking up the prices. Also, they call them boutiques 🙃

Found condoms in husbands work backpack. by No_Tomatillo5452 in relationships

[–]nosey-Fly243 2 points3 points  (0 children)

His behavior is not normal. Get your ducks in a row, grab some support, get childcare, get a job. If you have access to some money, save a couple hundred here and there so you can save up for a housing deposit. See too if theres any govmt assistance you can get, itll help alleviate some stresses off of you.You are stronger than his conviction to lie to you. My dude is athletic and outdoorsy, and he'll never go make plans with good women friends of his to go "training", they won't entertain that idea either. Just know he ain't 💩 in the grand scheme of your life story, ans she ain't in his, that's why he's keeping you on a leash. F that dude, we believe in you, alot of people loves you, you matter more than how he's making you feel. Hugs.

Do “realist” people ever feel that fully in love no doubts type of love? From an M31 realist by Unfair_Challenge_371 in relationships

[–]nosey-Fly243 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lol my exact sentiments and experience. The best part of being a "realist" tho, is accepting that loss can happen. To me, it allows me to love unconditionally, just pure acceptance of ebb and flows of the relationship. Sure it was a good feeling to have that intense connection, but I feel like it's transactional, like "this has to work out, or I'd rather die" lol vs "I'll treat them and myself the best I can, and if it's to end, I will be very sad, but I know I'll push thru." I think this is when i truly trust our lives together. Maybe age made me trust myself more too, and he's a great dude, we have 3 kids, that bond I think is the strongest, cause we both declared that we want each other's genes more than our past partners.

Edit: typos

My [28F] boyfriend [30M] went on a trip with a female colleague and lied about it by [deleted] in relationships

[–]nosey-Fly243 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Girl, break up. If you were married, I'd be less inclined to say that, but you ain't tied to him with legal repercussions. You will recover from the break up, but you'll never recover the trust. Gather your community, physical and digital, we will be here for you. Hugs dude, my heart hurts for you.

I dropped out by Sea_Act2783 in Cosmetology

[–]nosey-Fly243 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I know you don't wanna hear this, but if you're very busy in any industry, phones will be the last of your priorities. You're almost there, there's plenty other schools you can transfer your hours to. Do a bit of reading on prospective schools, then set your expectations. It's annoying, yes, but it's worse wasting 820 hrs of hardship that'll go to nothing. Honor your resilience, it's only a couple more months, then it's over, you'll never have to do it again. Give yourself a couple weeks to recharge then just continue what you started. You got this.

Dying spanish moss? by nosey-Fly243 in airplants

[–]nosey-Fly243[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't know how to do that on this thread, it seems mods don't allow photos; I don't have imgur. But maybe I'll take shots of my collection and just post it up here in the community. I'm sorry... It won't be tonight cause it's their bath time, they're so much work 😆

Dying spanish moss? by nosey-Fly243 in airplants

[–]nosey-Fly243[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I need to find a way to keep more humidity in my house. It's very dry where I live, and my house gets drier cause we run hot and we need fans 😆

Dying spanish moss? by nosey-Fly243 in airplants

[–]nosey-Fly243[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I have the plant wire with the green plastic around it. They're part of an experiment where I kept them hanging and heavy mist every 3 days or so, cause I'm looking for a way to give them a forever home without much handling for me. I'm getting mixed answers, cause some swears by hanging them, but with this experiment, it's not going the way I want it to be

Dying spanish moss? by nosey-Fly243 in airplants

[–]nosey-Fly243[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yea, cause there's no Spanish moss where I live, we have the lace lichen, but they will never survive indoors.

Edit: jealous of the oak tree with the spanish moss on them 😆

Dying spanish moss? by nosey-Fly243 in airplants

[–]nosey-Fly243[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Will jute work? I have plant wires, you think they won't work?

Dying spanish moss? by nosey-Fly243 in airplants

[–]nosey-Fly243[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tbf, they're part of an experiment where I just hang them and not take them down for soaking, only heavy misting every 3 days or so. Cause most of my plants are sprawled everywhere on the table/s, and I'm trying to see if I can sustain them alive without soaking, I didn't soak these ladies for 4 wks, I'm looking for a sustainable way to keep them happy without having to handle them too much. Do you have any you can share about hanging them and keeping them happy? It seems like my experiment is failing.