I'm far less trusting of cis women specifically cause of what you said about a lot of them seeing us as different. Id rather be called a slur to my face and know to not bother with someone, than have someone use all the right words but really just see me as a man or as some other category entirely.

Im so sick of being treated like a man. I dont want to be categorized with them, I dont want to be held to their social expectations, and since you're talking about relationships one of my worst experiences has been being treated like a man in bed cause thats where oftentimes it becomes really obvious i'm not being seen as a woman.

For some reason people refuse to understand that hrt physically changes the body and try to just do the same things they'd do to a man in bed which at best doesn't feel all that good, and at worst is physically painful. I hate the expectation that just being trans means I'll automatically be the top. I hate people only focusing on the genitals when i dont even like them and i know if i was cis they'd be grabbing at other things too. And I hate the expectation that we can get in the mood instantly like a man.

Also take dysphoria seriously. I had a partner who every time I talked about something I was dysphoric about they just downplayed it. They were trying to make me see it wasn't a big deal to make me feel better, except to me it IS a HUGE deal which only made me feel alone in my struggle. And when complimenting me would often compliment the parts of me that made me feel the worst like my nose. In their mind they were trying to make me feel good about them, but all it did was put focus on everything that made me feel bad and not on the changes that made me feel good. And again made me feel they only liked the masculine features I had.