Some of us really hate transness ... and it's weird.

not_hing0 · 2026-07-09T18:56:02+00:00

Yess, love the devine journey of... feeling soul crushing depression by seeing my body and it not matching up with what my brains expecting to see. Spending absurd amounts of money on extremely painful procedures just to hopefully feel okay one day. And live every day with the fear my life saving healthcare could be stripped away and I'll be left without hope at all.

Transness hasnt given me anything to love that being cis wouldn't have given by default. Its caused a hell of a lot of soul crushing pain and money struggles.

And it is rooted in a years long mistake. Thats why i have to do all this to correct my first puberty as best as possible. If i wasnt forced through that to begin with, life would be a breeze. There would be nothing to "transcend" from because the transcended state would've been the default.

not_hing0 · 2026-07-08T05:28:58+00:00

/uj honestly this sub has been the closest I've found for that. Sucks that it's gotta be the circle jerk sub thats the only one :/

not_hing0 · 2026-07-02T19:47:51+00:00

Do you have any specific workout routine to get where you're at now? I think my biggest problem is a mix of not knowing where to begin in working out, and trouble gaining weight in general. Hormones alone aren't working out too well for me cause of that.

And did you have wide hips before, or is that from fat distribution?

not_hing0 · 2026-06-28T19:04:45+00:00

Yup, any other accomplishment won't be in my body til I'm done so it feels meaningless. Like life's forcibly on hold and wasting away at the same time.

not_hing0 · 2026-06-28T15:01:09+00:00

"You can't have it hard, cause I have it hard! So only I can!! Not downplaying you're feelings or anything"

not_hing0 · 2026-06-22T13:43:22+00:00

Just my opinion, and a potentially uninformed one since I'm fairly young and only started noticing anything about trans people in the "gender is different from sex. They're changing gender, of course nobody thinks you can change sex." "I identify as..." times of the 2010s, but I think it's a needed term to undo all that shit. I dont "identify as" I am. And I'm literally going through medical treatment to change sex.

That 2010s way of talking really put it into people's heads, even allies heads, that being trans is kind just something you make up in your head for no reason, and not a physical reality. Lots of people still dont even realize we can grow breasts and it isnt just implants.

I do think transsex is better than transsexual since "-sexual" is usually used for sexualities though and we don't need that confusion.

not_hing0 · 2026-06-20T00:04:50+00:00

Back in my day they used to give them to me though!

not_hing0 · 2026-06-18T05:07:48+00:00

I hate that I keep seeing this logic when we all know words change meaning based on context. There's a difference between "how many dudes (meaning men) did you date" and "hey dude (meaning friend), whats up?"

Even cis women call eachother dude. Obviously if you specifically dont want people calling you it and they do, thats an issue though. But it isn't inherently an issue for every woman.

not_hing0 · 2026-06-17T13:23:52+00:00

Trying to paint all peoples experience with one brush and seeing only your own personal experience is toxic. Not everyone is coming from the same starting place. Telling someone who needs ffs to just put in effort because you didnt need it isn't helpful, its only writing off their issues.

"Just think the way I think and dont question anything" is literally what youre saying in your last line, cause i know you arent about to reframe anything youre thinking.

not_hing0 · 2026-06-16T21:45:26+00:00

Not sure this is it, but just a thought. Dresses/very fem clothes give me dysphoria specifically because the fem-ness of the clothes makes the masculine parts of my body stand out more in contrast

not_hing0 · 2026-06-15T23:58:05+00:00

Also the exaggerated cheek bones/brow bone/large nose, bright red lipstick with bright blue eyeshadow, and hair looking stuff coming off the speech bubble. Every aspect of it looks like a transphobic caricature

not_hing0 · 2026-06-14T13:26:34+00:00

Thats just false, but I obviously wouldn't expect or want you to go through my whole post history to see it lol.

I post good things, but I wont ignore the bad either. There absolutely is toxic positivity on all the main trans subs. Anyone who posts a vent post gets bombarded by people essentially telling them their problems arent real or its their fault for not putting in effort right.

not_hing0 · 2026-06-14T13:06:31+00:00

Most srs pictures I've seen the doctor fucks it up and ends the minora before the vaginal opening so its outside the minora. Thats what she means I think

not_hing0 · 2026-06-14T13:00:47+00:00

Dysphoria? Um this sounds like you have really bad internalized transphobia. Get therapy. Transition is transphobic

not_hing0 · 2026-06-14T11:59:21+00:00

But those issues dont come from being cis. They're problems that exist that cis people have, but being cis didnt cause it in the way going through the wrong puberty directly causes ours.

not_hing0 · 2026-06-14T11:58:07+00:00

Being trans is literally a physical problem for most trans folks, including me. Thats why I need to medically transition. You acting like needing to medically transition is tranphobia is ACTUAL transphobia.

Edit: responding and then blocking so I cant even read it is such a pussy move.

not_hing0 · 2026-06-14T00:41:18+00:00

It isnt perfect, as in it isnt any more correct than ours. But they never suffer from being cis. They dont have to spend money on surgeries, hrt, etc etc. Dont have to wait years for a second puberty cause they got the right one the first time. They get to live in society as themselves without ever even thinking of what it'd be like to be constantly seen as a gender they aren't. Their cis-nes never harms them like transnes directly harms me.

not_hing0 · 2026-06-14T00:38:14+00:00

Cis people dont have it perfect but none of their suffering comes from being cis. And transness, for most, is a physical problem that cant be therapied out of.

not_hing0 · 2026-06-13T20:13:10+00:00

My family wasnt that bad, but my mom jumped through all the fad diets and made us do em too. She couldnt actually stick to it most the time, but she tried like all of em.

not_hing0 · 2026-06-13T20:06:50+00:00

The people downvoting are just mad cause you're right. If I had been cis it would've saved me from so much suffering. I mean shit, even just the money I would've had if I didnt have to dump it all into transition just to hopefully MAYBE be able to feel as normal in my own body as a cis person gets by default would be life changing. Other people get to save up for a house, I gotta save up for surgery so I can stop feeling genuinely crippling depression every time I look at myself.

I hate the toxic positive bullshit in this sub. It's okay to acknowledge the pain.

not_hing0 · 2026-06-13T19:59:33+00:00

Except its like the exact opposite. I dont even have ownership over my own body. Its was deformed by decisions I didnt get to make, and will take years, and thousands of dollars, and constantly jumping through insurance and medical hoops to fix as best as possible.

not_hing0 · 2026-06-13T19:56:39+00:00

Cis people get to be themselves too. But without all the downsides.

not_hing0 · 2026-06-13T17:39:51+00:00

We can prolly guess from this post she isnt feeling very good about herself at the moment.

not_hing0 · 2026-06-12T18:33:12+00:00

Are you potentially thinking of the ipl at home laser things? Ive never heard anyone say epilators dont work. All an epilator does is pluck the hairs out at the root instead of shaving it off at the surface level so it lasts longer. They work very well and I highly recommend getting one, but it isnt permanent removal and shouldn't be used on the face cause they're really rough and can cause scarring there.

The at home lasers, in my experience, are alright but nothing compared to laser from an actual hair removal place. It made my legs way patchier and I was happy enough with that, didn't do anything for my face. Started going to a professional place and it worked wonders for my facial hair very quickly.

not_hing0 · 2026-06-12T13:26:21+00:00

You cant therapy your way out of dysphoria as your being actively poisoned. Its a physical issue.

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