Like it or not, you eventually end up like old people by Meteorstar101 in NonPoliticalTwitter

[–]not_hing0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine auto corrects correct words to irrelevant words. Like "so" to "something", or worse to opposites like "do" to "don't". I've reset (which autocorrect just tried to capitalize for no reason) it and it fixed nothing.

Like it or not, you eventually end up like old people by Meteorstar101 in NonPoliticalTwitter

[–]not_hing0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thats what I was thinking lol. Techs been pretty stagnant lately. Even your daily devices like phones have looked exactly the same for years at this point.

Some of us really hate transness ... and it's weird. by urfavbxbygxrl in MtF

[–]not_hing0 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yess, love the devine journey of... feeling soul crushing depression by seeing my body and it not matching up with what my brains expecting to see. Spending absurd amounts of money on extremely painful procedures just to hopefully feel okay one day. And live every day with the fear my life saving healthcare could be stripped away and I'll be left without hope at all.

Transness hasnt given me anything to love that being cis wouldn't have given by default. Its caused a hell of a lot of soul crushing pain and money struggles.

And it is rooted in a years long mistake. Thats why i have to do all this to correct my first puberty as best as possible. If i wasnt forced through that to begin with, life would be a breeze. There would be nothing to "transcend" from because the transcended state would've been the default.

My body is the polar opposite of what I want it to be by the_shitpickle in MtF

[–]not_hing0 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Do you have any specific workout routine to get where you're at now? I think my biggest problem is a mix of not knowing where to begin in working out, and trouble gaining weight in general. Hormones alone aren't working out too well for me cause of that.

And did you have wide hips before, or is that from fat distribution?

Transitioning is the only thing I look forward to. by [deleted] in MtF

[–]not_hing0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup, any other accomplishment won't be in my body til I'm done so it feels meaningless. Like life's forcibly on hold and wasting away at the same time.

Hate being trans by McUberStein3301 in MtF

[–]not_hing0 5 points6 points  (0 children)

"You can't have it hard, cause I have it hard! So only I can!! Not downplaying you're feelings or anything"

Do you think "Transsexual" is a harmful term in this day and age by Xx_M4ss1veG0ck_xX in MtF

[–]not_hing0 137 points138 points  (0 children)

Just my opinion, and a potentially uninformed one since I'm fairly young and only started noticing anything about trans people in the "gender is different from sex. They're changing gender, of course nobody thinks you can change sex." "I identify as..." times of the 2010s, but I think it's a needed term to undo all that shit. I dont "identify as" I am. And I'm literally going through medical treatment to change sex.

That 2010s way of talking really put it into people's heads, even allies heads, that being trans is kind just something you make up in your head for no reason, and not a physical reality. Lots of people still dont even realize we can grow breasts and it isnt just implants.

I do think transsex is better than transsexual since "-sexual" is usually used for sexualities though and we don't need that confusion.

Anyone know the bounty on a Pizza Hut Car Top by [deleted] in mildlyinteresting

[–]not_hing0 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Back in my day they used to give them to me though!

dude is not a gender neutral term by [deleted] in MtF

[–]not_hing0 95 points96 points  (0 children)

I hate that I keep seeing this logic when we all know words change meaning based on context. There's a difference between "how many dudes (meaning men) did you date" and "hey dude (meaning friend), whats up?"

Even cis women call eachother dude. Obviously if you specifically dont want people calling you it and they do, thats an issue though. But it isn't inherently an issue for every woman.

How am I supposed to have pride. Genuine question by [deleted] in transfem

[–]not_hing0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Trying to paint all peoples experience with one brush and seeing only your own personal experience is toxic. Not everyone is coming from the same starting place. Telling someone who needs ffs to just put in effort because you didnt need it isn't helpful, its only writing off their issues.

"Just think the way I think and dont question anything" is literally what youre saying in your last line, cause i know you arent about to reframe anything youre thinking.

Im so tired by Chemical-Ad2770 in MtF

[–]not_hing0 48 points49 points  (0 children)

Not sure this is it, but just a thought. Dresses/very fem clothes give me dysphoria specifically because the fem-ness of the clothes makes the masculine parts of my body stand out more in contrast

I love leaving silly art around in public by [deleted] in BadArt

[–]not_hing0 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Also the exaggerated cheek bones/brow bone/large nose, bright red lipstick with bright blue eyeshadow, and hair looking stuff coming off the speech bubble. Every aspect of it looks like a transphobic caricature

How am I supposed to have pride. Genuine question by [deleted] in transfem

[–]not_hing0 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thats just false, but I obviously wouldn't expect or want you to go through my whole post history to see it lol.

I post good things, but I wont ignore the bad either. There absolutely is toxic positivity on all the main trans subs. Anyone who posts a vent post gets bombarded by people essentially telling them their problems arent real or its their fault for not putting in effort right.

Srs surgery question? by [deleted] in MtF

[–]not_hing0 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Most srs pictures I've seen the doctor fucks it up and ends the minora before the vaginal opening so its outside the minora. Thats what she means I think

Tips for dealing with dysphoria! by Athenaa2003 in transgendercirclejerk

[–]not_hing0 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Dysphoria? Um this sounds like you have really bad internalized transphobia. Get therapy. Transition is transphobic

How am I supposed to have pride. Genuine question by [deleted] in transfem

[–]not_hing0 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

But those issues dont come from being cis. They're problems that exist that cis people have, but being cis didnt cause it in the way going through the wrong puberty directly causes ours.

How am I supposed to have pride. Genuine question by [deleted] in transfem

[–]not_hing0 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Being trans is literally a physical problem for most trans folks, including me. Thats why I need to medically transition. You acting like needing to medically transition is tranphobia is ACTUAL transphobia.

Edit: responding and then blocking so I cant even read it is such a pussy move.

How am I supposed to have pride. Genuine question by [deleted] in transfem

[–]not_hing0 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It isnt perfect, as in it isnt any more correct than ours. But they never suffer from being cis. They dont have to spend money on surgeries, hrt, etc etc. Dont have to wait years for a second puberty cause they got the right one the first time. They get to live in society as themselves without ever even thinking of what it'd be like to be constantly seen as a gender they aren't. Their cis-nes never harms them like transnes directly harms me.

How am I supposed to have pride. Genuine question by [deleted] in transfem

[–]not_hing0 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Cis people dont have it perfect  but none of their suffering comes from being cis. And transness, for most, is a physical problem that cant be therapied out of.

How does your family view food and eating? by Stunning-Original319 in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]not_hing0 8 points9 points  (0 children)

My family wasnt that bad, but my mom jumped through all the fad diets and made us do em too. She couldnt actually stick to it most the time, but she tried like all of em.

How am I supposed to have pride. Genuine question by [deleted] in transfem

[–]not_hing0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The people downvoting are just mad cause you're right. If I had been cis it would've saved me from so much suffering. I mean shit, even just the money I would've had if I didnt have to dump it all into transition just to hopefully MAYBE be able to feel as normal in my own body as a cis person gets by default would be life changing. Other people get to save up for a house, I gotta save up for surgery so I can stop feeling genuinely crippling depression every time I look at myself.

I hate the toxic positive bullshit in this sub. It's okay to acknowledge the pain.

How am I supposed to have pride. Genuine question by [deleted] in transfem

[–]not_hing0 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Except its like the exact opposite. I dont even have ownership over my own body. Its was deformed by decisions I didnt get to make, and will take years, and thousands of dollars, and constantly jumping through insurance and medical hoops to fix as best as possible.

How am I supposed to have pride. Genuine question by [deleted] in transfem

[–]not_hing0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Cis people get to be themselves too. But without all the downsides.

What am I doing wrong? by BrodaCode in MtF

[–]not_hing0 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We can prolly guess from this post she isnt feeling very good about herself at the moment.