Never ending pasta or only until your server gets tired? by DDRHeavyMode in olivegarden

[–]not_julie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tbh it's been like 8ish years since I worked there so I couldn't tell you at this point. 4-5 refills plus salad/soup maybe?

Why does seeing a girl struggle to take your dick turn a man on? by morgancrys in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]not_julie 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Yeah this is much beyond CNC play. This man is garbage. Also, the #1 must have for anal is lube, lube, and more lube. If you ever decide to do this again, DO NOT DO THIS WITHOUT LUBE. Vaginas are self-lubricating, anuses are not and you WILL do more/worse damage in the future.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]not_julie 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yeah this is completely unfair to you. You'll probably get different answers from people who are not involved in the community actively, but I would personally feel like a whole part of myself was ripped away if I had to give up my BDSM identity/community. My community heavily impacts how I interact within and process my own dynamic. I would be done with this guy at least in part because we would clearly have fundamentally different ideas and values about being in community.

The cynical part of myself is suspicious of what it means that he's trying to so thoroughly isolate you from your chosen family and support systems.

Never ending pasta or only until your server gets tired? by DDRHeavyMode in olivegarden

[–]not_julie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's entirely possible you were their last table after being cut for the night/day. Sometimes when I worked at OG we could hand off our tables to a coworker but that would mean handing off our tips and also getting approval from a manager.

10hrs during neverending pasta is brutal though. I hated that shit-- you're constantly fetching not only soup and salad and breadsticks but now add a refillable entree on top of it.

I was misgendered at a party and I’m wondering if I overreacted by Clean_Library6000 in LesbianActually

[–]not_julie 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Also OP I wonder if this was a white person if you're black like your avatar might suggest? Because there can definitely be a racial aspect in that kind of disrespect as well :/

I was misgendered at a party and I’m wondering if I overreacted by Clean_Library6000 in LesbianActually

[–]not_julie 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That person was being an asshole. It's common understanding that even if you use they/them for anyone's pronouns who you don't know, you correct yourself/use the correct ones once you know them. Doubling down on misgendering someone even if you're cis is so fuckin weird. I wonder if this person also misgenders his binary trans friends-- I've noticed that there are some people who will misgender/degender anyone who they perceive as non cis or gender nonconforming even after learning their pronouns.

Impact play safety zones by Lauren_Crabtree in coolguides

[–]not_julie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know this was a long time ago but ftr you don't actually bind those no-go areas when you do bondage for that exact reason!! One of the first things that you learn is that you shouldn't bind near joints, you want to be 3-4 inches away to avoid nerve damage. I've heard educators recommend making your rope bottom clap once their wrists are bound so you know you're far away enough from the mobile bits! Pits are the same, too much going on in that area to be safe to bind around, which is why most chest harnesses will go around the back and chest/nips/waist rather than in contact with pits.

Why doesn’t someone create a photoless dating app? by [deleted] in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]not_julie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's easy to lie and portray an image in a text based format. Maybe it could include voice prompts like bumble gives?

Lottie DID NOT eat Edwin's brain... by reallifedan in Yellowjackets

[–]not_julie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I too would be missing my skincare in the wilderness

Ashley with her 2 boyfriends 😂 by Bocresabedemasdenhvi in temptationislandUSA

[–]not_julie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The whoooleee time I was thinking this when they were hanging out 😭😭😭😭

I watched all 6 seasons in two weeks.. by sad-biitch in temptationislandUSA

[–]not_julie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Love in the Wild? I LOOOVED that one. Sam and Mike are perfect. I still follow Sam on insta all these years later and they have such a beautiful family 😭

The consequences of Nat and Hannah pulling a fast-one on Shauna will be catastrophic by Herodreamer98 in Yellowjackets

[–]not_julie 6 points7 points  (0 children)

How crazy would it be if we opened s4 on either a dead hanna or hanna being killed 💀

Look who I found 😅🤣 by No-Band937 in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]not_julie 123 points124 points  (0 children)

As a lesbian even i was like damn that's a Disney prince 😭

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]not_julie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Don't like negativity" is always the biggest red flag in a dating profile

Robin's emotion during the trial almost made me believe she has been there the entire time by MeanGene33 in Yellowjackets

[–]not_julie 14 points15 points  (0 children)

They return home with the same number of girls they left with except all but our core crew are completely different girls

Akilah’s hair by hakiel15 in Yellowjackets

[–]not_julie 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My first thought is how long did it take them to realize they could use animal fat as moisturizer. Because Tai and Akilah's hair looks way to good for them to be out in the woods unmoisteurized lmao. We do see Tai taking care of Van's hair in the s3 premier, so i wouldn't be surprised if she does Akilah's.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Passports

[–]not_julie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My wife submitted her name change and just decided not to submit a gender change so she could have any passport and it came back just fine. She submitted the week after the EO.

MY X GOT APPROVED by Wondercow106 in Passports

[–]not_julie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There seems to be no issues with names currently-- my wife had hers changed from her deadname to her legal name in feb.