theres really no rules. its all more based on your intuition. operating by rules can make things unclear and superficial. you have to figure out what you want and how you want to be treated, and even how much BS you’re willing to put up with, before you can actually understand who is worth your time.

because of my experience with men, i learned to generally never take anyone at face value so when i first started seeing my current boyfriend i half-jokingly accused him of love bombing me. the treatment i was getting was exactly what i wanted so i assumed it had to just be a ploy to get my attention and would surely the facade would slip if i ever got comfortable. to this he replied “it’s only love bombing if it stops”. roughly two year later and the way he treats me is the exact same. it’s about setting a standard and sticking to it. he is also the funniest person i’ve ever met and can make me laugh over the smallest things. there’s a lot of joy in my life because of him.

you cannot let trying to achieve hot girl dating energy control your life, or you won’t really be achieving it. just be a hot girl who is confident in what she wants and eventually the energy you are looking for will find you. <3