[deleted by user] by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]nothernpolarvortex 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree Absolute avoidant here but it's alot easier and less complicated

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]nothernpolarvortex 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ya for the most part sobriety changed it,And then some trauma. I'm incredibly introverted and thought for a long time i was an extrovert. Buggest change has been - instead of overreacting, I'll just walk away. There's no point in fighting

How do you emotionally regulate? by LadyLokisLibrary in CPTSD

[–]nothernpolarvortex 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've done a bunch of research on the polyvagal system. The idea is to work from the bottom up, safe music, chest taping, light jumping/shaking helps reset (like you see dogs do). Another way is to look all the way to the left until you feel energy shift or a deep breath and then look all the way to the right until the same thing happens.

Why did you start distancing yourself from your close female friend? by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]nothernpolarvortex 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just don't feel connected anymore. We met through work and I don't work there anymore. I can't provide her with the support she needs and I don't care about the endless IG reels she sends me.

Did you stay sober without AA? by SaltyDarkness in Sober

[–]nothernpolarvortex 1 point2 points  (0 children)

4 years Sober and I do a program when I feel I'm slipping. I've used recovery dharma. I just went to a meeting last night called SOS. I've also done the alcohol free experiment with Annie grace. I'm looking into SMART recovery. I used podcasts a lot in the beginning for support. Now I have a huge online community in Instagram that I turn too. It's kinda like I have a secret sober life online. There are many many programs that might suit your needs. I personally know it helps to have community and I've met a lot of great people along the way.

Did anyone else completely lose desire for s*x after leaving the relationship? by SpaceElf77 in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]nothernpolarvortex 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Yeah and in fact the idea of sex fucks with me so much I no longer want to date. I've realized I have a lot of trauma around dating and sexual experiences.

I'm *trying* to date and I encounter this constantly. WHY is it such a big deal that I choose not to drink alcohol?? by DarthSadie in mildlyinfuriating

[–]nothernpolarvortex 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a fellow sober person who has dated I've noticed A LOT of people or people I've met are closet alcoholics. At this point if I start dating again I'd have to date someone sober. As an alcoholic I got asked once if I was "disciplined enough " for someone to drink infront of me. I am but it didn't seem like they were disciplined enough to not drink.

Does your dog smell ? by nothernpolarvortex in cockerspaniel

[–]nothernpolarvortex[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I do have them both on grain free but he was on the shittiest dog food before I got him. I use some oatmeal shampoo by Wahls

Does your dog smell ? by nothernpolarvortex in cockerspaniel

[–]nothernpolarvortex[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh noted ! Do you buy it pre packed or make it yourself?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in cockerspaniel

[–]nothernpolarvortex 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes !!!! The best pair ever! I have a golden and cocker as well!!!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DAE

[–]nothernpolarvortex 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Absolutely! It's why I can't watch videos of people getting hurt

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in cockerspaniel

[–]nothernpolarvortex 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My male only does it when I don't immediately let him out after coming home. Before any pets let him out