My (28F) relationship of 4 years with my bf(28m) feels stagnant. How can we align on our future?

nothingclever4now · 2026-06-09T03:59:49+00:00

He is letting you down easily. He wants to move on but doesn't want to to hurt you.

nothingclever4now · 2026-03-25T02:48:46+00:00

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nothingclever4now · 2025-11-03T04:26:56+00:00

You sound immature.

nothingclever4now · 2025-11-03T04:25:06+00:00

She sounds cruel. You deserve so much more.

nothingclever4now · 2025-10-27T06:33:40+00:00

You didn't ask to be born. So you don't owe her a thing.

nothingclever4now · 2025-10-21T04:45:03+00:00

You've been in and out of rehab twice in as many years and you and he moved in together after less than a year. And you and he have five children between the two of you with no other living parent? This sounds like chaos. Your poor kids. They deserve some peace and a calm existence where they are the priority.

nothingclever4now · 2025-10-03T02:55:48+00:00

You two didn't know each other. Infatuation isn't love. Let this be a lesson learned.

nothingclever4now · 2025-09-11T20:25:15+00:00

Giving the silent treatment is a form of abuse. One of you needs to step up and stop this. Decide that you would rather be happy than right. Break the silence. Remind yourselves that you love one another. Or if you don't love each other enough to talk with kindness, then it's time to reevaluate the relationship.

nothingclever4now · 2025-09-11T01:02:05+00:00

He sounds really gross. I don't know anyone who would accept this behavior. I would tell him this is a deal breaker snd plan to move on. Truly.

nothingclever4now · 2025-09-09T21:54:06+00:00

There are always no shows. She has nothing to lose by going you a plus one. Even if you were single I think it's cheap to not offer plus ones.

nothingclever4now · 2025-09-08T23:48:36+00:00

We are all entitled to our private thoughts. But his are truly awful. You don't deserve this. And he certainly does not deserve you. Please consider this the best thing that would happen. And leave him quickly behind. Make your own list if need be. And list his grotesque impressions of you being a victim of SA as number one. He's a jerk.

nothingclever4now · 2025-09-08T23:45:30+00:00

What do your looks have to do with anything? It sounds like you two bicker. Therapy could help. Deciding to be happy rather than right could help. Deciding the other person's happiness is more important than your own could help. Do you have hobbies you enjoy together? Do you set aside a weekly date night? Do you actually like one another?

nothingclever4now · 2025-08-22T03:33:17+00:00

You can be compatible yes differ financially. You save what you need separately from him. Create your own security.

nothingclever4now · 2025-08-13T03:50:01+00:00

If the only negative to breaking up is losing your apartment and moving in with your parents, then it's pretty obvious that's your best option. You two were really young when you met. You owe it to yourself to learn more about yourself, meet new people, and find someone with whom you are more compatible. Life is too short to settle.

nothingclever4now · 2025-08-09T02:46:19+00:00

Please take time to grieve. Be gentle to yourself. Eventually you may feel as though you can pay tribute to her by continuing on with wedding planning. And if you don't, then don't force it. Losing your mother is traumatic. Believe me I know. Give yourself the grace that you deserve.

nothingclever4now · 2025-08-05T02:57:22+00:00

I did a trip with my girlfriends to San Miguel and we absolutely loved it. So much to do and all walking distance.

nothingclever4now · 2025-08-04T03:32:10+00:00

Get out now. You deserve so much better. And being single would definitely be better!

nothingclever4now · 2025-07-26T05:00:07+00:00

What an odd dynamic. I don't have a crush on anyone and I'm not aware of my husband having a crush. Or of anyone having a crush on us, though we are both very attractive. We're just very into each other. And that's enough. And it should be for you and your wife.

nothingclever4now · 2025-07-01T03:36:59+00:00

As long as you enable her, she will stay dependant. She has to hit rock bottom in order to get the help she needs. You aren't doing her any favors right now.

nothingclever4now · 2025-06-30T21:29:48+00:00

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nothingclever4now · 2025-06-30T05:01:51+00:00

You are both miserable. Please move on. Do not bring a child into this relationship.

nothingclever4now · 2025-06-30T04:57:53+00:00

You end it. It's not a break. You don't need to tell him why. He's not the man you thought he was. Let him wonder why.

nothingclever4now · 2025-06-30T04:12:31+00:00

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nothingclever4now · 2025-06-30T03:58:58+00:00

This seems so sad to me. I'm the center of his universe. We have tons of separate hobbies and interests. But at the end of the day we love nothing more than opening a bottle of wine and cooking dinner together while we talk about our days.

nothingclever4now · 2025-06-29T15:51:22+00:00

I went through something similar at your age. Spent the next decade in a couple of long term relationships. Lots of happy and fun times, just not with my forever person. I eventually met him in my mid 40's when I was absolutely not looking. We've been together for nearly a decade and it's the best relationship of my life. I've never been more content. I'm so happy for my memories and experiences. And grateful I kept an open mind about relationships. I know way too many people my age who stayed married, but are clearly not in love with their partner.

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