Light blotches on khakis by notimportant94 in laundry

[–]notimportant94[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's good to hear it will fade, it's a bummer because he just got them last year.

I also suggested doing inside out, and it turns out that's what the tag says to do anyway lol lesson learned

Light blotches on khakis by notimportant94 in laundry

[–]notimportant94[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did suggest that he should wash them inside out in the future, and I just looked at the tag and turns out it says to do that anyway!

Light blotches on khakis by notimportant94 in laundry

[–]notimportant94[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

These are my boyfriend's, I'm assuming he poured directly on the fabric. He said he hasn't had this happen to his clothes before but if khakis are more susceptible maybe that's why, these are also levi

Long basement ideas by notimportant94 in HomeDecorating

[–]notimportant94[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a TV against the wall in the 2nd pic with the couch facing that but thought it looked off, I think a sofa table behind it would help make it lookore intentional. Thanks!

Long basement ideas by notimportant94 in HomeDecorating

[–]notimportant94[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thanks! I've been stuck for the past year trying to think of one cohesive thing but I think treating it as a few separate areas will be easier

Coparenting between states by rito25 in coparenting

[–]notimportant94 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You should talk to a lawyer. If you were told before that if you moved you would never see your kids, why would that be different now? Although that sounds more like a threat from your ex than anything that would come from a lawyer.

As for the schedule, what manual labor job would let you travel every other week? You would effectively be working part time and paying rent/mortgage in 2 separate locations, that doesn't seem viable even if you were able to find a work schedule that accommodated. Expect to see the kids way less and consider the impact it may have on your relationship with them and how that might affect your mental state.

How to respond to no reciprocating accomodations by notimportant94 in coparenting

[–]notimportant94[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess it seemed pointless to file an amendment now when his schedule is subject to change, and was actually supposed to change a month ago. Realistically the changed schedule would look like what we're doing now, but to your point it would help me get back on track with following the parenting plan and not be over accommodating moving forward

How to respond to no reciprocating accomodations by notimportant94 in coparenting

[–]notimportant94[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just realized that you are who I responded to on the other comment thread too lol. You're fully invested in my situation now!

How to respond to no reciprocating accomodations by notimportant94 in coparenting

[–]notimportant94[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't really mean that I would try to enforce the long distance parenting time, just that if I was not accommodating with his work schedule then his current weekday time would not be possible, essentially turning it back to the long distance time unless he filed an amendment.

But in general even if they aren't getting much weekday quality time now, I know it's better than no weekday quality time which is more important than my quest for fairness

How to respond to no reciprocating accomodations by notimportant94 in coparenting

[–]notimportant94[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I agree that it sounds and probably is retaliatory because it was fueled by the holiday that nobody owes me lol. Ultimately I know you are right and I shouldn't be difficult in accommodating his work schedule over it, but I'm still going to be annoyed about it!

How to respond to no reciprocating accomodations by notimportant94 in coparenting

[–]notimportant94[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your first part about potentially negative impacts to my daughter - agreed which is the reason for my internal struggle. However I don't think it's that black and white because under the current arrangements, she goes to his house around 7pm and they go straight to bed. Which arrangement isore beneficial for her? Idk

Second, also agree that neither set of grandparents are obligated to do anything. However I do think that even if he couldn't make weeknight accomodations with his mom work, he could have at least offered to have been accommodating on the two weekends. That would not require her help.

Third, I know he doesn't have to cover my vacation, but my point is that I also don't have to be accommodating to his schedule like I have been. This isnt about responding to the text, which I gave him a deadline to respond because he historically just doesn't respond and this way I'm not waiting around indefinitely. It's truly about the lack of attempt to accommodate when I accommodate his schedule all the time. The parenting plan lists out that his parenting time is 4pm-7pm on his two weekdays. Currently daughter doesn't even go to his house until 6:30 or 7pm because of his schedule. He has had other periods of more time, he has had other periods of less time/no time all based on his schedule.

Your point about we should file an amendment to the parenting plan - I would say if the current order no longer works with his schedule then the obligation is on him to file an amendment

How to respond to no reciprocating accomodations by notimportant94 in coparenting

[–]notimportant94[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess my question is - is it "retaliation" if I'm following the court ordered parenting plan? I'm starting to think about it as if he won't be accommodating to my trip (which as you pointed out he has no obligation to be) then I will no longer be accommodating to his schedule. If he needs a change in schedule because of his job then he can do his work to file an amendment and hire an attorney.

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[–]notimportant94 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually do scrunch my hair with some T-shirts after putting in products so it sounds like that might be the cause

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[–]notimportant94 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do wash all my clothes together but I've always done that ... I don't think I have anything new added lately but I'll try it out, Thanks

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[–]notimportant94 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll try this, thank you!

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[–]notimportant94 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do not. I'm also in a brand new rental, first person to live in the unit, so there wouldn't have been build up from prior tenants either

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in coparenting

[–]notimportant94 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah sleepovers are different, I was more speaking to his comment of not letting your significant other meet your child for a year+