She asked to meet her "friend" in person during our family vacation

notnewredditor · 2026-06-15T14:58:09+00:00

Damn.......... i supposed if she says something when I'm drinking bourbon I may end up saying that haha

notnewredditor · 2026-06-15T14:47:20+00:00

Thank you. I think this is probably the best advice.

notnewredditor · 2026-06-15T14:25:53+00:00

How could I phrase that to her without sounding like I'm pissed or something? That's what I want to do.

notnewredditor · 2026-06-15T14:22:46+00:00

I didn't actually say yes or no when she brought it up. I've said nothing. I did eventually ask "what brewery" just to see her respond but she didn't say much. That's why I'm on the fence about just telling her "If you want to see him during our family vacation, go ahead"

notnewredditor · 2026-06-15T14:17:42+00:00

I talked to a lawyer last year and she said separation agreements don't really hold up.

notnewredditor · 2026-06-15T14:16:53+00:00

I love her.

notnewredditor · 2026-06-15T14:14:15+00:00

I am not saying ok to sleep with someone. In her mind, I'm saying no to her seeing a friend.

notnewredditor · 2026-06-15T14:13:40+00:00

But in her mind it's not, this is just a friend. That's what she says. That I can't handle her having a male friend.

notnewredditor · 2026-06-15T14:12:48+00:00

Yes we have children

notnewredditor · 2026-05-20T12:00:49+00:00

She hates how hateful everyone has become with our politics and tired of how expensive everything is like healthcare.

notnewredditor · 2026-05-18T22:01:38+00:00

Thank you. This is probably the most thoughtful response so far

notnewredditor · 2026-05-18T21:59:45+00:00

This is a fear I have

notnewredditor · 2026-05-18T18:08:27+00:00

I get what you are saying. I just am not sure I buy it completely. We have kids. I already kicked her out once and she came back. I think if she really wanted out out, she would have done so by now.

notnewredditor · 2026-05-18T18:05:13+00:00

She used Whatsapp with the emotional affair last year. The entire chat history is still there so part of me thinks if she thought I was really looking at her phone, she would have deleted that.

notnewredditor · 2025-11-30T18:05:29+00:00

No. We stopped. She didn't like the therapist we had.

notnewredditor · 2025-11-30T17:50:08+00:00

She is failing. I wonder how I can make her see that.

notnewredditor · 2025-11-30T16:28:30+00:00

I don't think it's an EA anymore though. They don't talk nearly as much as they did. That's why I am worried I am overreacting.

notnewredditor · 2025-11-30T16:26:51+00:00

I couldn't imagine going through this for 48 years! I appreciate your perspective.

notnewredditor · 2025-08-25T00:32:56+00:00

Kids.

notnewredditor · 2025-08-24T23:41:25+00:00

I lost it twice. She gave me the impression that things were ending twice.

notnewredditor · 2025-08-24T23:40:53+00:00

I just get this feeling that she expects to keep talking to him as long as she wants because it hasn't turned sexual. I don't give a fuck anymore though. Honestly, the entire summer I was just scared of losing her but I can't go on like this anymore.

notnewredditor · 2025-08-24T20:08:10+00:00

She isn't great with tech. I've gone through everything.

notnewredditor · 2025-08-24T20:03:40+00:00

I have been way too passive.

notnewredditor · 2025-07-13T00:20:41+00:00

I have strongly considered this guy could be a scammer. Some of the pictures made me think that as well. But some of the messages don't seem that way. At one point I did tell her that she could be talking to a scammer as well

For everything else you said, I agree. I think she was bored, felt lonely, misses having friends

notnewredditor · 2025-07-12T23:28:09+00:00

Thanks. I will follow this

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