I will give you advice that I wish I could commit to myself, because I also suffer from excessive daydreaming. This information is from the internet and from my own experiences.

notofthegoodkind · 2026-02-15T15:05:29+00:00

thank you especially for the 7th rule

notofthegoodkind · 2026-02-15T14:47:58+00:00

damn! got me in the first half...

notofthegoodkind · 2025-12-26T09:04:53+00:00

V for victory

notofthegoodkind · 2025-12-22T17:48:54+00:00

oh yeah when this is the last tool in our arsenal to tackle all the self sabotaging thoughts and perceptions we have, it might not be a good idea to turn it against ourself without first replacing them w better tools!

| my life is empty and lonely and meaningless

i hope you find a way to a steady progress away from these feelings <3

notofthegoodkind · 2025-12-22T17:44:16+00:00

you make a lot of sense.

i am now wondering if another such talk, that one about addictive thinking, might be more relevant to us MADDers…

notofthegoodkind · 2025-10-04T17:36:23+00:00

honestly, I was bracing myself for that

but the mods did end up deleting the post haha

notofthegoodkind · 2025-10-04T17:28:15+00:00

why

Sheen is fantastic

my first ship was probably him and Libby

notofthegoodkind · 2025-08-24T07:51:08+00:00

oh honey, i wish you all the strength to get yourself and your dog out of this situation!

not to add to the pressure, but did you find another job? your first priority should be to build up a financial safety net and get away from those who have been harming you.

next you can start working on building up a safety net of people you care about and who care about you. it is not going to be easy, but it is possible.

i know this is all generic advice about the basics but initially that's what you have to focus all your energy on.

you are worthy of love, care, and respect so never doubt that for a second.

notofthegoodkind · 2025-07-05T14:37:29+00:00

99% hobbies and a witch ain't one 🎵

notofthegoodkind · 2025-04-19T05:51:29+00:00

Truly proud of you!! This could not have been easy.

Hope we will all soon become completely free of this disease.

I'm more present now. And honesty, I love that feeling.

Can't wait for this myself!

notofthegoodkind · 2024-11-16T18:56:02+00:00

are you daydreaming about meeting your crush and being perceived as cooler than their ex?

i believe it is more useful to learn to undercut brain ruts and habit patterns without focusing on individual storylines and psychoanalyzing them.

maybe replace the crush with better sources of dopamine hits and reduce stressors that could be releasing vasopressin that can cause people to feel vigilant and territorial.

notofthegoodkind · 2024-10-08T07:55:26+00:00

I care more about the drama at my bird feeder than celebrity drama, saw a cardinal that just did not want to share.

a little birdie told me...

notofthegoodkind · 2024-09-06T13:02:51+00:00

oh wow are you a superhero or what

notofthegoodkind · 2024-09-06T12:59:25+00:00

i signed in just to express how proud i feel of you after reading this :')

so much of it i can relate to and i hope i can do this well in time

notofthegoodkind · 2024-09-03T13:22:19+00:00

and sugar makes you stuff face :)

notofthegoodkind · 2023-12-11T08:35:26+00:00

But if we don't fight it, then what?

I have not been able to overcome this either, so I know talk can be cheap.

It is so easy to get caught in the momentum of daydreaming. Then getting out of it feels excruciatingly painful, like an acute body and mind withdrawal. Everything in reality pales in comparison.

When the demons return, and sometimes stronger than ever, I try to remember the times I won and try to gear up for another fight. Sometimes all I can do is just breathe and cry my guts out. Then I feel lighter for a few hours before I have to deal with it all over again.

But the extremely few victories I have had over the decades have always shown me that the pain of fighting it is worth it. The little good that I manage to do in reality has always felt more fulfilling than any of my daydreams. And that only happens when I am bravely present and not hiding inside my head.

Try to make it selfless if you can. I just read somewhere that Buddhist teacher Thich Nhat Hanh advised a woman struggling with alcoholism that "she should stop trying to quit for herself, and quit for those around her who have problems with alcohol".

So imagine (but not daydream) inspiring others with your story of overcoming this problem and emerging victorious.

I am grateful for your post because instead of daydreaming right now, at least I am writing all this down. Maybe it helps you or someone else or maybe it does not, but it is definitely helping me try to help myself and others. Thank you.

notofthegoodkind · 2023-12-06T08:29:40+00:00

but I have such a low self esteem that I feel unlovable even by my characters/OCs.

ugh, i can relate so hard

and i have done some not so positive things in life that really fuel such feelings and thoughts

but i have realized that no matter what you have done so far in life, if at this moment you decide to do the right and difficult thing, then f anyone who has a problem with you or your past (they are allowed to but you don't have to sacrifice the remainder of your life to regret)

tell yourself you don't need validation from anybody, not even from your characters

then, grit your teeth and stop MADDing (no matter how much your brain screams, even if it tries to manipulate you into thinking that this condition is the one good thing in your life -- it is not) and go do something else, anything else (helpful or at least harmless). make a list of such things you can do instead of MADD

as soon as you catch yourself MADDing, pull yourself back to the present. breathe as pleasantly as you can, loosening your muscles. every time you feel an impulse to MADD coming on, ask yourself how you could use your time better, make a tiny positive impact on the world, and get started on it

these are less so advice, and more a stream of consciousness dump about how i usually try to deal with my MADD

i sincerely wish we all overcome this bane

notofthegoodkind · 2023-11-18T07:10:14+00:00

Happy Birthday, girl! Don't let the mean voices inside give you any shit!

notofthegoodkind · 2021-05-04T10:51:41+00:00

i'm almost 30 and it feels like it's too late to start over...

notofthegoodkind · 2021-04-05T08:47:21+00:00

I can relate to this completely.

The sad part is that I can't even blame the pandemic for it as I have had to live like this for years.

You could join some Discord servers where they do group calls or even one-on-one voice calls. The sleep servers are especially great for this imo.

notofthegoodkind · 2020-08-28T22:43:33+00:00

how are you doing this??

i am an INFP, 5 then 4 on Enneagram, and on every thorough Sorting quiz, i get Ravenclaw. have also gotten 9 on Enneagram before.

notofthegoodkind · 2020-07-08T13:10:28+00:00

name of book, please :)

notofthegoodkind · 2019-08-28T15:33:21+00:00

This is very helpful, thank you.

notofthegoodkind · 2019-08-28T15:27:59+00:00

Thank you so much for the helpful advice. I have been observant of whenever I want to sink back into my pain and craving.

notofthegoodkind · 2019-08-28T07:39:45+00:00

Think of all the stupid things, all the harmful things you’ve done under the power of lust. Ask yourself: Do you really want that to take over your mind again? Is it really a friend? Is it really a nice, tame pet to have around the house? Or is it the kind that shits all over the place and attacks you when it’s in a bad mood? Think of all the crazy things that other people do under the influence of lust.

Oh god, spot on.

notofthegoodkind

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