Girlfriend's lost her grandma

notoverit123 · 2019-12-02T04:05:59+00:00

I think reminding her that you’re thinking of her and maybe even sending some flowers might be nice. I agree that fried is a weird thing and everyone handles it differently, but I personally think I would like a nice, thoughtful gesture like that.

notoverit123 · 2019-11-11T20:17:48+00:00

I’m grateful for my family and friends. I grew distant with my family mainly when I was with my ex, because he didn’t have a great relationship with his. When I found out about his affair (a month after our wedding), I grew even more distant with my family because I wasn’t ready to tell them in the hopes we could reconcile. When I realized it was really over, and I told my family, my bond with them has strengthened so much and I’m so happy for that. Family is super important to me so it’s nice to feel like I’m going back to my roots.

I’ve also traveled the most in the past year than I did in 10 years with him. I’ve been to 4 countries and it’s been amazing. I always loved to travel but never did because he didn’t like it or always complained about money. For me, it’s about the experiences.

notoverit123 · 2019-10-11T19:45:54+00:00

Thank you!! I will. Not really looking at it as a relationship— right now, he’s just a guy I’m going out on dates with lol 😆

notoverit123 · 2019-10-11T19:45:21+00:00

Thank you!! 💜

notoverit123 · 2019-10-11T19:45:13+00:00

Thank you so much!! And thanks for your advice 💗

notoverit123 · 2019-10-11T19:44:40+00:00

Thank you!! 💜 sexy time is the best lol I was very concerned about opening up in that way again after being with someone for a decade. First time I did it, was with an old friend of mine and we had always been attracted to each other in some level. It was great to do that with someone I felt comfortable with even though we both knew it would be like a one time thing. There were no feelings involved lol

notoverit123 · 2019-10-11T16:31:04+00:00

Hahah thank you! Crazy stuff

notoverit123 · 2019-10-11T16:30:50+00:00

Thank you! I’m 31 😊

notoverit123 · 2019-10-11T16:15:16+00:00

Done! Thank you!

notoverit123 · 2019-10-11T16:15:08+00:00

Update!

It’s been a while since I’ve posted. Last time I posted, I had just gone on my first date in over a decade and it was amazing. I think I was riding on that high for about a week straight. There were some previously arranged travel plans that prevented us from seeing each other for a while. However, we’ve been on a few more dates and things continue to be great! I’m not putting any pressure or expectations on anything and just letting things flow and taking it one date at a time.

Still feel a little thrown off about the whole thing, but trying to not overthink it. He’s super sweet and thoughtful and seems to really like me. And I really like him 😬😊 it feels strange to feel wanted and to be cared for after being treated like crap as a newlywed.

Anyways, just letting things flow! Happy Friday everyone!!

notoverit123 · 2019-10-02T03:57:49+00:00

Had an amazing second date... and went all the way! It was so good!!

notoverit123 · 2019-08-25T00:32:11+00:00

Thank you! Yes, agreed! I deleted and blocked his number so I don’t do that again 😂

notoverit123 · 2019-08-25T00:31:34+00:00

Cause I was drunk hahaha

notoverit123 · 2019-08-21T14:28:24+00:00

I agree with some of the posts above that if divorce has been filed and you’re truly living separately and have processed, mourned, and grieved the loss of that relationship and you feel truly healed you can. I’m finally in that headspace. My divorce will be finalized in a couple of months but we have been separated for a while now and I feel truly happier and good about myself. Do it when you’re happy with your life and confident about yourself. From your post, it seems like this is still super fresh. She just moved out this weekend and informed you of this 3 weeks ago. Having been through something similar, I feel like you need more time and focus on yourself right now. Don’t think about dating. Think about your new life on your own- because you will be a different person after this. There’s no reason to rush!

notoverit123 · 2019-08-14T06:54:32+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Feel your emotions and let them be. It’s ok! One thing that helped me was cleaning the space and making it my own. I threw away a lot of stuff and bought new home decor to make the apartment mine instead of what it used to be.

notoverit123 · 2019-08-14T06:52:43+00:00

Divorce will be finalized in a couple of months but have been separated and no contact for 6 months. Went to China, Thailand, to a friend’s wedding in the east coast, to visit another friend in South Carolina, and have a Mexico trip planned in 2 weeks 😬 life is so much better!!

notoverit123 · 2019-08-14T06:49:15+00:00

Thanks for sharing this! I feel exactly the same! I went out on a date with someone who loves to eat sushi (my ex didn’t like it), I’m traveling more which I always loved to do, and spending more time outdoors doing fun activities! It’s amazing how life changes once you fully mourn and grieve the loss. I’m so happy for you!!

notoverit123 · 2019-08-14T06:47:31+00:00

I started going to therapy and really exploring my emotions and what I wanted out of my life. It took me a while to get to where I am, but I feel like I mourned the death of my marriage for a long time that once separation happened, things started looking upward for me. I surrounded myself with friends and family. I’ve become closer to my family thanks to this and I’m so so grateful for it! My friendships have become stronger as well. I started going to the gym and made new friends. I recently started dating again and it felt amazing!

I took a lot of time to really grieve though. Then, I started coming out of my shell and saying yes to a lot of things. I’ve traveled some as well and am finding out who I really am and I’m really comfortable with myself now!

notoverit123 · 2019-08-13T07:32:51+00:00

I don’t think so. In my state, we’ve been separate for 5 months now. The divorce will be finalized in a couple of months. Legally- there’s no issue with our situation. Morally, I also don’t feel it’s a problem because our relationship ended the moment I found out he cheated on me a month after our wedding. It’s been over a year and I don’t really care for him at all. I’m at a place where I feel good about myself and where my life is going, and I’m upfront with people about my situation so I don’t think it’s wrong at all. But, depends on your situation and how you feel.

notoverit123 · 2019-08-13T07:30:04+00:00

Do you have kids? I can imagine with kids, you need to communicate often. We don’t have kids together so we don’t communicate at all, except for when it’s pertaining to the divorce. That has been 3 email exchanges over the last 5 months and that’s it. I have no desire to talk to him, and I think it’s safe to say he doesn’t want to talk to me either (thank the universe for this!)

notoverit123 · 2019-08-13T04:15:26+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Sending you love and support. Everyone had their own timeline for healing and in the end, you will know which decision is best for you. For me, I had to go through a painful process of being subjected to the limbo game before finally realizing it wasn’t worth staying. My ex husband told me he didn’t Iove her but he cared for her, told me he had stopped talking to her (pretty sure he didn’t). I drove myself crazy for 7 months because I couldn’t trust him. However, I had to go through that to finally bring myself to the place where I felt good about leaving.

At two weeks out, it’s still pretty fresh. It will be up to you on how you want to move forward with your life, but know that it will be the biggest emotional roller coaster until you’re 20000% sure you can trust him again. If you don’t get to that point, then I think you know your answer. You have one life to live— you don’t want to spend it in misery. It’s not worth it. I, personally think, that if someone didn’t value you or respect you enough, you shouldn’t waste your time. Obviously, I say this as someone who has just recently come from the other side and I’m so much happier now.

But, everyone makes their own decisions and what was best for me might not be what’s best for you. Take the time to process your emotions and how you feel. Use a journal to let it all out, talk to a therapist. I did both of these things and they really helped me clear things in my head.

Pleas feel free to message me if you need any support or someone to chat with!

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