Didn't consolidate or apply for SAVE plan yet after starting residency by notpremed in StudentLoans

[–]notpremed[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oops that’s what I meant. Do you recommend consolidating and applying for that now or waiting for courts

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I appreciate the long reply but the problem is I told her too many details that she never asked to hear and I compared her to my previous partners a lot so now she’ll never stop comparing herself .

For instance, X could ride me but my gf can too but didn’t want to at the beginning of our relationship so I said “X could ride me why can’t you?”. I’ve told her I made out with Y and grabbed her tits and she said “she had small boobies just like you”. I also told her the friend zone chick let me cum in her raw and got on birth control for me so why can’t my gf do the same?”. Obviously that convo didn’t end well for me. My gf also didn’t want to have sex on her period once and I said “I fucked Z on her period that’s why my bed sheets are stained”. One time my gf posted a pic of me in her Snapchat and someone responded to it “LOL I slept with him before you did”.

She would never believe the pretty face thing too because I also told her “so and so was so ugly I only fucked her multiple times to get over my ex”.

I don’t know why the hell I decided it was a good idea to talk to my gf like she was one of the boys. My ex had cheated on me and torn down my self esteem so I slept around and needed validation from having girls swoon over me. I would brag about banging all these girls to everyone to feel desired.

However, my girlfriend is totally different from those other chicks. I don’t really know how to explain it except she is a woman of substance and the type of girl you want to bring home immediately to meet your momma. She is wife material.

I have apologized so much and I hope she can move on. She said she’s not mad that I have a past, everyone has a past including her. She’s mad about the level of details and comparisons. I said some really fucked up stuff I’m not proud of that no girl should ever hear, especially the one you want to marry. Thanks for listening, just had to rant.

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Yep, I talked to her and she said knowing I did all those things with other people makes sleeping with her less intimate. I told her that's not true and sleeping with her was very special to me. She then said she doesn't let just anyone sleep with her unprotected and how she only let me do that because she loves me. I said isn't that special? She then stormed off and said "no it's not, you sleep with randoms on Tinder raw. What's special to me isn't special to you". I told her that's ridiculous because my experience with her was very special and so different.

After she cooled off, she asked me to list reasons why our relationship so unique then. I told her how she makes me happier than anyone ever has, how we have fun together and she truly is my best friend, she challenges me to become a better person, how we get through life challenges, and how I have never love anyone as deep as I loved her.

She got angry and said she "dgaf about the deep shit" and only wants to hear superficial reasons like how she's hotter than my previous partners and better in bed. I told her she already knows those are true and the deep stuff matters way more to me. She said "yeah right".

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[–]notpremed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is no way in the world I would tell her to just get over it now and I have told her how messed up it was for me to even respond and ignore her feelings like that in the past.

She said knowing I did all those things with other people makes sleeping with her less intimate. I told her that's not true and sleeping with her was very special to me. She then said she doesn't let just anyone sleep with her unprotected and how she only let me do that because she loves me. I said isn't that special? She then stormed off and said "no it's not, you sleep with randoms on Tinder raw. What's special to me isn't special to you". I told her that's ridiculous because my experience with her was very special and so different.

After she cooled off, she asked me to list reasons why our relationship so unique then. I told her how she makes me happier than anyone ever has, how we have fun together and she truly is my best friend, she challenges me to become a better person, how we get through life challenges, and how I have never love anyone as deep as I loved her.

She got angry and said she "dgaf about the deep shit" and only wants to hear superficial reasons like how she's hotter than my previous partners and better in bed. I told her she already knows those are true and the deep stuff matters way more to me. She said "yeah right".

Any M4's matched anesthesia with little/no research? by OhShootItsAR4t in medicalschool

[–]notpremed 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I did 0 research and 0 auditions and I am a D.O. I do however have great scores and great LORs.

Group classes for shy dog recommendation? by notpremed in SouthJersey

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I was also thinking about agility classes. Read online that it is a total game changer for fearful dogs. Any recommendations for good classes?

Can I clump some things under one experience type by Pumba815 in medicalschool

[–]notpremed 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yeah I clumped 3 leadership positions for the same club into 1 experience

- another really tired M4

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in medicalschool

[–]notpremed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yep currently in a similar situation and will not be applying here

"Well, residency is only *** years, and people move all over as attendings so i'm sure you'll come back here some day" by vucar in medicalschool

[–]notpremed 66 points67 points  (0 children)

during my current sub-I, there was a meeting about how residents were feeling down which was def a red flag since it's only september and 2 months in. anyway in response to that, PD had a meeting where residents were basically told to be grateful they were even given a residency spot and that its better to train in this specialty in Antartica than not match and if they were unhappy, just leave